P.B.
You are not the first, nor the last, to experience this! Definitely go and get checked, but if everything is fine organically, then, the only thing that works, in my opinion, is that the man STOPS asking altogether and gloriously leaves the wife alone until, finally, she can work up some healthy desire and starts (or, rather, re-establish) the positive trend. But most men can't do it and get really irritable. Which definitely makes it worse! I vote for men to finally "get it" and use patience towards their wives, instead of the wives forcing themselves to have sex (which leads to:1.bad sex,2.feeling of "being used", 3.resenting the husband, 4.more lack of desire). My personal view on the matter is that a Man should know how desire works for a woman, and if he doesnt, well, he should educate himself and learn. Sex is important in a marriage but it's complicated (or can be) and it's worth exploring in all its hues. So I would do my "homeworks" but he should do them as well!!!