So my little girl has been in school since August she seemed to be doing really well having fun etc. At Christmas time I took some time off (1 week) to spend with her and her brother. Since then she has been very anxious and upset about going to school each morning. She used to cry for 20 minutes after I left and when my husband dropped her off at school. Things have gotten better but she is still very anxious (crying has stopped). She is telling us kids are not nice to her, she has no one to play with etc. There is one specific child she says does this to her, however when I ask who did you play with today she says this child. We have explained to her that if the person is not being nice to her to walk away and to find others to play with. She understands us but then says why dont' you want me to be friends with XX (they have been in daycare together since 4 months) and have no issues playing up until they started kindergarten.
Has anyone else gone through this? What did you do to help it? Did you bring your child to see a counsler?
So for those that say talk w/the teacher. I have already done that and she tells me she is very social and always playing. Also note I have seen the other little girl be mean to my daughter as well as the girls mother has seen her do it. Do I not have play dates w/ the girl when my daughter asks for them?
Ask the teacher if they notice anything going on between the kids and maybe they can shed some light on the situation and what is REALLY going on. Have a parent/teacher conference and see if you can get things worked out.
Best wishes
I would talk to the teacher about it. I would also start inviting one child over each week for a playdate. You will get to know the kids and your daughter will have one on one time playing with many different kids from her classroom. It may help her to connect more with some of the other kids. You can also listen in as they play and see what kind of dynamic is going on with her and other children. The other thing I would do is volunteer in the classroom for an hour every other week or so.
Volunteer in the classroom. The teacher cannot really discuss anohter child with you but your own eyes and ears will tell you the story.
Aww! My girl is only 3 and we already see this with her "best friend" at daycare! My girl is always telling me that "N" is her best friend, can she please come over to play, etc. The next day it's all "N pulled my hair today" or "N didn't want to play with me today." It just breaks my heart. I just talk to her constantly about sticking up for herself (don't let anybody hurt you) and reminding her that there are lots of other kids in her class who would love to play with her if "N" is being mean. I figure, as long as she's still talking to me about it, we're good. I can't even imagine how I'm going to deal with all the "girl drama" when she gets older (teenagers)!!
How old is your other child? If he's younger (still home with you?), could it be that she's jealous of the time you're spending with him? I think volunteering in the classroom sounds like a great idea. Just keep talking to her, let her know that you are there for her. I don't know that I would go to a counselor just yet... I had to go to one when I was a kid (10-12 years old) and I hated it!
Whatever you do, I wish you luck!
Just let the Teacher know.
It is the age thing my dauster started in Aug too. One day she is BFF other day they break up and she like other girl. She had a break up at her B'day party but they are bff now again. Talk toher daily and if she dopes not like someone ask her to play with other Girl/ Boy, let her sort it out!! Everyday seems to be different!
Good Luck!
It doesn't sound like you're getting good answers from your little one. I would ask the teacher what's going on.
