Seeking Moms of Two Year Olds

You have to take things away from her and send her to time- out. Always explain to her why she is being punished so she doesn't become confused. After you excuse her from time-out
always hug and kiss her and tell her she love her.

Immediately kneel down, hold her hands firmly tell her We do NOT hit/kick/bite/throw/try to jump off the sofa and land on your older sibling! Then walk her to the time out spot and have her appologize to you EVERYTIME. Apology should be more than "sorry mom"... It sould reinforce WHY she was put there... "Sorry mom for kicking you. We don't kick" would be good :-) If she's a speaker... My guy isn't. :-)(also a hug is good.) Do not sit with her. Put her in the spot and leave. Do not speak to her while she is in time out. If she gets up... Put her back and start the timer over. One minute per year of age. Make sure she is maintaining eye contact with you when you are talking to her and ask her "do you understand" then wait for her answer.

There is a time to play and a time to be serious. She will learn this eventually... Thankfully my guy (3rd child) isn't a kicker... But he does test the boundries himself also. Draw the line and stick to it. They learn pretty quick... Then life is easier for you as a parent because your kid knows your serious about the rules...

Evaluate how many "chances" you are giving her. Do you say no once, twice, twenty times before acting on it? I use the no.....one.... two.... uhoh method. no is the command.One is your first warning... If your not reacting BY 2 I am moving to fix the problem (take the toy away, remove you from the situation, get you, etc)And my one and two are literally a second apart. My 2 yr old knows if I say one he moves... My almost 5 yr old and almost 8 yr olds rarely even need the one... (but they know if I use it, the move).

Hi D.,
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What I would do is firmly tell her,"No kicking mama." Then I would put her in time out. If she is still in a crib I would put her in the crib or if she isn't maybe in a pac-n-play if she doesn't stay in time out. I would tell her, when you tell mama sorry you can come out. Be consistant. EVERY time she does it immediately put her in isolation. She will get it after a few times. 2 year olds want to be with you and where they can see what is going on. (the key is time out should be in a place where she is not with others and can not even see others).

Be firm. You tell her what is appropriate and don't put up with it. If she learns now that she can do that just think of what it will be like when she is a teenager!

Be strong and lead and train the best you know how.

You can do it! If you are a mom... you are no sissy!.... I am learning that myself.

Redirect and tell her what she CAN do and make it fun... these types of phases didn't last too long with my son because we didn't make a huge big deal of it, just redirected him into telling him what he could do instead.

Teach her "gentle"

Don't use the word No...you've likely used it so frequently it has lost is "power" Instead try...

"You may NOT kick Mommy" Redirect her behavior into kicking something appropriate like a ball. So you would say

"You may not Kick Mommy, Kicking is for soccer" and give her a ball to kick.

You might need to evaluate WHY she is kicking you, is she trying to get your attention? if so you could say.

"You may NOT kick Mommy, (take her hand and pat your arm with it) Do you need something?"

With two year olds it's aaaaalll about modeling correct behaviors and redirecting unwanted behaviors.

HTH

D.,

I have 5 boys and my 2 year old is doing the same thing right now, and he is so darn cute its all I can do not to laugh at him! Sometimes I even bite my lip so that I don't smile, I give him a stern look and tell him no hitting. Most of the time that will end it right there, however if hes tired hes worse about it and then a nap helps.

I usually will just put him on the floor if I'm holding him at the time he does it, which he doesn't like, I will also just walk away from him after I tell him not to hit, which he also doesn't like. If you stay consistent he will outgrow it. Its just a phase.

D.,

This is a phase, but now is the time to assert your authority and teach her to respect your decisions. Be consistent with your consequences to her behavior and make the consequence apply to the action. If she hits, put her in a time-out, but don't take away tv time unless she was watching a program when she hit you and it is her favorite thing in the whole world.

Right now she is learning what and how she can control her world, but she needs to learn to listen and follow directions too. Try to stay patient and keep your temper in check. This phase will pass and when she turns 5 or 6 you will be worrying about other issues.

Good luck and let us know how it goes!

-C..

my 2 year old hits me.. he says "hit momma" and then he hits me... he doesnt listen to no ,,, momma crying. or anythig else -- time outs sort of work..

they will be nicer when they are 3

Put her in time out every time she does it. Eventually, she'll get the hint; my 2 year old daughter does it too.

My 2 1/2 yr old does the exact same thing. I warn her and then when she stills does it I put her in the corner or on a "naughty spot". After a few minutes of not acknowledging her, she realizes that it is not so funny anymore. She'll cry and then after she has been there for a few minutes, I have her apologize and she is fine. Hope it helps. Let me know if it works for you!

My 2 1/2 year old is going through this stage and if she hits or kick I simply tell her we don't hit. and that it hurts mama or whoever. If she happens to be sitting on my lap and hits/kicks again I make her get down and she doesn't like that so the hitting/kicking stops.
Sometimes i will simply walk away from her and tell her no hitting etc. she doesn't like to be ignored.

hey D. it get better when they are like five then it will all go away again but when she kick or laugh at you when you tell her no put her in time out away from what ever she like for two min if she get up on her own put her right back good luck girls are fun i have 5 that i got pass that stage

Hi D..

My daughter is 21 months old... not quite 2, but she likes to push the envelope every single day.

For discipline, we use time outs. For non-physical stuff I use the 1, 2, 3 method. If I get to 3... time out. For physical stuff...the first time she does it I say 'we do not hit/kick/bite each other. If you do it again, you get a time out.' Many times it stops there. Other times I KNOW she is trying to test me... she has the look in her eye and will do it again. So, time out. I reinforce 'we do not hit/kick/bite eachother, that is why you are getting a time out. Do you understand?' Normally she will say yes, be very upset about the time out.

She stays in the time for about 1.5 minutes. (1 minute per year of age) When I get her out, I will say 'you did x... are you sorry? We don't do x'. Then we hug it out.

Now, you may be thinking that your little energy bomb will not stay in a time out. I found a solution that works for us in that department. The high chair. We have a ranch style house with a long hall where all the bedrooms are. So, I move the highchair down the hall, it faces the end wall, I make sure all the doors are close, I strap her into the chair and THAT is the time out.

When she is a little older and I feel she can sit in a chair by herself for a time out, I will just move a little chair to that spot. And no, the high chair has not taken on any kind of negative connotation with her. It's the location. There have been times I've told her she's getting a time out and she will actually start to go down the hall already.

Time outs do not work with every child. They work with mine. Once you find something that works, be consistent. Kids are SMART! If you aren't consistent then they know they have a good chance of NOT getting any sort of punishment for their bad choices. They WILL test us...but they also have to know once something is determined to be a bad choice... continuing to make that choice will result in punishment of some sort.

I like time outs because it is immediate. Kids live in the here and now.

Good luck!

I would not give her the attention she is getting from it. Instead drop everything and say "I don't like being kicked" and walk away into another room. I think it is an important social lesson to learn.

My daughter laughs at me when I scold her too. She is a very good little girl and has a silly sense of humor. I spoke with my mom about it and she says that I used to do the same thing. My mom swears that she will grow out of it. My daughter also used to hit me when she was frustrated, I was told not to react to this, since she was looking for attention (regardless of it being good attention or bad attention...she just wanted my attention). After I started ignoring her when she acted this way, hitting and such, she stopped. Instead I would give her all of my attention when she was being a good girl.

So far it's working. It's hard to do as a parent, but just try to calm yourself down and be emotionally in control of the situation. It works wonders.