I need some advice as to how to get my 6 year old to pee on the potty. He will go #2, but forget peeing.. He is in a special needs Kindergarten program at school not just cause he is not potty trained, but because he is developmentally delayed from a genetic thyroid condition called albrights. My hubby and I have tried everything from bribing him with toys, money, food, candy you name it to almost punishing him. WE have stopped all fluids around 6pm (dinner) till next morning and he still wets his diaper. He will pee in the potty if he is running around nacked, but i can't have that 24/7. We have tried just water, we have tried minimal fluids.
I LOVE my family DR. but he even says its a developmental issue. I don't beleive it anymore. He is only 6-8 months developmentally behind. Even by 5 he should be using the potty. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated :) I'm getting alittle frazzzzzled.
I also, forgot to mention his teacher at school is AWESOME! She helps us in a scheduled routine and we try to keep it up at home, but my son wants no parts. he will stand at the potty forever.
S.
I thank everyone for all there advice!!! I think i need to make a very frusterating situation into a Shane situation on Shane's time... I have high hopes that by 1st grade he will b out of diapers and into big boy pants. I may work full time, but I am hoping to hire a teacher and her daugher over the summer to help me out with consistancy while daddy and I are at work. I am holding my head up hirer on this situation... Thank you again :)
when my daughter was training she was into money so we had a piggy bank and she got a coin everytime she went and 2 for poop. Maybe where your son is alittle older he would like to get money and fill a jar to buy something of his own. Also we had a timer and she had to stop playing and go in and try everytime it rang. I think alot of times kids just dont want to stop playing and go in and go. Good luck!
My friend's little girl was really good naked but always peed her pants. Then she decided to not let her pee her pants for a full month and only had her running around naked at the house during that time. After a month she put her back in pants and presto! She never wets them anymore. I know that's a long time so don't even know if it's possible for you.
As for nights, if you're cutting him off at 6 pm and he's still wetting he may not be capable at this point - some kids wet their bed until they're 10. I know some people who get their kids up to pee right before they go to bed but I could never get my kids to do that.
My son is developmentally delayed, too, and on the Autism Spectrum. The therapists working with him couldn't see why he just wouldn't get trained if only we found the right reward system. This went on for a couple years of increasing frustration. I finally realized it wasn't as simple as just sticking to your schedule or your guns or your incentives -- he just had to physically mature so that he "got it." You say your son is only as much as 8 mo. behind, but is that in most physical respects, too? Do other kids with his condition have this problem sometimes, too? My son has low muscle tone and various processing delays. I'm pretty sure that he just didn't feel the sensation or connect the information in time. He didn't realize for the longest time that he could be in control of the situation and earn the praise and rewards. Suddenly, a couple months before his 5th birthday this past fall he got it! Just kind of out of the blue. A couple months after that he started being dry most nights, too. One thing that he's started to do on his own lately, sometimes if he can't go right away, sometimes just for the fun of it, I think, is to flush and then pee into the potty. No one ever suggested that to us, but I think it helps! Good luck with this incredibly frustrating problem. I hope it just suddenly works out for you all, sooner rather than later.
Some boys just don't get it. I wouldn't say your doctor is wrong. My cousin was 8 before he would go pee on the potty. It was a very difficult time because he was in school (he does not have any developmental delays) so my aunt was always running there to give himm new clothes.
Anyway, her doctor said that boys sometimes cannot tell when they have to pee. It is perfectly normal and honestly fighting it will just make it worse because eventually he may not go out of resentment for you trying to push it all the time.
Hope this helps.
Hi S.,
Your Mama's-intuition is right! He's pooing in the potty, and he'll pee in it if he's naked: He Gets It!
And - you are right, people, even "professionals," are often tempted to fall back on disorders, syndromes, (or OMG, even gender) as an excuse for not potty-training.
Have you tried just taking away diapers, and putting him on a pee-schedule? Whenever my potty-training son starts to back-slide (because of mama's and papa's slacking - lol!), we just go back to the schedule to help get him (us) on track, and the issue's usually taken care of.
All the best in pee success!!
T.
I personally do not have any experience with these, but have you tried any sort of "target" for him? I have seen special products in stores, but I've also heard that cheerios or a squirt of whipped cream or shaving cream also works. Some moms use these to help to improve aim for little guys (and reduce clean-up). In your case, I'm thinking that it may help to turn it into a game. If it gets him excited about the idea, he may try a little harder instead of resisting. If nothing else, it may give you another way to try to determine if it is physical, psychological, or some of both...
basically WE are trained at first, so perhaps putting him on the potty 1/2 hr after he drinks something routinely... and my doc said to leave him in wet undies so its just uncomfortable enough (act like you are busy) (I'm assuming you help clean him up if he messes) I'd think of him more like 4 when it comes to potty
