Pls Help Me Out!

Pls. get a second opinion, I was poorly advised too, lost my baby when I miscarried at 3 mos and then Dr. did d and c, I continued to bleed for months and the same Dr. kept saying it's "normal" to bleed for months on end, I finally went for a 2nd opinion after 3 mos of bleeding from the 1st d and c. and the Dr. said I was bleeding continuously bec. there's still leftover tissues inside and the 1st Dr. was not able to remove all of it, after my 2nd d and c, I stopped bleeding after 3 days, pls pls pls get a second opinion, you don't to need to suffer more than you already have. Good luck.

Quite honestly I'm 19 and pregnant and I have a high school diploma, was in beauty school, got married and then planned my pregnancy with my husband - don't let any of these moms tell you what is best for you based on age. You are an adult. You know what to do when you are ready. Don't let one miscarriage discourage you, these are common and I think once you decide you are ready again things will work out for the best. Good luck!

honey take the first miscarriage as a clue. i'll tell you from experience that having a baby THAT YOUNG is not a good idea. i was pg with my first (now 8-and divorced from her daddy) at 19 (married) 20 when she was born. Granted she's my life and truly a blessing and i'll give my life for her, i'm literally in a way "tied down" compared to a lot of people i went to school with. her dad and i are divorced and i can't just move to another state or country just because i want to like i could if we were not divorced. or if i lived first.. i can't just up and go to the beach, or to that cruise i want to go on (been trying to plan 1 for 5 years)

live your life a little, you're fresh out of high school get you a degree in college, then make a family. It sucks sitting in the walfare line begging for help to feed or even diaper your baby and get denied or not as much as you need AND having to miss out on your baby growing up because you have to work nights in your department store and sleep by day (asuming you have help to keep the baby) instead of being at home rocking your baby to sleep or singing those silly songs and making a racket with your baby just to have fun. although that's not my life now, and i now have a good career, m-f the begining stunk, and well, i only have 10 years left to "raise her" when i should JUST now be having babies.

my advice...go to the doctor if your female parts hurt but hold off on having a baby..it's HARD and many are quick to call DHS and remember once you do have a baby, you can't just quit, it truly is life changing....yes she is the ONLY one i have and because i didn't wait for her, she's going to be almost grown before i can give her a sibling (besides her steps) which sux for me too, because there's things i WANT to do that i can't do because i have to take care of her and any other's i dreamt of having growing up.

parent hood is not easy and in my opinion, EVERYONE should wait until around about 30....seriously (i'm now 27 and still just now THINKING about baby #2) but still seems far off in the distance mainly because there are things i want to do but can't because i HAVE to take care of the ONLY child i have.

i am not telling you what's best for you based on your age, just from MY perspective, it's best to wait.........good luck

O and i completely understand the pain of losing a baby, i was pregnant with #2 3 years ago, and miscarried at 5 months-was given the option to know what it was! it hurts and because of that pain i've delayed because i can't bear the pain to lose another...and have to tell my daughter she wont be getting a sibling.

Wow--it is too bad people are so judgemental of you for wanting a baby at a young age. I have a friend who has 4 and she is 25. She is a great mother, and has a wonderful husband.
On the other note....I would say call your dr or maybe even go get a second opinion to get back to a regular cycle.
Good Luck to you!!!

I am so sorry for your loss. I can't believe there are people telling you to be thankful that you lost a baby! Obviously they do not understand your pain. Talk to your dr. before trying again. It seems like your body hasn't completely healed from the lost pregnancy so you may want to make sure everything is ok before you start trying for another. Try to remember that many women lose a baby and then go on to have healthy pregnancies so don't assume just because this is happening now that it means you won't be able to have a child of your own. I also strongly suggest processing the feelings as well as the physical healing. You can't imagine how it manifests itself when you have that successful pregnancy if you don't. Trust me I know. Best of luck and again I am sorry for your loss.

You'll be fine. Loosing a child is very difficult I know, but you will be able to conceive again in the future. Perhaps you and your husband should wait a few more months before trying. Focus on something else right now, the children will come.

You're 19 - don't be in a rush to have a baby. Give your body time to heal, and take care of yourself.

Are you married? Why is it so important to have a baby at your age? Do you have a career? Are you in college? Why don't you go to some sort of school, like a vocational school (if you don't want to go to college). You can become a massage therapist, medical assistant, medical biller and coder, CNA (certified nurse assistant), etc. You have your whole world ahead of you. You seem like you are in such a rush to have a baby at only 19 years old. Children change your life forever, and being a mom is the most difficult job in the world. Are you sure you want to take all of that on at 19? Do you have financial support? Who do you live with? You should enjoy your freedom. If money isn't an issue, go travel - take an exotic vacation with your husband or boyfriend. Wait a few years (22 seems like a better age to get pregnant, and is still SO YOUNG). Don't be in such a hurry to grow up and become a mom. Enjoy your kid-free youth! And to answer your question, I have no doubt that you will be able to get pregnant again, but hopefully not for a few years.

I had several miscarriages and a tubal pregnancy that ruptured. After I had one miscarriage my milk came in when I would have had the baby. It can be very confusing to us when our bodies do these odd things. Please make an appointment with your OB/GYN and discuss your options with them, they need to check and make sure your hormones are working okay and everything is well.

relax, youre body is telling you something and you need to listen to it. Being pregnant and having a baby is rough, im 20 and i have a 10 month old. I could be like the rest of them and tell you to wait, you're too young blah blah blah but in my eyes, why put an age limit on it? I had a baby young and (not to brag) but im a really good mom!! I have so much fun raising her and spending everyday with her.. so relax, give it time and it will happen!! when it does it will be the most amazing expierence of your life (no matter what age) good luck!!

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Why on earth do you want to get pregnant at 19? Live your life a little first! You will most likely have no problems getting pregnant again, but there is no rush! There's a big world out there -explore it a little and make sure you have an education and a financially stable environment to bring a baby into before you worry about getting pregnant.

Listen to your doctors. If they are telling you that it's normal, then I'm sure it is. If need be, do to a different medical office and get a second opinion. Your body went through a tramatic experience and needs to heel.

You refer to "trying again". Why? What does that have to do with anything? You have another 20 years to have a baby, why are you in such a rush? Enjoy your life... travel, get an education, start a career... once a baby comes you won't have these opportunities.

Might I ask why you want to get pregnant again at such a young age? If you are concerned about your cycles you need to see your dr again and maybe have a blood test to make sure your hormone levels are ok.

I'm sorry your going through this are you bleeding inbetween periods or just that your periods are off due to stress medications are you taking a hormonal birth control pill?I would wait more than 3 cycles to get myself back to trying you've waited more than a year is there anything else going on that your not saying in your post?You have seen a Dr about your concerns great but the bottom line is your still bleeding a D&C is to clear out what your body was unable to do naturally is your Uterus damaged?If it is this will complicate pregnancy or trying to become pregnant.I would personally see another OBGYN

You are only 19, you ought to be thankful that you can wait and really plan your next baby when you are financially and emotionally ready. The female body does do some crazy things during and after pregnancies and we all have different healing points. If you are still not "regular" with your periods this is something you should be having your ob/gyn really paying attention to. They might put you on birth control pills for awhile to get your regulated and then when you go off of them you will be plenty fertile to try again (and healed from your unborn mishap).
Prayers to you for patience and strength;)