L.M.
J., First of all my heart goes out to you. I personally have not been through this but my little sister has and I was there every step of the way. The courts did order them to see some sort of "therapist" person and after only a few visits they too decided on what was best for these 2 children. Mind you they were only 1 and 2 1/2. They ended up giving them 50/50 and My x brother in law gets them 120 NIGHTS, so his child support was cut in half! He gets them 10 days a month. The schedule is as follows.
monday - mom
tuesday - dads at 8:30pm
Wednesday - dads
Tthursday - moms at 8:30pm
Friday - Dads at 8:30 pm
Saturay - dads
Sunday - moms at 8:30pm
Monday - moms
Tuesday - moms
Wednesday - moms
Thursday - moms
Friday - moms
Saturday Moms
Sunday - moms
then repeat. This is the most unstable and rediculas schedule for these babies. Their dad is living with his parents and girlfriend and there are a lot of other circumstances too but all I can say to you is those boys are in school and maybe that can give you a little bit of pull for stability in their live. My sister was going to meet with her attorney sat. because her little one is going into kind. but her new baby passed away unexpedley on Wed. so that has been postponed for a while. Anyway if there are any Q that you may have for her specificaly, I will be more that happy to ask her for you. Good luck and you will be in my prayers!
L.