Potty Training - Fairhaven, MA

i have 2 boys and both started potty training when they were 2 1/2 years old. i think boys are later in that dept. than girls from what i hear. also it helps if you start them sitting then progress to standing when going pee.
C. s.

Hi A....

Your son is too young to understand and even start. Boys do 'potty train' later than girls. Between 2 1/2 and 3, sometimes even later. You can talk about it, have the 'stuff' but if they are not ready both physically and emotionally, it's not going to happen. So dont' stress yourself or your son out about it. Enjoy him being a little one.. he'll be forgetting to lift that toilet seat soon enough ! LOL

M.

If he isn't ready then don't rush him. My grandson is two and will be three next month, he is just starting to go to the bathroom by hisself, having a little trouble getting him out of pull-ups. He hasn't stop pooping in the pull-ups yet, we are happy to see him just go to the toilet.

My son was potty trained by the time he was 2. Everyone thinks that is amazing but I feel like you should encourage kids to become potty trained but don't rush him. When he starts to show an interest then start training. My daughter was 19 months and potty trained so my son took a little longer.

im haveing the same problem. My son is almost three and he still is not potty trained. Every child is different. My son has a speech delay he is at about a 2 year old speech level they will let you know when they are ready. Have u ever seen a 30 yr old man who is not pottie trained? My suggestion is to just let them take their time. If they are dry over night and are showing signs of telling u that they have a dirty diaper or even playing at the potty introduce a potty chair. Don't make it a big deal. Just little by little give them their time. Boys take longer than girls also. So keep this in mind. I go to a parent group through westfield infant and toddler and there is a group called Mspcc that helps with any kind of child questions you have u can call the number if u want it I have it here it is they have people who come to you house and just sit with you and answer questions about child rearing. I have a worker shes really nice. ###-###-#### there is a waiting list. They give out information on potty training and any other questions u have. I am trying to take my time with My son and the same thing. I have to find a developmental specialist for my son. He is being seen by wits. In no means is this like saying u need help with your kid or anything I like my worker I asked for the healthy starts program.

my son is 16 months too. i've been wondering the same thing, and i even got him a chair (which he decided his feet go into the potty as a foot rest). he is good in the mid of the night with wetting the bed because one time about 2am he woke up, he had taken off his diaper, and before i put a new one on, we both fell back to sleep. i was relieved to see that he had not wet our bed (we cosleep). i put a new diaper on and he went in that, but i don't think he's ready yet as much as i want him to be. he's started to hide his face now when he's going poop, so i think, for my son at least, that it should be soon, since he's starting to realize what he's doing, he's just got to learn the feeling before he has to go. i think we got a few more months of diapers.

Hello! sorry I can't help with your question but I was interested in what you did to potty train your daughter at 16 mo. My 16month old won't sit on her little potty for more than a second.

My son turned 3 the at the end of June and I thought I would never get him trained---he had no interest in the potty at all. We have been encouraging him to use the potty for quite some time, but he couldn't have cared less.
Last week he got up one morning and said he wanted to wear his big boy underpants, so we put them on and he has been using the potty ever since. We have had a couple of accidents, but that is to be expected. I put regular underwear on him around the house, but we use pull ups if we are going to be out of the house for any length of time and at bedtime.
Several people told me that one day it would just happen for him and I didn't believe them, but I guess they were right.
Hang in there--

My son will turn three in march, and he is not potty trained. I have tried somewhat, but he is not ready. He likes the idea, but not completely. From what i heard potty training is alot harder for boys than girls. I would say wait untill after he turns three and then let him tell you when he is ready, don't push him. Many parents have given me this advice when in fact it has worked for themselves. Hope this helps...

I'm starting my son around 2 1/2, 6 months before PreSchool because this way, he will start to talk more, and understand what it means to hold his pee, etc. A friend of mine started her daughter around 2 1/2, and she said that she is glad that she didn't listen to her boyfriend because her daughter started to understand what it meant to hold her pee, and now that she is 3, she is doing a good job with it. Here are some other helpful tips; I hope it helps. Just remember, whatever you do as a parent, your child will follow, so if your son sees you going to the bathroom, he will see that it's a part of growing up, etc.

http://www.learn2potty.com ~ Excellent tips! :-)

www.amazon.com has a ton of low price, cheap DVDs and VHS's. Currently, I am watching one right now called Potty Training 101.

When It’s Time for Potty Training

There are many wonderful ways to help our kids think for themselves and help them become wiser. The following is a story about Harry, who learned, along with his family, that potty training can be fun, for both parent and child.

