I'm gonna try to be direct and to the point since I tend to ramble plz feel free to let me know if I leave out any important details.
*Background/normal daily life- I have a 27 month old son, Jax. We live in a small town about 20 min away from Col. w/ my dad who has emphysema. I own the small house we live in as well as my car so I am able to stay home and take care of both my daddy & my baby. Works great for us all. Now heres where things got wierd.*Thurs. 9/15 I had Breast reduction surgery. We stayed at my mom's since I knew I wld need help. 9-16 I asked Jax's dad to take him so he cld have some fun since his dad had his half bro &sis 4 the weekend, this worked out very well so I asked him to take him again the next day 9-17. Sunday 9-18 Jax stayed with me @ my moms & the next day we came home. You could tell he missed dad but he started acting out almost immediately. Running, screaming from dad for no aparent reason. Like tears streaming down his face and hiding behind me. Telling dad no, not to come near him. Truely terrified.I wanted to blame it on all the changes but I have been making a point to spend the same amount of time with him even tho I can't pick him up and he seems very happy except these outbursts. I don't overly baby him when he does it. So I dn't feel that its for attention. I also wouldn't be too worried about anything except Jax's half brother is 7 and def. a little wierd. He has a horrible mother & I have always known he does not get attention at home and he also still wets the bed. I also know of one time that he had been inapropriate with his younger twin sisters at his moms. I just worry about my son and this is the longest he has ever spent with his dad & that family so does anyone have any similiar situations or any thoughts on this? I am taking him to a dr. this afternoon but I just wonder what yall think.Thanks for any and all your thoughts
*Jst based on my responses I can tell I wasn't too clear. My little guy is 21/2 and he's not upset with his dad he's freaking out at his grandfather (mydad). I pray that nothing is wrong but I can just tell my baby is diff.
I think if his half brother hurt him in (God forbid) some way, that wouldn't explain his terror at his father, right?
Have you asked your son's Dad if something happened? I wouldn't assume anything, but maybe when he goes there next, can you observe for a bit? Wish you the best and glad you are going to the Dr to get another "professional" opinion.
Yes your posting does give the impression it is Jax's dad not yours. Jax has experienced some time in a house where there is no sick person. Kids tend to be afraid of the old and excpessially sick. I would give him time. If he draws ask him to draw his family, his house, his day. and see what he draws. yes I know 2 1/2 right drawing is like scribbles. Try dolls, figurines (Spiderman, hulk, little people, puppets) whatever you have and ask him to play it out. I cannot imagine why going away to his Dads made him affrain of his G-Pa except this, but going to the Drs is a great move Mom, Kudos to you!
Sorry not much help .
Based on your description, I think the weird half brother hurt him....and that your son, only 4, has generalized the pain or trauma to the "dad's" house, therefore he's afraid of his dad. And acting out like this to you sends a clear message that he needs protection from his dad's place.
Sorry I don't have something more positive to say.
