****Seeking a Help Group for Abusive Teens in Phx or Surrounding Areas

Updated on March 03, 2013
R.G. asks from Phoenix, AZ
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My daughter is 18 and is a senior in high school...which she rarely attends...she is to gradurate this year and I now know that is not..... She is rarely home..like it's a flop house after day's of partying, She drinks, uses weed a LOT, sells her body for money ( i'm just sick over this )... She is exremely abusive towards me, I'd actually say she hates me. Ok, I want her gone, but begining an adult ( i use that word VERY losely ), she skips school a LOT, lies, she has stabbed me, cuss's me out and most recently, just about bit my thumb off.....yes I we call the Police everytime, and yes, she has her very own Cop and as of today, there is an open case for her.

She no longer has a auto ( I sold it ) , no phone, no computer and ran way over the " thumb " insadent, leaving with no shoes ( she fell over our XL dog ) I have her pockbook, wallet...so basically, she has nothing on her and most likely went up north ( how I do not know ) to a guy she has been seeing.....The police said we can not pack up her room, that she has right's being 18 and I thinks that complete BS.... I fear for my life in all honesty......So, how can I get her out of our home ???? I'm really looking forward to hear from other parents that have incurred the same... Oh and this has been going on for years, it just keeps getting worse Wow, it was nice to vent. *

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There are rules to this household, yet she just leaves, leaving me no way to enforce the consentquences, If i do try and talk to her.. she just put's her fingers in her ears ( yep, very childess !!) and it pisses me off....If I have to evict, in AZ, she has 30 day's...that's 30 days and nights of no sleep....the OFP is a great idea, dont know why it didn't occur to me... I will do that tomorrow...BUT, having her served is a different question...as I do not ever know where she is........The police told us Friday night that she has rights...PFFT !!!... I want to pack it up and move on with my life.... I've no way to contact her, she is gone for 2 days now and her brat of a boyfriend will not return my call's or text's... I'm sure they are just parting the weekend away, without any thought of the next day... Ive been looking up AZ law's and I can not find anything that is about a child abusing a parent...it's the other way around... I can not get her into a hospital, well, I can maybe, but I've done that route before and she'll just run and the max stay is 3 day's...hardly enough.... SHE WILL NOT AGREE TO ANY TYPE OF HELP WHATS OF EVER....and she is an adult, so she must. BTW, we do not have a Case Worker....during the age's of 16 & 17, she did get mental health but since she turned 18, it's Impossible to find Adult help.... I've searched everywhere and then again. she must consent, I can not turn her in as a missing person, as the police have address's and not a runaway, she's an adult.....this is VERY fustring to say the least..... I can pack up her room, this is not t he 1st time she's moved out

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M.B.

answers from Austin on

Unfortunately, with her being 18 now, you cannot mandate her attending a help group or something like that without a court order.

I would look into filing an eviciton notice and/or a restraining order against her.... that way, if she does come back, they can legally pick her up and maybe that would get the legal wheels rolling to get her some court-mandated help.

I'm sorry you've had to deal with this...... there are some teens, because of the many problems they may have (I'm not saying you caused them..... some kids, because of the choices they've made, have messed up their minds big time with drugs and alcohol), that they are no longer safe to be around.

Is there a social worker that can help you through this minefield? Good luck with all of that......

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C.O.

answers from Washington DC on

welcome to mamapedia!!

So you want to ship your daughter off to another state, instead of keeping her in Los Angeles with you?

I'm sorry. this has to be a tough situation to be in...when did you lose control of your home? Do you have rules set up and consequences for breaking those rules? Yes, I see that you have taken away her phone and car...however - those are not really consequences for an 18 year old.

If you fear for your life and your daughter left home - why can't you pack up her room and change the locks? Your post is back and forth and I'm having a hard time following it. Is she at home or has she gone up north?

If she has a police officer assigned to her - what is the status of the case?

there are just too many variables and questions to honestly answer this question.

Here is a home in Phoenix. http://heartsandhomes.org/

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X.O.

answers from Chicago on

What a tough situation for you. Don't you have a social worker who can help guide you through this process? They should know both the laws and the procedures to get you some help.

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K.G.

answers from San Diego on

If you fear for your life, go to court, file a restraining order, and file an eviction suit against her.

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☆.A.

answers from Pittsburgh on

Would she agree to Teen Challenge or that type of wilderness/outdoor challenge?
Can you put her things in storage? You may not be able to get rid of her stuff, but you can probably change your licks. Then let HaeR go through the proper channels to gain access for her things.
Tough live is going to have to happen--sooner or later. Might as well be now (sounds like you've started already).
Can you report her as a missing person? A runaway?

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