I am 3 weeks postpartum with my first child. I had a very fast labor and delivery (3 hours labor and 10 minutes pushing). I had to deliver my son so quickly because his heart rate was dropping and was not coming back up to normal. They thought his cord was around his neck but it was not. Due to the fast pushing phase I had extensive tearing, both internally and externally. I was told by my OB that she gave me more stitches than someone who has a c-section. I soon discovered at 2 weeks postpartum that I had a grade 2 cystocele (prolapse of the bladder). I am having tremendous pressure and it is extremely uncomfortable. It is bad enough I don't even want to walk across the room.
My OB said I would have to wait 2 months postpartum to see a specialist to find out what I can do to correct the prolapse. I was wondering if any other mothers had similar prolapse issues? What did you do about it (surgery, physically therapy, nothing)? Did it get better on it’s own over time or with Kegals? Do you have any recommendations on how to manage until I can seek treatment? I can’t use a pressary or a tampon (to hold the bladder back in place) until at least 6 weeks postpartum. I only have my husband to talk to about this and would appreciate any insight from others who have been down this path already.
I am also concerned with sexual pain due to the extensive scaring I will have from my sutures and that compounded with the prolapse and possible more scarring from surgery....anyone have similar issues? Thanks in advance!
i just wanted to say congrats on your newborn son. and i hope that he is doing well. i am sorry that you are going though. and you are in my prayers.
When I had my son I tore horribly too. I never had to see a specialist but ripped in and out. Not to scare you but it took me months to actually want or enjoy sex. The scar tissue is very sensitive at first but it will get better try not to get too discouraged. I cried evertime we tried at first because I felt like there was something wrong with me. I even had more tearing when we first started having sex again due to the the tissue scaring. Everything got so much better with time. It was painful and scary at first but don't be hard on yourself like I was. Take the time to enjoy other things with your husband... like when you were dating! You will find other things to enjoy until you feel right. And take this time to settle in as a new mommy! Just remember time is the key and do not feel rushed. Hope you can find something that helps you and giving birth was the worst its going to get better.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.. I did tear while having my boys. I did have pain for a while during sexual intercourse, When the stitches was gone it was still tender there for a little while.. I never got postpartum, I think it helped that I had my family around and I got out of the house with baby as much as I could. I understand right now you have a harder time doing that. I think it would help if you had close family or close friends come over and visit you. Keep a positive thought about every thing. Good luck.. If you need a new friend to talk to send me a message.. Talking to someone new might help keep your mind off of things for a little bit..
Congrats on the New Baby..
~M. G~
God bless you! I had terrible tearing also. The same thing happened to me...I had to push him out! Anyway, I had/had nerve damage in my vagina. I to could hardly walk across the room. The pain was so bad that it would radiate into my legs. The DR said there was nothing she could do, that I would have to live with it. Sex was a real issue. Keep your hubby in the loop with how you are feeling so that he won't expect too much right away. It took abot 1 1/2 years for it to feel better, and I still 27 months later have days where it hurts. It's just aweful, and hopefully for you they can resolve the problem. Like I said, keep your husband in the know...he may begin to think you just don't want him now that you have your baby. Being a new mom is the biggest blessing on earth, but it is so hard. Complications and the whole experience leave you drained and somedays its hard to do "your best" when you aren't at your best...but, you will prevail! Keep praying for Gods healing, and that God will lead you to the right Dr...I will too!
B.
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I was wondering how you ended-up!?!?! The reason I am currious is that I have three kids and I also have a grade 2 cystocele (prolapse of the bladder). I also had 2 degree tears with all three kids. So needless to say I don't look or feel the same. And now I am considering surgery.
Hope all is well with you!
Sincerely,
H.
