Rsv - Lawrenceville,GA

Holidays is such a hard time to be sick. You want to see your family that you haven't seen in a while and boom...your kids get sick. I hear you though. She really shouldn't come and expose you guys to this. I'm one of those parents that wouldn't go over to someone's house if our kids are sick...just wouldn't do it. It's not fair to expose others to sickness. You are right in feeling that way. But, unfortunately you've voiced your opinion even though others didn't 'hear' it. Sadly, your husband should have told his sis the concern. My husband won't let anyone in this house if they are sick and he won't go over to someone else's house if they are sick and that includes his brothers that he only sees once a year. We have to set our priorities...and as you said, yours is your family/kids and it should be.

There is nothing else you can do except start building up the immune system of your own kids. I would give them vitamin C each and every day. Depending on their age/size. My 2yo, when she presents herself with a bit of a runny nose, I give her 2000mg daily and the runny nose stays away. There are other things out there to boost the immune system. We use Beta Glucan (you can get at a health food store). It's awesome stuff!

With RSV, your sis-in-law could give her child colloidal silver in a nebulizer. I've done this for pneumonia and it went away in just a day or two. Love it!

I hope all goes well.

M., I'm sorry. My baby had RSV and I wouldn't wish it on anyone's kids. I also don't go to b-day parties, church, etc when my kids are sick. It's just not fair. You are NOT over-reacting. I would have had the same reaction as you. I would just not let them have too much contact with their cousin and make your opinion clear that you only have your children's best interest at heart. Just play it off as the over-protective, anal mom. I do that all the time...enforcing guest hand-washing when they are infants, etc. They'll roll their eyes, but who can really get mad at an over-protective momma?

You are 100% in the right on this and it sounds like your hubby caved in to the pressure of family. He is supposed you be YOUR partner not theirs!!

I think I would stick to my guns on this one. I know she is upset, but don't be afraid to explain why you feel this way. RSV is can be very serious and she should have at the very least ASKED if it was okay.

You and your husband were absolutely right in what you did! Your SIL is being very selfish right now to even think abou coming and exposing your children to this. RSV is serious enough that my premature daughter had to have $2400/month shots from oct-april her first year of life beacuse it could have been deadly for her to catch it. Now, it should not be that extreme for healhy 2-3 year olds but it is still extremely bad and hard on the kids who get it (as well as the parents taking care of them). I have had to miss family birthdays and holidays because of my daughter being sick, and it is hard. However, I feel better knowing that I'm saving my nieces and even my grandmother from exposure. You are being a good and concerned parent-do not let them make you feel guilty or otherwise!!!!!

If my child has a runny nose and we have a play date planned, I warn the other parent and let the decision be theirs. Even if I know my child is not contagious, other parents may not feel that way. It's called common courtesy. Your SIL needs to get over herself. My older daughter had RSV at 18mo and she couldn't go to school for a week. She had breathing treatments and everything, too. There is no way I would let her be around other kids. Your SIL is being a little bit selfish. And your husband should definatley be on your side! And you shouldn't have to fluff her up about how she is a great parent. Sounds like she thinks life is still all about her. She needs to wake up and realize her kid's health is more important and so is the health of her nieces. There are some arguments worth fighting and the health and well being of your children are one of them. I know you gotta do what you have to do and it's not easy. In-laws never are, but whatever you decide, let it be your decision, weigh all the facts and talk to your husband. But you have every right to feel this way, even if you have to take the high road. Just know that most of us moms agree with you. Good luck to you!

Let your husband know that you are making a reservation at a local motel/hotel, go there with your children for the time period, and lock the door!! The kids are your job, usually.
S. B.

Maybe sister-in-law is upset that you asked your girlfriend and also that her dr said that it was ok to travel.I would try as best as you can to keep your kids away from niece and try and keep your keeps from playing with nieces toys and make sure you wash everything niec touches with Lysol wipes and lysol spray.Hope everything turns out ok.How long is sister-in-law visting.Where does Father-in-law live maybe sister-in-law can stay with him.Is there a Mother-in-law in the picture since you didnt mention anything about Mother-in-law