Does Your Husband Give You a Mother's Day Gift?

I bought myself two strawberry bushes. I will also go spend about 50 on annuals sometime soon.

So yes, hubby gives me a Mother's Day present every year ---I buy myself plants for the yard.

I buy him whiskey for Father's Day.

My birthday is on Mother's day (this year) so I am cheated each year. I get one celebration, however, I can get what I want and I am the budget person, so I am responsible for whatever I don't have.

I have heard men say that they only get their mother a gift. I will guess those are the men that miss a lot of other points.

I wondered when the posts about Mother's Day were going to start.

My ex never gave me a gift because I wasn't his mom. No big deal to me because I wasn't. He always helped my kids get me something nice, but mostly we just did something all together. Gifts are not important to me. Time with my kids is.

YES! Every Mother's Day for the last 40 years I have given my wife a card and presents for mother's day. Why? Because I wanted to honor the mother of my children. (I also gave my mother a card and sometimes a present to honor my mother.)

I only spent one Mother's Day away from her since we were married and I asked and got permission to spend that mother's day with my mom. It was the last Mother's Day my mom lived to see.

Good luck to you and yours.

Sometimes he does it just depends on our finances. But my dad was one of those that when I asked what he was getting my mom said nothing she's not my mother. Men!!!!!!!!!

I am surprised that the number is so small. I feel that while he needs to do something for his mum, I am also special, the mother of his children (who are too young to do something on their own so they need daddy's help). Fortunately, he feels the same way and I don't have to ask, beg, guilt, or whatever. In reverse, Jeremy is not my dad, but he is so important as the father of my children. And he does a great job, he's a great dad, and my kids are blessed more than they know to have him as a dad. SO even though he's not MY dad, we celebrate him on father's day too!

I don't really get GIFTS very often (except flowers and a card from the kids and a sweet or sarcastic one from him), but we do something special. Sometimes we go to church and a brunch. Sometimes he sneaks the kids out and lets me "sleep" in and brings home breakfast (I don't sleep in but like the sentiment and enjoy being lazy), he's gotten up to make my favorite breakfast that we only have a few times a year and then sent me to the spa or for a pedicure, sometimes we do an event like a child-friendly play (we love theater), the zoo, or a picnic and activity in the park, whatever. This year, we're going to 6 Flags: a 3-family event with friends. It's going to be a lot of fun, can't wait. For gifts in the past, I've gotten a softball glove, a day at the shooting range, a photography class in a nature preserve, that kind of thing. Love those things! We don't go for just boring gifts for the sake of gift giving, but we do try to make mothers/fathers/whatever holidays special and about the person they're for.

No, he doesn't give me a gift nor do I want/expect one. I'm not his mother - plus it's a hallmark holiday, and I don't acknowledge those.

Yes my husband gives me a card and a gift. While I am not his mother, I am the mother of his children and he appreciates that. I also give him a card and gift for fathers day. Without him, I would not be a mommy! =)

That number is very surprising. All of my friends get cards and gifts from there husbands. Wow!

Nope. The concept of Mother's Day is literally foreign to him, and he barely recognizes it for his own mother. I don't feel bad that he doesn't observe it, but since American culture is my first culture, I DO recognize Father's Day for him, and make darn sure that my kids are very excited about it.

That sounds about right. Men aren't usually very good gift givers anyway, especially after they're married.
I DO expect my husband to at least CALL his mother on Mother's Day, but I always have to remind him.
I loved the handmade cards, pictures and breakfasts in bed that my kids did for me when they were little. It came from their hearts and hands, and to me, that's what "Mother's Day" is all about.
I think it's nice when husbands are thoughtful, and do something special for their wives, but I would never expect it.

Yes, both he and my son give me a card and a gift.... It's usually something practical that I may have wanted..

Mine helps the kids make me a craft of some kind. Hes not very artsy, so its usually pretty funny.

Yes, but its usually of my choosing, even if its breakfast and coffee in bed - my most favorite thing to do ever! Peace and quiet and caffeine...can't get any better than that for me.

Yes, my hubs works hard with my two girls to make the day special.

