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Hi, you sound like a Multi-tasker, so with that said, set aside one day a week for Bf and 1 day a week for you. Seems Impossible, right? No. One of the reasons that you're so tired is because you most likely don't have or make time to re-group...How about a Couples Massage? What about a day at the Spa on Saturday morning and Movies and Dinner Saturday Night with bf. You have to have at least 1 day to have fun, and to un-wind. Try going to bed earlier, (every-night)delegate some chores to the teenager. Tell your Teenager you need help, just like you help them with their Homework, you need help with your "Homework"... Make a schedule and be consistant with it. Clean alittle everyday, do 1 load of laundry every day. Hire a Hosekeeper for 1 day a month to clean from top to bottom. I have one that comes every-other week on a Friday, what a relief, and a difference. Focus on everything you can think of to make your life easier. The only way for "problems" to change is you have to change the way you deal with them! Good Luck, keep in touch. ____@____.com

I am not a single mom, but I bet your teenage daughter has friends that would love to have her for a sleepover. Then you and your bf can maybe do takeout and a movie in. I am a mom of a 2 year old, and I prefer that to a night out at a restaurant and a movie..lol. More cuddle time? Or just send her to her room early :) GL!

I can understand 100%. I am a single mom of a 6 month old son. He is a handfull. I also have a boyfriend whom I wish i had time to spend with. I work full time, 6 days a week. I get home around 4pm and by 6 i am ready for bed, but together we play with my son and that is our time together. By like 8-9pm I am in bed. There is no time for a social life that I see, wish there was, but its part of being a mom. Decide once or twice a month to get a babysitter and go out for a bit, b ut thats all we can do.
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maybe send her to a sleepover or have you're kids all sleep over together and when they go to bed enjoy some in time. being home can be just as fun and romantic as going out. plus it keeps things interesting since at home you can be yourself.

Hi Michelle, i am a single mom also with three little ones 6, 2 and 3 and a half. it is very hard. their dad lives in arizona for the past year and a half. he has seen them twice in that time. my daughter does not even know him. different situation, but still i know where you are coming from. no boyfriend for me, no time and too tired also. good luck, hang in there. write back if you'd like. C.

Hey M.,

I too am a single mother of two little boys, work full time and somehow, after getting them home after school and preschool, have to manage the house, homework, dinner, baths, cleaning, laundry, etc. I so know what you're going through and no doubt it's stressful. I have a BF whom I only see everyother weekend because that's when I don't have my boys and not to mention he's almost an hour away. He has no children and he get frustrated over the fact that we can't just be spontanious about going out for a night. I have learned the hard way that everything happens for a reason and there is no trick or secret to juggling life. 'HE' never gives you anything you can't handle. Not knowing your situation all that well, I can only tell you what we are planning to do. I plan to be with my children until they adjust to all the changes they have endured over the past few years, deal with the school situations that are going on and when they are comfortable with accepting my BF, we will start thinking about moving in together. I know this is the way it has to be for now because it is best for the boys. As a mother, you know what's best for your babies too. You won't feel bad if you take care of them first and your hunney will adore you for that. P.S. I too am exhuasted and in bed by 8pm. :o) If you ever need to talk, email me ____@____.com. I' min the Hamilton area.

I agree with one of the other responses, You have to take time out for YOU first so you can have the energy to handle everyone else, otherwise you will get bogged down and overwhelmed.