M.D.
The one thing that really got me when some other friends divorced a few years ago was college. I always assumed at 18 children were considered legal and child support stops. In MD, it's until they graduate high school if they turn 18 before. If not, it's until 18.
But college - phew! A friend got her ex to agree to pay 50% of college for both of their girls. That's a lot of money, but it's in the papers. Others have no college payments in them and the kids ill get loans.
I also didn't know about the 401k's, they are assets and each gets 50% of the others, at least in MD. My friend lost $40k and her ex didn't have one, so he profited $40k.
Honestly, if the lawyer is good all of this will come up - and I really hope the lawyer is kick a$$!