Little Harry lives in a house that has two bathrooms – one upstairs and one downstairs. One morning, his father said, “Hey, Harry! You want to use the upstairs potty or the downstairs potty?”
“Upstairs! Upstairs potty! Harry said.
A Love and Logic parent, his father smiled and said, “You want to have fun while we’re doing this, or not have fun?”
The great thing about choices with little kids is that they love making them – even when the options we give seem a bit silly to us. The decisions they make on their own make them feel important, leave them with a sense of control, and give them lots of chances to exercise their brains.
Harry looked at his dad as if he were crazy and giggled, “Fun! I want to have fun!”
“Great,” said his dad. “Do you want to bring a drink in with you, or do you want to wait until you’re done?”
“Wait till I’m done!”
“Do you want to bring Clarence, your stuffed sea otter, with us, or do you want to leave him?”
“Bring him!” Harry says, as he goes to retrieve his favorite stuffed playmate.
Now, Harry’s dad moves to the next step – modeling. Although some parents might find it a little embarrassing, modeling is the best way to teach your kids just about anything. Harry’s dad thinks it’s great.
“Hey! I really have to use the bathroom!” he says enthusiastically to his son. “Why don’t you come in with me? Let’s go. Let me show you how it’s done!”
He shows his son how he uses the bathroom. “This is so much fun! he laughs. “Someday when you’re big enough, I bet you’ll be able to use the potty like me! Then you can have fun, too! Boy! I love using the potty! I can even wipe myself! Check this out!” He flushes the toilet and waves, “Bye-bye!” as they look into the toilet.

The logic here is clear. Kids want to be like their parents. Whatever parents do, kids naturally want to be able to do, too. And if parents think it’s fun, kids will, too. So, parents have some choices when it comes to potty training:
• We can allow ourselves to become embarrassed and refuse to model this skill.
• We can fight with our kids over the issue and try to force them to be ready before they actually are.
• We can decide to have some fun, take the pain out of the process, and build strong relationships with our kids. How? Use lots of choices – and model, model, model!

When Parents offer choices, model, and make a task fun, learning happens quickly.

When Accidents Happen

If you know how to ride a bike, you probably remember falling a few times before finding the right balance. When we’re learning something new, accidents are bound to happen. So it is with out children when they are not potty-training age.
Successful parents dole out empathy and say, “Oh, you had an accident! That’s too bad! I love you, Sweetie.” They take their time and don’t rush anything, because there’s no set timetable for potty training. Every child has his or her own unique schedule of development.
Some children potty train at two, some when they’re four, and some at every age in between. It all depends on the child. A wise parent locks in empathy and waits for kids to develop the skill on their own. Then, when a child is successful, a parent can say, “You did it! I bet that feels great!”
Unsuccessful parents have a pattern, too. When their kids make a mistake, they get upset, or angry. They say, “You messed your pants again! That’s not nice! We don’t do that! Now you better learn how to do this right! You’re going to sit here until you use the potty!”
You can guess what happens. The child sees frustrated parents, and the child gets frustrated, too. Like any task we’re expected to perform under pressure, potty training becomes an undesirable chore. What a bummer!
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This is directly from Chapter Two, Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood: Practical Parenting from Birth to Six Years by Jim Fay and Charles Fay, Ph.D. - www.loveandlogic.com

I do have 2 kids too, a daughter and a son and I potty trained my daugher when she was 2 but my boy... he is going to be 3 in a couple of months I am starting potty training him but it is VERY hard !! boys are different.. and the most important think like you said do not rush him. I've been asking my friends that have boys too and they say the same thing I haven't find somebody that has potty trained their boy before they are 3. And then after that it is very hard too.. don't think that it is as easy as your daughter :)

Potty training boy's is a little tougher than girls. Boys are slower, but I would just take some time each day to have him sit on a potty so he get use to it. Good times are after he eats a meal, gets up from a nap, and don't forget to pull him away from playtime also some kids for when they are playing. soon he'll get use to the times to use the potty and he will began to go on his own. Be very very patient.

I have a 3 yr old son. he is fully potty trained except for over night....he actually stands and aims!! I tryed potty training him at 17 months or so and he just got discuraged, as did I... you dont want to train too soon. Wait until he's ready... just take him with you in the bathroom, get him intrested in the toilet and its use! then when he starts telling you "i pee'd" or "I'm wet".. those are the warning sings!! then at that point he is old enough! take off those pampers and tell him to tell you if he has to pee!! when you go out tell him... we are going to the market .. if you have to pee tell mommy... just bring a change of pants, and a plastic bag!!

Well, all i will say is that you'll know when he's ready. If you try it for a day or two and he's having accidents almost evey time then it's too early.

If my math is right he would be turning three at the begining of the summer. In that case I'll lend some unconventional advice. I am the mother of three boys, they were all potty trained, outside, in the summer. I have the luxury of a private yard, so I kept them outside most of the day. I let them pee in the bushes. Within two or three days they had the hang of the sensations, and were able to control it while they were inside. I also kept the potty seat outside, just in case it was more than pee. Wearing no pants helps a lot. Sometimes they mistake underwear for a diaper.

So, no pants, outside, and absolutely no training pants. I think it's a recipe for success.

Now is fine to introduce the potty but then you have to wait until he shows interest. This may not be for a year or longer. some good techniques are using cheerio targets that he can aim at and they don't clog the toilet, or letting him sit while you read him a book or he can play with some small toys or figurines. there are books for kids on using the potty a good one is called "everybody poops" with different animals. kids seem to love it.

Hi A. My son wasn't completely potty trained(dry day and night) until he was a solid 3 1/2, almost 4. I tried at 3 and he wanted nothing to do with it. So I gave him a break and started a month later. But every child is different, but I have heard that boys train a little later and slower than girls. I have a 2 1/2 year old and I am not going to attempt it until summer!! Good luck