My Son Hates School

Oh, this breaks my heart!!! Poor guy has had it so hard already, and kids can be ruthless! Is it possible for you to sit with the teacher and ask for a few names of students who may take them under their wings and then speak with their parents? There are always good eggs around. Also, to help build up his self-confidence enlist a local big-brother organization? Just random thoughts. Good luck with this - you'll get through this.

God guide you to his glory. Just adding to several good suggestions. Speak with the counselor they might have a bit of great advice also, plus extra praises to share with your son.

Have you thought about home schooling? that will help him so much in so many ways,i know that you work all day but maybe you should think about it,my husband and I are going to doit because we think is the best for my baby,you can get more info about home schooling on line,it's also proven that homeschooling kids are the most smart,secure,well behaved and loving kids. you should check this: www.homeschool.com

good luck!!

Have you spoken with the school counselor? Maybe you could get him into a home-school group. It may be possible that someone at a local church could recommend someone who is homeschooling their children who would agree to help with your son. At any rate, it couldn't hurt to ask and also to find out where some support groups are for your son to help give him emotional support.

B.,
Kids have always been cruel and will always be. On one had I would say talk with the school see if there isn't some sort of special tutering for children with special needs. Perhaps if they can help him conprehend a little better it won't be so frustrating for him and he might begin to enjoy school a tad better.
Then there is home schooling. Although he might have the one on one training it is avoiding the fact that he needs to socialize with children his own age.
This is a tough spot.But I would definately take action and speak with school counseler and perhaps they have some answers.
Good luck my prayers are with you
Jan

B....if haven't already done so make an appointment with his teacher, then make a request for extra services for your son. The school should be making a plan to support your son in his lessons. Don't wait for them to offer, take the initiative and put it in writing. You can also speak to your son's physician for advice. Good luck to you and keep us posted.

B.,

I would definately talk to your child's teacher, both about getting extra academic help and about the social situation. Make sure the teacher is aware of the teasing. She or he cannot stop this completely or filter everything your son is told, but she can be aware and talk to the children about how people are supposed to treat each other.

Your son needs at least one good friend. Although there are some bad eggs out there, there are also some really nice kids, ones that would make great friends for your son. Find out from the teacher who they are and have her help you set them up. Call their moms and schedule play time together on the weekends or have them over for dinner.

Best wishes,
S.

Think about a Church school. The rules tend to be a little different there. I wish you could stay at home, maybe you could homeschool your son and grandchildren if your daughters could help with your finances. It sounds like you are already sensitive to his needs, dont loose sight that these children are hurting his feelings which sometimes can hurt wors than broken bones.

Hi B.:

It seems like he doesnt like school because of the problems he is having there. Is anything being done about the other kids making fun of him? The school needs to do their job here, even if it means him having someone nearby him at all times to make sure he isn't being teased or made fun of. My experience with the school system is you have to be pushy. Seldom will they just do what they already should do without being pushed into it. He should not be having such a miserable time at school; are the children doing the teasing being reprimanded? Has anyone stood up for him to these children to let him see that what they are doing is wrong? Maybe try a reward system also, something he really realy likes..if he gets through each day at school then he gets a daily reward and make the rewards a little bigger weekly then months and see if that helps. I hope you can find something that will work for him. Too many children end up out of school because of things that could have been handled when they were in the school system. Good Luck

I agree with the others in that you should make an appointment with the counselor. I have had some experience with this my son is Dyslexic and a slow learner. It took me 2 years and alot of fighting to get the testing i needed to get him into the programs in which he needed to suceed. So don't give up keep pushing.

B. I feel for your son and his predicament. Please talk to your school counselor, she is a person that deals with this subject day in and day out. Many times she'll be your kid's refuge when teassed and she might even give him some small solutions about how to get out of a situation. You might want to also consider placing him in another classroom with another teacher and new classmates. In the mean while I'll pray for you to get good advise and for your son to be empowered to face bullies.

I can only imagine what it is like to have a child who has to contend with having such a serious illness then to have to deal with his problems at school which can put tremendous pressure on him psychologically. Talk to the school counselor and find out if there is a special education class for people with learning disorders. I was in special ed from about the time I was in 4th grade till I graduated high school. If it hadn't been for these classes, I would have dropped out. Honestly, they work. Kids are cruel and it won't get any better from here on in. Jr. high was the hardest for me personally, but that was probably for different reasons. A learning disorder is nothing to be ashamed of. Kids will pick on him for it but he will get more opportunities to get into college because of it. Good Luck and seriously consider the special education option. It will help him from beginning to end.

Hi B.!

Has your son ever attended therapy? My son has ADHD, which causes lots of social problems and he doesn't make friends well either. He also gets teased alot. Play therapy really helped him. After play therapy he did group therapy where a therapists helps children develop social skills by observing them interacting with each other and talking about issues.

Social issues also often lead to depression, and it seems from your comments you might be dealing with some of that. Speak to your son's doctor about it.

Another thing you could do is talk to him about bullies. There is a great program called Bullies to Buddies. This program is about teaching the children self-esteem and how to get people to stop teasing them. http://www.bullies2buddies.com/

Good luck.

I would either put him in a private school preferably Catholic because they are very compassionate and wonderful teachers or I would home school him. I, too, have a slow learner. I am teaching her at www.time4learning.com and she loves it. I would not put him under any pressure since he has been so ill. Some children can be very cruel and dangerous and they may hurt him permenently. God bless and guide you to make the best decision.

Call his teacher find out if there's at least one friend in his class that your son might be friends with. If not see if the teacher could possibly suggest if there's a kind soul in his class that could help your situation. Once you have that one of maybe even two child then reach out to that child's parents. Set up "playdates", yes he may be too old for playdates but something similar. Something that will allow the other friend to get to know your son. If your son does not have much of a personality and just can not make friends try enlist the assistance of one of the older sisters who may be the best in helping him come out of his shell and one that he would "work" with without animosity or resentment. When kids look forward to seeing friends at school or have someone that they can hang out with at school then it makes school that much easier for those that don't like school. Its good that you are trying to help him or identify the problem now, bc it will get harder as he gets older but I'm sure you knew that. Good luck.