I am currently 11 wks pregnant with my 4th child. Early on I was spotting and concerned I went to the doctor, found out that I was originally pregnant with twins but miscarried one. So now at 11 wks the baby has a strong heartbeat, everything seems fine and I'm feeling great, my question is are there any mothers out there with a similiar situation and if so what was your outcome, did you give birth to a healthy baby?
Hello,
I had the same situation. I gave birth to a healthy baby who is now 5 1/2 years old. I hope you have a wonderful pregnancy and a healthy baby!
Yes, I had this situation. I had some bright red spotting at about this same time as you and went to the doctor. He could see two amniotic sacs, but one was empty. The empty sac eventually just disolved. The other sac was perfectly fine, and so was the rest of my pregnancy and delivery. I had a beautiful healthy baby girl who is now 5 years old.
How wonderful for you to be having baby #4. I have two and would absolutely love to have 4. Good luck to you. Congratulations!
I work in a Newborn Intensive Care Unit. An early miscarrage of one twin is more common than you would think. The OBs also sometimes see twins at an early ultrasound (around 5-6 weeks) and when they look again around 12 weeks one twin has disappeared. In my mother's day pregnancy wasn't confirmed until you had missed two periods - well into the first trimester. Now we are able to confirm a pregnancy soo early and get ultrasounds. We see these things that our mothers never would have seen. Early in my career I remember women delivering term infants that the woman thought should be four to six weeks premature. The doctors at that time would tell her she just didn't remember when her last period was because it was so long ago. Most likely she had miscarried a twin (which she thought was a period) and carried the remaining twin to term. Your baby will most likely be fine (I hate to say there is never a 100% guarentee. I have had collegues where either she miscarried one twin or the twin wasn't there at the 12 week ultrasound and went on to have a healthy baby. What we forget is, it is so amazing that one cell becomes a baby. A lot of mistakes can happen during that first part of development, which is why many miscarriages occur in the first trimester. Many times things weren't developing properly and nature "gets rid of it". All the best! I have four kids and love it! It's busy, but fun.
I spotted with my son at 8 weeks - we had just had an ectopic pregnancy before conceiving him so I was freaking out. The spotting never got heavy or turned red. My OBGYN told me many women get "ghost periods" where you spot around the time you should've had your period up to the 2nd trimester sometimes.
If you were miscarrying you'd feel labor-like cramps and would be seeing a dramatic increase in blood which would turn from brown to black to bright red. You would not be able to be surfing the internet. So, I think you're o.k.
Hang in there - sorry about the twin - it happened to my friend too, and her son turned out to be a very remarkable little boy - I think God made it up to her by giving her an extra cool kid.
This also happened with me, but in my case it was my first pregnancy. Very scary! I was 11 weeks along and began to spot one morning. That spotting turned quickly into a heavy flow. I was rushed to the ER and as my husband and I lay there crying, the doc began to pull small amounts of tissue that I began to pass. We feared the worse. The doctor then performed an ultrasound and to our amazement, the screen showed a little bouncing baby. She is 5 now and healthy and happy as ever.
Just as another post said, twins that don't fully develop is not as rare as we may think. They may pass as in our cases, but a lot more are simply absorbed into the body.
I wish you the best with your growing baby!
hey there -
i miscarried a twin 3 months or so along in my first pregnancy; the remaining baby was born normally and turns 21 tomorrow :)
best of luck and lots of love :)
S.
I had the same thing happen when i got pregnant last year and i now have a beautiful healthy 7month old daughter, i wouldnt worry about it too much until the doctors start to worry, just make sure you keep all regular appointments and monitor movements once the lil one starts moving and congrats!
Hi R.,
It didn't happen to me but to a friend. She had already confirmed twins with an ultrasound. Two weeks later,it was gone. Her doc called it"the missing twin"????
She was very upset, it was her first pregnancy, and the doctor seemed almost to make light of it, like it didn't REALLY matter, and that it "Happens ALL the Time", and she should just get over it....
Well, she did switch doctors, and had a healthy baby!! Her daughter is now almost 20.....
Good Luck, I'm sure everything will be fine....
L.
This happened to my sis. Her other baby was fine! She's now 5 or 6. Sorry for your loss! Don't worry too much! Hopefully all will be well.