I'm not his mother so I don't think he should get me a gift. He does help the children get something for me since they are only 5 and 3.

A few weeks before mother's day, I remind my husband that holidays are important to me, that it's going to be mother's day, and that I'd like him to help the girls with whatever it is they want to do. 'Cause they're little, they can't do it by themselves yet, and it's important to me that if/when they're moms, they feel supported and recognized. Part of that is helping them support and recognize their mom, me, when their kids.
My husband isn't a natural born holiday maker. He doesn't remember days and just doesn't think that way. That's okay. He was like that when I married him. He's willing to try and I'm willing to help him try :-)

i get spoiled on mother's day! even more so now that the dang kids have moved out.
life is good.
:) khairete
S.

Um, no. I don't think of it as a gift giving holiday for spouses. It was only a gift giving holiday for us when I was a child. Since then, I send my mom a card. DH and DS get me a card. DS makes me something as well (he is 7).

Why do we only have to get our mother a gift for mothers day? I think any mother can be celebrated. My husband does get me a gift, usually one I picked out.

Yes he does. I'm not his mother but I'm a mother....so absolutely I want my gift. hehe
Actually today I got myself an early Mother's Day gift to myself . My sinful splurge was this adorable black purse..compliments of my husband. He'll get me a sweet card like he does every year and take me out to my favorite restaurant.
Wow, that 6% is surprising to me.

My husband does give me a gift on Mothers Day, but I either tell him exactly what to get me and where to get it, or I buy it myself and tell him what he got me. I always get exactly what I want!

We don't do specific "gifts" for Mother's Day (or any other holiday). If we need or want something during the year we just buy it.

Those days are recognized though. On Mother's Day, it is our tradition to go to the wonderful brunch at our country club. We've done this for years. I don't expect gifts. I enjoy a great brunch with hubby and daughter and that is fantastic for me!

My husband will generally get me flowers and a card - some years he's gotten me a small gift as well, usually jewelry. Interestingly, his mother doesn't have a super-close relationship with any of her adult children, and while he does something for me for Mother's Day, he doesn't bother doing anything for her! It's always up to me to find her a card, make sure it gets mailed on time, maybe do a bouquet of flowers sent to her house, etc.!

Yes. He and DD usually work together to make the day special for me. They've cleaned the house from top to bottom while I watched movies all day. They've planted flowers and herb gardens for me. They've cooked a special dinner for me. They've bought small and big gifts for me (usually small and thoughtful). I think if you asked my husband, he'd say he's honoring me because I'm the mother of his child. I'm obviously not his mother and I resent it when men say they don't need to do anything special for their wives on Mother's day because she's not his mother. Well, she's the mother of his children and should be treated to something special. Just my 2 cents.

My husband and I aren't very gifty. I think he knows I expect some sort of recognition though. We usually get ourselves something practical we know we want/need and call that the present. This year I told him I wanted to make more smoothies and I should get a blender. Then he had a day off the other day, so I handed him the store coupons and said "why don't you go get my blender". I came home to a wrapped box. I know its my blender but I'll still wait til next weekend to open it.

BTW, he also went and bought a BBQ for himself that evening, which we need, and had planned on... For his fathers day gift. Which is about 5 times as much as my blender costs! But whatever. We'll all be enjoying the smoothies and grilled dinners equally :)

Yes, my husband does. I am the mother of his children and he loves me and appreciates me. He also makes sure that my kids do little cards for me.
I am stunned that it is only 6%!

Yes, usually flowers and something useful. I love useful! I'm hoping for a drain spade for easier plant transferring. He took me to buy new pans in previous years and I've exhausted that option.:)

Kind of sad that guys don't understand that it's nice to honor the mother of their children. We did have to do that whole 'gestation and birthing' thing, the 'nursing till your boobs fall off' thing, the miles of dirty diapers and sleepless nights thing....

And my husband most certainly gets something from me for Father's Day. He helped to give me the light of my life, our son. And I send my step-mother a card every year, too. She's put the time in...

Normally he does, but not always. It depends on our financial goals and the situation each year. Same for him on Father's Day. I am more crafty with the kids then he is, but still. We usually celebrate the day by spending time with family. That's what is most important to both of us.

