AFTER READING YOUR "SO WHAT HAPPENED"
You are correct in thinking this may not be the site for you. While we are all “entitled” to our feelings, if you are not prepared to regard the responses provided by an extremely wide range of women, as constructive instead of attacks, you will not improve your situation, and that is the whole point on this site.
Now that you have outted your husband’s mother’s illegal activities and further demeaned your family in what seems to be in self-defense of your own behavior, I can only recommend that you might consider some personal counseling, marriage counseling and anger management. You definitely seem to have the “poor me” syndrome. While you may think you have a voice in your marriage, your husband may not be saying what is truly on his mind because he doesn’t want to deal with more drama. He seems to already be walking a tight rope between you and his mother
Additionally if your husband’s mother used your name as an employer for unemployment benefits and received such benefits, then you as the employer had to be notified and either denied or agreed that she was indeed a former employee. If the later is true, both you and your husband’s mother could be candidates for criminal prosecution.
I’m not staying this to be harsh or mean, I just think you are in a lot of pain and need to do something more constructive to heal yourself, your marriage and family relationships.
Blessings….
J.,
Is she that DUMB?
Are you that INSENSATIVE?
I doubt seriously that many mothers want to revisit all your rants regarding your husband’s mother. It’s clear you barely tolerate the woman.
Having never met either of you, I don’t know if your husband’s mother is DUMB or if you’re are INSENSATIVE. However, I do know when she was a mother, it was considered “normal and natural” to hold a baby or small child when riding in a car. Most people know that is no longer the case and has not been for some time.
There were better solutions then for you to go BALLISTIC on her (creating tension for all concerned—including your child:
ONE: “Ma (or whatever you call her), the baby is fussy, don’t take him out of the seat, it’s against the law, try THIS or THAT.” “If we can’t calm him down, we can pull over at the next safe place and then we can take him out of the seat”.
TWO: The next time your husband’s mother is out with you and the family in the car, you or your husband ride in the backseat with the baby.
When it comes to wives and mothers who don’t have a good relationship, the husband/son is in the middle of the two most important women in his life. The wife comes first in his heart now, but his mother was the first woman to fall in love with him.
Blessings....