My friend aurora went through the same thing only she was doing the usual urine test at the office and misscarried one, she still showed pregnaunt and nine months later had a beautiful baby girl who is 17 now. Do not worry it will only stress the baby out just say prayers.
I have spotted with 2 of my 3 preganacies and was told that it was the attachment phase. That's when the baby attaches to your uterus. I have 3 healthy children.
I spotted throughout my third preganacy and was 32 when I delivered. And the baby was a healthy little boy who is now 12 years old. He had no physical problems. Spotting really freaked me out too. I just worried, and my Mother told me she spotted with 2 or her 5 kids. So maybe its something your Mom did too.
I guess in talking to other moms you really need to take it easy. And with other children to take care of it is not easy. So, get some help. And I was also told not to pick up the other baby who was 3 years old. Its easy when you are on baby number one or two. But this is baby number 4, so ask for help. Good luck and God Bless. I was also told to keep my feet up a couple times a day. I do hope this helps. Don't listen to other's advice. If you aren't cramping and are still concerned just call your doctor. They have seen it all. I've heard of women getting their periods for the full 9 months! They can also do a hormone check.
Hi R.,
I am so sorry for your loss. A friend of mine recently went through this very thing with her 5th pregnancy. Ultimately she gave birth to the remaining twin in February...a beautiful, healthy little girl. She had lost the first one right around the end of her first trimester. There was no birth of the second twin as her body reabsorbed it. Hope this sets your mind at ease. Wishing you well!
M.
I was 6 weeks pregnant when I was told it was twins, than I was 8 weeks pregnant when I "lost" one of the twins. This was with my second pregnancy and my son is now 18 mths and 30 pounds of future linebacker fun! :) when it happened, I wasn't sure how to feel, I almost felt guilty for being happy that one survived, because I also felt like mouring the child that I had lost.
But I had/have to remember that everything happens for a reason and sometimes it's not for me to understand.
Take it easy for a little while, it will be fine. my son was delivered a day before his due date via c-section because he was SO big, they wished they had taken him a week earlier ha ha. He was 9.5 and 21 1/2 inches. Healthy and FULL of energy.
good luck mama
Hi R.,
This is very common - while I haven't experienced it, I know 2 people that have. It's called the Vanishing Twin Syndrome. The earlier ultrasounds are done in the pregnancy, the higher likelihood you'll see twins. Being at 11 weeks which I think is pretty early, its not surprising if you were found to be carrying twins. Many women won't even know if they were, as for some, one fetus gets absorbed into the other (or for others there are more miscarriage-like symptoms). Don't worry though, your baby will not be affected! Going forward your pregnancy will be normal - as "normal" as a pregnancy can get at least (!!!) and you have a beautiful baby to look forward to!
It happened to my friend. She was also on her fourth baby when it happened. Her daughter is now almost two. A while back she confided in me that, she wouldn't say she was happy she'd lost the twin, but she didn't know how she would have handled two newborns along with her other three children. Apparently disappearing twins are a common occurence. So I wouldn't worry too much. Congratulations on this new baby!
This to happened to me I was about 7 weeks pregnant and right before my first appointment at 8 weeks I start bleeding I thought I was having a miscarriage so the doctor saw me right away he did an ultra sound and showed me where there was an empty placenta bag where me second baby was. I was nervous until I got out on my first trimester I carried my baby to 37 weeks he came a little early but was healthy he is now 20 months. Since I never knew I was pregnant with twins to begin with it did not effect emotionally because I was happy and relieved I was still pregnant and I ended up having my healthy son. It is a lot more common than people think but they either associate it with a period (which is why some women don’t find out for a few months) or just spotting and never go in to find out that they in fact miscarried a child since they are still pregnant with another. My doctor did say there is no way to be 100% certain that it was a second fetus all they can do is assume by what the pictures show and your symptoms since it is to soon in the pregnancy and any test would not show negative since I was still pregnant. Don’t worry and just enjoy your pregnancy. The baby doesn't need the extra stress and I am sure everything will be just fine. Good luck.
Hi R.,
I have a friend who went through the same thing you did. She was 22 wks pregnant with twins. Lost one and the doctor was trying to save the 2nd one. A week later the she miscarry the 2nd twin as well. Continue to follow-up with the doctor regular. Good luck.
