What happens if it goes untreated? Everyone that i have ever talked to about my issues says they think i have it? But i alway thought to myself i'll get over it. Its the lack of sleep. I'm so attached to her thats why i get anxious when she is not wit me. I don't mind changing diapers or making bottles but what frustrated me the most is that she would cry and cry and cry. No dirty diaper already fed ,me holding her close not sick. But would just cry and i would feel shameful and guilty that i was annoyed wit my lil girl it wasn't her fault she was just being a baby but thats when i'd be the most upset when I didn't know what was wrong and i couldn't make her stop crying does this makes sense at all? Does it sound like i had post partum depression? Could i still have it?
Sometimes i did think messed up thoughts because i was so annoyed i feel tired all the time I just wanna be in bed. I never shook he or yelled at her i put her somewhere safe left her alone untill i fully collected myself.
You are writing most of the time in the past tense. Is your daughter alright?
I would say get it checked out - may just be those mom jitters but the 1st sign could also be you warning sign.
You love your baby do it for her so you can have that patients and open minded time for her! Coming form someone who knows, do it for her!
Wether a medication or therapy or just more friends and family support, it will better you r life - thus her
good luck to you!!!
sweetie, please if youre feeling that way go to the dr and get an anti depressant. I too had a baby that would do that, she had colic and i wasnt afraid to admit that i was stressed and at my end... talked to the dr, got an anti depressant and i was on it for about 2 months, the colic went away and we were fine afterward. Its ok to feel upset and to get annoyed but having thoughts about hurting your baby or anything else is not something you need to deal with, you should be enjoying her.
On top of talking to your dr get her some gripe water, switch her formula (nutramigen worked for my daughter, thats the colic formula but some are ok with soy too) that stuff combined will get rid of the colic in no time. i think for my daughter it was compeletely gone in 2 weeks and she was back to sleeping 13 hours a night.
i WAS not for being a pill popper and had my mind set that you could just get over it. but i talked to my gyno about all the drama in our lives and having a baby. she said that the hormones and chemicals in your body can alter the way your thinking is. so if you take the depression meds just for a while then it will straighten the thoughts out. your mind can be chemicaly altered into that type of thinking. so i took them felt great after a month or so and got off them as soon as i could. i did not need them after the second child.
It could be post-partum depression that is contributing to your anxiety when she's apart from you and your feelings when she's crying. I would talk to your doctor, every openly and honestly, not leaving anything you're feeling/thinking out. If depression goes untreated, it can get worse to the point that it can lead to suicidal thoughts/actions. Mainly, when depression goes untreated, it effects your family, even your baby girl, because you're not able to interact with them due to the depressive thoughts and anxiety you're feeling. It effects your ability to be the wonderful mother you strive to be. Please, speak to your doctor as soon as you can get an appointment and accept help from a professional, so you can get better and give your daughter the best in you. Good luck!
Hi, I had post partum depression and it went away on it's own. I didn't even know I had it, It knew something was not right put no one had ever told me about post partum depression and I was really scared. My first child cried a lot as well, so my mom told me when or If i felt like I was going to loose it or when i felt frustrated to lay him in his crib and walk away, take a breath and then go back when i felt calm and together, you are not doing anything wrong baby's cry, some more than others, Sometimes baby's cry for not paticular reason and you will be fine. Believe it or not some moms have have the post partum depression so bad they have killed their baby's so trust me you are in good shape, we as moms want to sooth our crying baby's but sometimes no matter what we do they cry anyway, lay her down she will be OK. I can tell you this, I'm 53 my kids are grown, and I had the scarriest post partum depression with my first, but it passes no treatment. If you need more piece of mine sweetie talk to your doctor. Hope this helped. J.
Bless your heart!! Is it possible that in your overwhelmed and/or frustrated state your baby can feel your discomfort? They are so sensitive at that age and will not calm down if they sense that you are uncomfortable, especially while holding them.
The bottom line is that if they can't tell us, then sometimes we just will NOT know what's wrong. It makes us feel inadequate as mothers because we think that we're supposed to have all the insight to solve every case, but that is just not how it goes. You have to give yourself permission to not have all the answers all the time.
I commend you on knowing when to back off and put your baby down in a safe place until you are ready to deal with her. I can't tell from your request if you have someone there with you. If you do not, then that is certainly good reason to feel overwhelmed. Even if you do.... I think that you should talk to a professional whom you trust, just to make sure that you cover all your bases for getting whatever help you need.
I'm sure the other moms have given great advice also (honestly I didn't take the time to read them as I usually do). I had PPD pretty bad with my last one- it all came down to sleep deprivation & not having my body back (well, control of it at least as I was nursing). I got some help with the baby in the mornings so I could get some sleep and stopped nursing. As my OB said, she had to make the choice herself that the best thing for baby was for her to still be around & not feeling psycho.
Once I made those changes (so small, yet so HUGE) it made all the difference in the world for me. If you have someone who can help out so you can get some rest, it could make all the difference (lucky me, my MIL doesn't work & lives right near my hubby's job).
How does she do if you take her outside for a nice long walk? Does she still cry or does it calm her down being in a different environment? You both could use some fresh air and you could use some exercise.
If that doesn't work and you don't feel better, go see your doctor. He/she will know what you need.
Post partum depression can go away on its own and nothing happens, or in extreme cases, children can get hurt or even die from shaken baby syndrome or other moments that could injure a child from an out of control episode. In any case, it's better to be safe than sorry, so speak to your obgyn or Dr. about it.
No. It is hard when a baby is colicky and cries nonstop. It is normal to be upset and irritated with the baby and yourself. Postpartem depression is feeling sad and down and not caring about anything, not wanting to get out of bed, feeling blue for no reason, not interested in your husband, your other kids, your baby, just wanting to sleep, not wanting to do anything but sleep. Or it could be even more irrational thoughts of wanting to harm yourself or your baby. If it is irrational, crazy thoughts that seem reasonable to you or stick with you, or the thoughts of not caring about anything or anyone, you need help/change/support. If it is just that you are tired and your daughter screams a lot and you are frustrated, that is normal and will go away.
I don't know how old your baby is like if you are few weeks out, then that is so normal. If it is months out, maybe you should talk to the dr. As far as her crying and crying, my first son did that and I found out he had reflux. So you might want to get her checked out. My second didn't have it and what a different experience!! I thought I was losing my mind with my first and then we got him on prevacid, everyone started sleeping and all was well:) I think if you take a look online at the symptoms and try to ask yourself honestly if you have them, then talk to the dr that would be good. Hang in there!!
Are you a single mom? I think this is called being overwhelmed. Normal feelings for someone who is overoaded.
Please dont get on antidepressant drugs. Hire some help instead.
God bless,
Gail
