E.M.
You are correct about the loss of control and bullying ("vaccinate your kids or else"). Your concerns are well founded...deaths and illness from vaccines do happen. See the latest on Gardasil.
I found the name of one Nat doc when I went to a home birth meeting a few months ago. He was in Wickenburg...but he may be near Sun City now...I have not yet gone or even called yet...but I will try to look up the info for you.
I am sure there are some regular docs who would be more flexible...but you may have to drive a bit more to see them. My fav regular doc treated new vaccines that came out like the drugs that come out. He would wait a few years to see what damage really happened before recommending them.