A.S.
Hi, I feel you. My husband does not travel,and we still don't get to spend enough time with each other even though he is home everyday. We have 3 toddlers and we just had to put our foot down. I am sorry, but those kids will understand. We tell ours that mommy and daddy want to spend time together, so everyone needs to go to bed, or when we go out to the eat or movies as a family and the kids want to sit between us, we say NO,and that's that. We explain to them that mommy and daddy want to sit together, and they can sit with us, when we are alone with them, and believe me, being a sAHM, I am always with them alone and they always sit with me or spend time with me. This bond that our children see between mommy and daddy is a postive one, and strengthens their belief in love and marriage in the long run. Seeing mommy and daddy wanting to spend time alone and love each other actually strengthens the whole family bond. They do love seeing mommy and daddy loving each other. Believe me, if you feel this way about your marriage, your children are defenitely feeling it too. It would be ashame for your marriage to end because of this,and your children will probably feel like it was their fault. Wich we no it is not, by any means. This is totally fixable. You can do it. As far as getting your children watched by someone, if you are not opposed to those drop ins, that sounds like a good idea. If you are, then there is nothing wrong with putting those kids to bed an hour earlier or if you have a two story house like I do, we send everyone upstairs to play, watch tv, sleep. whatever, and they eventually know not to come downstairs. When your family does decide to watch them, jump on it and take them over there. If they are an hour away, then take them over there and do your date where they live. Hope everythings goes well.