So I don't expect any kind of gift, but I'm usually surprised with something.

He takes the kids to pick something out or ask them what they want to get me. When they were little technically yes he bought me gifts. But the gifts have never been "from" him.

I'm not his mom! His Fathers Day gift is not "from" me either.

We do exchange cards but not gifts.

Ummmmmmmm, he wants a fathers day gift, so he better get me a mothers day gift!!!

Yes, every year.

We don't go out to eat because it is way too busy. We usually have our families over to celebrate with our mothers.

M

IHOP for breakfast and he brings it home so I don't have to get dressed, and a nail appointment for my daughter and I.

I overheard his mom trying to deviate from the plan this year and try cooking breakfast this year, I hope he doesn't listen to her. I look forward to IHOP.

My husband doesn't typically give me anything. My children usually make something at school or daycare. One year I facilitated a trip to a pottery store to have my daughters' handprints put on a plate.

My husband does usually let me sleep in on mother's day and does let me pick what we do for dinner.

On the flip side, we don't make a huge deal out of father's day either. I usually do help the kids pick out something to give him, but I don't give him a separate gift.

Hahahahahaha... Oh this has been a running "joke" in my family for a couple of years...

In my family (My grandparent's, parents, aunts and uncles), the husbands have always given their wife a gift on mother's day and the wives have always given their husband a gift on father's day. That is what I grew up with. That is what I thought was normal.

My first mother's day, when I was pregnant with our son, I expected something small - Just a card or flowers - Since I was "only pregnant" and not "technically" a mother yet. I got nothing from hubs (My then boyfriend). My mom and grandma both gave me cards though.

My second mother's day, when our son was 6ish months old, I thought for sure I was going to get something. I would have been totally happy with just a card. Again I got nothing from hubs. I also got nothing from kiddo (Meaning hubby hadn't bought anything and signed kiddo's name). This is when my family started teasing my hubby (Still my boyfriend) a little, lightheartedly of course. Hubs had the thinking of 'I only need to get my mother something on mother's day'.

My third mother's day, when our son was a year and a half, I was definitely expecting something. I mean, I had told him that that was what my family did. I had given him a gift on father's day. I was getting something. Wrong.

Sigh...

no, it's a day for me to celebrate my mom and for him to celebrate his mom.

My husband takes our three kiddos out shopping, usually each one pick me out something and he gives me a card specifically from him :-)

Right now we're pretty pragmatic about this kind of thing. I expect him to help the kids pick out something small for me until they are old enough to shop on their own and to get me a card. My birthday and Mother's Day are always close to each other, so there's usually something that I want/need and I'll either tell him about it or get it and say "this is what I'm getting for my birthday and/or Mother's Day." Some years there really isn't anything I want or need so I might forego a real gift that year and end up finding something pricey later (e.g my designer purse a few years ago was 2 years' of gifts, my bike last year was 2 years, and the bike fitting and accessories that I just spent way too much on are my gift for this year).

For Father's Day, my husband will usually pick some kind of outing he wants to do or something he wants - prior FD gifts have included driving an exotic car, buying a charcoal grill and accessories, etc. As our kids get older, I expect that we'll phase out the gifts to each other and that those would be replaced by small gifts from our kids.

Yes he does. That is sad when men don't. I have nothing else to say other than sad.

My father always gave something to my mom. My FIL buys roses for my MIL. My husband says I'm not his mom so he does not get me anything.

I guess mine's one of the 6% :) Often a gift certificate for a massage or pedicure.

It is not eye opening to me.
LMAO!
Only 6% huh?

my dad was a piece of work but still took us to get my mom flowers on mothers day and a card

my fiancee J. asked this week if i want to do something special. the last 2 years he has gotten M. flowers, athough last year he took emmy out and they picked M. out gifts too. it was their first trip to a mall together without M. and it was super cute the stories he had when he returned. she wanted to get M. a HUGE diamond..it was a plastic pink one in the display case J. for display and not for sale after they explained to the cashier what it was for the cashier J. simply gave it to them. emmy was so excited to give it to M.=) i loved the fact they had the expierence moreso than any present!