My Baby Crying Is Making Me So Nervous!

Oh honey, it sounds like you may be going through depression or an anxiety attack something worse. I think you might to get in touch with a Dr. and get something to help you calm down. Crying when she cries is not good. I was went through a patch like that about a month ago and went to the Dr and she gave me some Lexapro, which helped me almost instantly feel better(not that it is for everyone), but something you might consider.
Crying is a normal part of development for a baby. It is how they communicate with you when they have no words to tell you what is wrong. She may be sensing that you are feeling nervous and then responding to it by fussing. Maybe she has begun to outgrow her 'schedule'. If she has been taking a nap that late for a while, she may be letting you know she doesn't feel like she needs a nap that late, and you might try and adjust the times...maybe moving the time of her morning nap so that she is not too fussy by evening and then skipping the evening nap..?? it is kind of hard to give advice without more details.

I know what you mean.
If she's crying and you've already fed, changed, cuddled and rocked her, as hard as it is you need to remove yourself from the situation for a little while so it doesn't bother you.
Step outside for five minutes, or put on some headphones and remember, she is OK. :)
It may take a week or two, but she'll start being able to sooth herself and you both will be better off.
Remember: a good momma is a momma who takes care of baby AND herself. :)

Calm down. Babies cry. All the time. For good reason and for no reason. As time goes on you will handle the crying better. Can you walk her, rock her, sway her? Can you read to her? Can you play some soft music for her? Dance with her?
Why is she crying? Just fussy time? Napping in the evening? This should be close to her bedtime.....
Keep her on a pretty tight schedule of naps & night time. Make sure she's eating well.
Hang tough, Mama!

How does your husband react to the crying? if he is calm and understanding as he should be, why are you worried about him enduring her crying? This will not go on for the rest of her life this is temporary.

Your daughter needs to learn to self sooth and you need to learn to let her. Every time you run in anxious and pick her up you reinforce what ever she is feeling as appopriate for the situation. They probably aren't, I'm sure that before you put her down for a nap she has been fed, has a clean diaper, and is being put to bed in a safe place.
The only other issue to address is time. If you are delaying her nap beacuse you dred her crying she may be so exhausted that she is having a lot of trouble getting to sleep. You might try starting a pre-nap ritual that includes restful non-stimulating activities like reading stories, picking up toys, and talking to her in a slow calm quiet voice.

After completing that ritual and putting her down for her nap, you put head phones on and concetrate on relaxing your-self. Medatation, yoga or reading with a white noise machine on. You can try a noise machine in your husbands room while he is sleeping to keep his sleep from being disturbed as easily. Remind yourself you are doing the right thing letting her cry herself to sleep and that a crying child does not eqaul bad parenting.

If you can not find a resolution you might want to discuss your anxiety with your doctor and see if he can refer you to a psycologist to help you find the right medactions.

Hang in there!
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I agree with some of the others you should go and talk to your doctor. I started taking Lexapro and it really helped me. You have to take care of yourself so you can rest and not get rundown!! 5pm is the worst time of the day - everybody is tired and its just awful. Just go to your dr. and see if they can give you something to take the edge off!

i also agree that u should maybe seek medical treatment for ur anxiety. when my daughter was born i felt that way...til she was over 2 if she cried more than 5 or 10 mins id pik her up. and after a while i realized i was making things even harder on myself. if u dont let her cry it out and learn that crying doesnt get her way she will keep it up. i know its easier said than done trust me my daughter still tries to push it and we still have fits but not as bad.. when she starts crying try getting her attention to something else instead of catering to her wants. it is different if there is something she is needing rather than wanting. and learning how to remain clam and not freak out is kind of a plus with experience. everyone can tell u how to do things but until u figure what works with ur child as an individual it wont be easy. maybe if u are prescribes an anti depressant or anxiety med it will relax u enough that u will be able to overlook some of the crying. i had to be put on anxiety meds for about 6 months when my daughter was younger and after taking them a while and learning to self control my nerves some i weened myself off and continued with the same strategies.. Noone ever said being a mom was easy and it deffinitly is not!!!! I understand that and still experience the hardness and the constant nerve racking battles but as u and her develope a routine together things will get easier. Maybe also u need to take 1 day a week for just YOU! get someone to watch her for u and let u got buy groceries or get ur nails done or ur hair or anything along those lines just for u. because sometimes the stress of no YOU time can bear on u and make things more difficult. I hope something ive said will help u and would be glad to hear a update from u. Goodluck and Godbless!

Take some deep breaths and relax , babies cry as a way of communication. Sometimes they will cry just because they don't want to do something. The more stressed you are the more she will pick up on it and feed off it. Keep her on a schedule where eating/napping takes place the same time each day , yes she may cry when you first put her in the crib for a nap , doesn't mean she's not tired , leave her and she will fall to sleep. Also don't let her nap to late in the day , at 16 months her last nap should be something like 12-2 (3 at the lastest) and then to bed for the night around 7pm.

Try playing music?---soothing for her, or to distract you---or both.
Ask friend or family to help?

If you think you might be depressed, or if the anxiety is that overwhelming, or for a large portion of the day, talk to your doctor about it, as soon as possible.

Keep in mind that if you pick her up every time she cries, and if she likes to be held...she will cry often, to get what she wants. Just telling you how it works---it's like a slot machine, and you are the prize money.
But it is important that you take care of yourself! If you start to feel better, everything else will seem easier...

I agree, you might want to call your GYN. Mine told me that Post Partum Depression can show up for as long as 2 years after the baby is born. If it gets overwhelming for you, you might need just a minimum dosage on something to keep you calm. Because if you're getting anxious, she can sense it and feeds off of that feeling.

I also agree about the soft, classical music. That worked for my baby girl.