K.P.
Hi J.,
I'm sorry to hear that your US didn't show something more positive! I'm sure it difficult to stay calm with the information you were given. You can drive yourself crazy trying to find information on the internet when you really don't have all the facts. The stress could also send you into preterm labor.
Downs babies do have heart abnormalities frequently, but there are other things they can look @ in an US that may indicate a baby with Downs. Even that is not 100% accurate.
US are wonderful, but can sometimes cause some unneeded stress! Too bad you couldn't have the 4D US ASAP. Waiting, and the stress of the unknown is sometimes harder then knowing the facts.
Don't feel guilty about not have the Down's test, or the amniocentisis. My kids are older, so we weren't offered the opportunity to have that. I guess my thought on that is; if it does show a positive test, would you terminate the pregnancy? If not then why do it, causing more worry & stress?
The Down's test is not 100% perfect. The amnio has some pretty devistating risks in some cases.
Right now you need stay focused on your husband & 2 kids, they need you, in fact you all need each other.
Think POSITIVE!! Be patient. Take care of yourself B/C that's what will help your unborn son the most right now. You don't have all the facts, so try not to worry & stress yourself out.
I know, easier said then done!
You will know more on the 13th and I hope & pray that it will be positive news.
Good luck to you, your family and your unborn son!
God Bless,
K.