1St Fathers Day! - Draper,UT

We spend Father's Day as a family and then usually go out on a date night a few days later as a nice present to let him know he's a great dad!

Mother's and Father's days are both holiday on which we all celebrate the important roles played by EVERY Mother and Father important to us.

On Mother's Day, dads typically organize the kids to bring mom breakfast in bed, present her with something meaningful (usually something hand-made) and take over the chores for the day. Mom usually gets a dinner out on the town with the whole family and an early bedtime for the kids so some special alone time can be spent with dad.

(That being said, my husband, dad and brother-in-law ALL dropped the ball this year - really it was sad and hurtful to all of us and the kids weren't any better, so my mom, sister and I are thinking about leaving the kids with husbands next Mother's Day and going to the Bahamas for the weekend! lol!)

Same thing for Father's Day, only more tailored to men and what they're interested in.

I also send Mother's and Father's Day cards to all of the moms and dads in our family (flowers to our two mothers as well). Parents, Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles, siblings etc... just to let them all know that we're thinking of them and of how important they all are to our family.

Hope this helps.

Hello S.,
Since your boyfriend is part of your life and your child's think about what you did for your father.
We have now several new father's and their wives want that special day for them we celebrate it the week before or after with all the men in the family and the women do the BBQ and each dad gets a gag gift. Last year I had each child read part of a poem we wrote about POPS-- and presented them with Sugar pops, lollypops, pops concert tickets, and so on it was alot of fun. This year I think we are going to pick a different theme and do something simular. We also recognize the father's that have died and honor them, and any Military father's that are away we make a movie of the day and have thier picture in a chair so they are part of things and send it to them.
Make it fun and if he doesn't recognize you on mother's day then don't do anything --- he will remember the next time!

We celebrate as a whole family on both Mother's & Father's Day. On Father's Day we typically plan an activity that Dad really likes.... such as fishing, boating, etc. Pack a good picnic lunch and make a day out of it. I am not all about buying the hallmark cards, but instead help my kids make him cards or pictures. You can do this with an infant as well by doing a handprint or footprint painting, which doubles as a great keepsake or piece to add to a scrapbook.

I think this is an opportunity to set up your own traditions! I always like the whole family celebrating either Mom or Dad.
S.

It is called "Fathers" Day because it is about the relationship of a Dad with his Children...not about a Husband and WIfe ....that being said, we always make it a "family day" but we try and tailor the activities to the "guest of honor". Our children are grown now and two of them have children of their own, so sometimes it is just hubby and I on Mothers Day or Fathers Day. We still get gifts for each other ( and even one of those cheesy Hallmark cards!! lol) but the highlights of the days always revolve around our children and grandchildren.
I don't know what your relationship is with your Fiancee's Father, but I would tend to let your Fiancee lead in what you want to do. If he gets a card and gift, there is no reason that it couldn't be from both of you. Maybe you could get a nice Fathers Day Card ( or even a "thank you card if you can't find a Fathers Day card that seems appropriate) and write a note in it thanking him for being such a wonderful Dad and raising such a fabulous son!!!
Most of all, relax, don't stress out about this, just follow your fiancees lead and enjoy!!

We make it a whole family day. :)

I asked my husband last year what he wanted for his first father's day. He responded that some beer and a chance to watch the Cubs game by himself would make him happy. So, we did that. But, we also spent some of the day as a family.

In answer to your question, no, it's not like an anniversary. It's a day to recognize your fiance for being a dad. Ask him what he would like to do. I'm sure he'd appreciate it.

For both Mothers and Fathers day we treat it as a family celebration.

Our boys are still young, so I'll help them buy or make a card for their dad, and then we get him some kind of present. Nothing big - one year money was really tight so I just printed up a cute poem about fathers, added some pictures of my husband with our son, and framed it; this year we're getting him a coffee mug and hat from his favorite band. For Mothers day my husband usually takes the boys to pick out a bouquet of flowers for me, and maybe get a small present.

Then we let the special person pick what we do for the day - usually go out to lunch, then something fun like going to the park, taking a hike, going to a movie, etc.

We just try to keep the day focused on our family, and just enjoy being together. And the grandparents don't live near us, so I send them a card from our boys for "Grandmothers Day" or "Grandfathers Day", but if they did we would probably include them in our day too.

Just try to have fun!

We make the day about my husband. He gets to do what he wants but as a family. We get him a little something and a card. Same with Mother's day was all about me. I got to choose what we did as a family, so we went to the zoo and enjoyed the day, then went to dinner later in the evening. So let your finance choose what he would like to do as a family. Good luck.

In our family, we usually do something (like a small gift, cards, etc) for my husband, and then we spend the day doing something together as a family. For mother's day, same - kids/husband will give me something and we'll do something together that day. Our kids are getting big enough that they now make or buy presents themselves much of the time. You didn't say how old your child is, but if it's your Fiance's first father's day and I'm correct in assuming your child is just 1, then you might need to help out a bit with a gift/card. I think that taking Dad out for breakfast or doing anything special that recognizes him is great though, so just do anything that appeals to your family as special. Enjoy!!!

I've always felt it was day for family. Since it is his first father's day it probably won't make to big of a difference as far as your child goes, so I would just ask your fiance what it is he wants to do. I can tell you an experience when I was 16, I drove all my siblings up to my dad's house for father's day, and we hadn't even been there an hour when my stepmom told us we had to leave because she was taking my dad at for a father's day dinner, and since we weren't fathers we weren't included. I was HEARTBROKEN. I couldn't believe that we weren't able to spend time with our Dad, who we only spent every other weekend with anyways, on Father's day. So as your child gets older, keep that in mind.