I Have a 2 year old that will be 3 on Halloween, We are trying to potty train and I am having a reallly hard time. I got stickers and made a potty chart and even made a big deal about going to the store and letting her pick out her own big girl panties! She just seems very uninterested about the whole potty thing. The other problem I have is that me and her father split custody I have her half of the week and he has her half of the week, which I hate but he is a good dad and I could never take her away from him or give him less time even though it kills me.Between him, myself and daycare we are all together on it but I don't know what else to do to make her want to go. Any suggestion would be great. Thank You :-)
Have you tried the potty training watches/bracelets that remind them every 20 minutes to just try to go? I found that having my girl go into potty and wash hands every 20 minutes helped a lot. I have a potty training game thru BabyCrazy that might help also. Keep me posted!! what kind of systems have you tried?
S. Marino
BabyCrazy
Hi, I would normally say that she is ready just strong willed (like my daughter) I did the book "Potty training in less than a day" and it worked for her. I didn't use it for either of my 2 boys. You could try that.
However, please be patient with her since she may be still trying to deal with separation/divorce. How long have you been separated/divorced? Now may not be such a good time to potty train her. Maybe she just hasn't started dealing with it yet... or maybe this is how she is dealing with it. This is, after all, about the only thing that kids have total control over. Good luck!
I have to agree with everyone else, she's just not ready. My son just got it, we tried for over a year with no progress. We'd give up and go back to it a couple months later. About 6 weeks ago, we tried again he has had 2 accidents since. It just takes time and they'll let you know when they're ready, you can't push them into it. Good Luck!
Try the 3-day potty training method by Lora Jensen. Someone on this site suggested it to me a few weeks back, and while I didn't believe for a second that it could work, I was thrilled when it actually worked perfectly. My son went from pooping and peeing in diapers, with little interest in underwear, to completely potty trained (even at night!) in less than three days. Give it a try!
E.
I might not but much help but this is what I did when we stated potty training. I first bought her a little potty seat that fits right on the normal potty, she has a stool right in the bathroom and when its time to go we quick run and she helps get everything ready. Once she is on the potty I grab a few books and we read them. Sometimes she will sit for 15 minutes with out going- but I always make sure she sits for at least 5 minutes. When we first started she thought that it was a game until I stoped sitting in there with her- however she has never been afraid of the potty. I don't reccomend leave her there is she is afriad of the potty. But I would only leave for a minute or so but then she started to go, more often. She was able to relax more and do it on her own. That was huge she thought it was the greatest thing ever. But when she does go we make a hugh deal about it. We clap, she gets to flush the potty and we wave to it, then she get smartes as a reward. She has picked out her own panties.
That worked for me, I hope this has helped.
Please don't take this the wrong way but it seems like you guys are ready for her to use the potty not your daughter.
I have a 3 almost 4 year old who wanted to go on the big girl potty when she was 2 and did great for 6 months then she reverted and it wasn't worth the fight. She's just now back to wearing big girl panties.
My suggestion is to let her decide when she's interested and ready that's the only way it will be successful.
My frist thought was also that she is not ready. My doughter was 3 when she looked at me one day and told me she wnated to go on the potty. Once she was ready she only had a a few wetting before she got it. My boys were much harder to potty train then she was. I hope this helps some
I think you might get a lot of responses on this about how she's not ready. :)
Having said that, check out this article on Slate.com:
Hi K.!
She just isn't ready! I would wait awhile and then try again! she will get it.....on her own time though!
What daycare center does your daughter go to? My kids go to the Adventure Center in Ypsilanti (it's on Golfside) and they work with the kids on potty training. My kids weren't interested in the stickers; my son will be 4 on Nov. 2 and my daughter is 2 and a half so I know where you're coming from. My son wasn't interesting in potty training until about two and a half months ago and it just clicked ... try offering more enticing rewards then stickers; chocolate covered raisins could work, but you and your ex both need to give the same rewards and have the same potty training system; consistency and time is key. Good luck!
You are doing a good job and under a lot of pressure and stress. She will train herself within a year or so. Just be patient and give her time. Her body is still developing. She is not a mini adult. She just doesn't have physiological control.
you just need to find the thing that interestes her and makes her want to go on the potty, there is the possibility that she is still dealing with the seperation but she is plenty old enough to train.....try rewarding her with computer time (or video games or something else) that she enjoys but only let her do it if she goes on the potty, try putting food coloring in the water so she can change the color of it, try buying a new toy (even one from the dollar store) and put it on hte back of the potty for incentive then give it to her when she goes, if you are using a potty chair move in in front of the tv so she isn't bored sitting in the bathroom or put a pile of books in the bathroom and read to her while she sits.....be patient and don't force it just push her strongly in that direction ;-)....hope this helps, my one friend and I both had stubborn kids so it took a while but once we found the trigger they were done
