Should I Apologize or Let It Go?

Yeah--slippery slope. My son has an "invisible" page ONLY for games. And only I can log him on. It's all in the settings.

Let it go, no you don't need to apologize. If her parents are going to allow her to be on Facebook then they need to be the one to monitor her activity, etc.

I would just let it go, maybe her parents monitor her account to and just removed any adults. If they ask you can explain it otherwise don't worry about it. It's probably for the best.

I won't even add my niece as a friend, I also agree that FB is not appropriate for younger ones. There are plenty of kid friendly web sites out there, plus email and gee why not talk on the phone lol!

For the record I know lots of parents that allow their kids to use the games under the parents account. I play the games myself and in the games there is really nothing inappropriate. (Just my 2 cents!)

Facebook is for adults! I think it has user guidelines of being at least 13 in order to be on Facebook and for good reason. Other parents who lie about their childrens age in order to set up an account for them should be shamed!
In my humble opinion you didn't expose you daughter's friend to factory farming, her parents did by allowing her to be on an adult content website.

*EDIT: I double checked on FB under USER TERMS, there is a clear guideline that says you must be 13 to use FB.
So again I say if her friends parents set up accounts and lie about their childrens ages, well then they should be prepared for the repercussions of the lies.

Your FB friends can only see communications between you and other people who are also their FB friends. If I am friends with John and Jane and comment on something John posted, Jane can only see the communication if she is also friends with John. Unless your daughter's friend is also friends with the video poster, she didn't see the communication between you two.
I understand you not wanting your daughter to have a FB page, but I don't understand why you let her use yours to play games. There are plenty of games that she can play online that aren't on a social network site. Also, if you're worried about what you're exposing other people's kids to, don't friend them on social network sites at all.
Good luck!

Don't sweat it. You have no idea why she went off your list. Maybe her parents didn't want her doing it, or maybe she just thought you and your friends were boring. =)
I don't think children should be on there anyway. There are other ways for them to play games.

I like my facebook, but I will not put children (even relatives) on my "friends" list. There is just too much information out there that isn't appropriate. But to answer your question, no, I wouldn't worry about it. Most likely they have forgotten about it already.

Wow! I made mistakes on FB as a "FB newbie" a couple years ago, too. It happens when you don't understand how mixing people on 1 account or exactly how the system works, can impact a whole lot of people.
(My kids explained it all to me- how to post, what not to post and to whom, what my settings should be for max. privacy....)

I would apologize. Explain to the mom that you hadn't quite figured everything out yet on FB, and you are learning who has access to things.

I would encourage you to let your daughter have her own account later. 7 is a bit young. There are a lot of security settings you can control. A rule we have here in our house: I am FB friends with all my kids. Period. I can get on their account anytime and see what they are posting, responding to, etc....infractions by other kids means 1) my kids unfriend them and infractions by my kids means 2) their account is gone!

My 15 year old had a FB friend who used the f bomb in just about everything he said. It was a kid that my son knew from class....he did request a lot of friends when he first got his page set up. (no one wants to have 6 friends!) My son had to unfriend him and cannot have him back on his page. ever.

With rules and lots of supervision, I believe FB is OK. Key is both of those. Just like you wouldn't send your kids into new places by themselves, so they don't have FB accounts unsupervised. We also have time limits every day on the computers...none of this FBooking at midnight stuff.

There's a reason why you have to be a certain age to be on FB. Maybe this is an example of why. Good luck.

No need to apologize to the friend's parent as they must control what they allow their daughter to do on the Internet. If I were you, I would not allow my daughter to play any games on a social website. Too many opportunities for issues.

There are so many free cool games online for kids now. I found a bunch for kids that I tutor just by googling math games. One site has educational as well as just fun games and has become a favorite of teachers: http://www.funbrain.com/ Here is another one that your daughter is sure to love:
http://www.coolmath-games.com/

No need to keep her on facebook.

I am very pro-social media, but there is a reason why FB has an age limit of 13. I am kind appalled that she has lots of friends that are already on FB. When parents teach their kids it is OK to "bend the rules" they are sending the message that this is OK to do that with other stuff in life. Is that really the message you want to send your daughter? Is that really the message other parents should be sending their children. I have no problem with my daughter having a FB account... when she is 13. I would probably have a conversation with the other parent about what happened, but I'm not sure you really have anything to apologize for. As far as I am concerned, you did NOT expose the other girl to anything. Her parents did when they said it was OK for their daughter to get a FB account, despite the fact she does not meet the age requirements.

I'd let it go. I mean it was your Facebook page, you have the right to put up what you like and this girl already had a page so as you say she is able to look at all kinds of stuff on there and really has no reason to read things you comment on. If she is not friends with your friend that posted the video, she likely didn't even see it. I usually cannot see things that my friends of my friends post if I am not friends with them. Anyway, I wouldn't worry about it. I think you are right not to let your daughter have her own page, she is so young!! Good job mama;)

I think that this is a non-issue...no need for an apology. In the future, watch the settings. I also agree with the poster who said that 7yo is too young for Internet social sites, no matter what she's doing there.

i would find out why and apologize if need be. i would not think something called factory farming would have been what it actually was.

Some of my relatives talked me into going on Facebook and I found it to be a huge pain in the rump. I never go on there. I got invited to do all kinds of stuff and take quizzes and IQ tests. No thanks.
I have had a few people from high school find me which was kind of nice, but I don't see why a small child would need to be on facebook. There are plenty of puzzles and computer games for kids that aren't involved with social networking.
I wouldn't really be offended. I would just assume that the other mom unfriended out of realizing that facebook might not be appropriate.
You can talk to the mom if you feel there was anything that might have been seen as inappropriate so you can apologize, but I wouldn't want my kids communicating over an "adult" account.
That's just me.
One of my son's friends IM's me and asks me girlfriend advice, but I know his mother and asked her permission first. It's all pretty innocent stuff...like how come a girl acts like she likes you one day and won't talk to you the next. It's not on facebook or anything. It's personal instant messaging and I tell his mom what we talk about. I tell him the same thing she does so it just backs her up too.

In my personal opinion, I wouldn't worry about what your daughter's friends do on facebook or not. She is only 7. There are other things she can do on the computer for fun. This way, you don't have worrying about friends or unfriends if you just don't deal with it at all.

Best wishes.

I don't know why "factory farming" would be such an issue. We learned that a long time ago as kids how meat is processed & we were fine w/it, found it fascinating & never gave it another thought. If y'all or the friend's family are against meat processing then that may make a difference but the friend should let you know of that or at least the parents but if the friend is your daughter's friend then your daughter needs to find out why the friend is no longer on FB as your friend. If they're friends then the other friend may be more open to talk to your daughter about it rather than an adult, which would be you asking 'why' instead of your daughter. You can also try to find out who the parents are & try to find out through them. Hope this helps, good luck!

Why don't you sign her up for facebook then instead of letting her on there to play, redirect her to farmville.com to play the games? She just needs the facebook to log in, but when its the zynga website its only the games. You don't see posts or anything from facebook.
As for apologizing, find out if thats why she "un-friended" you and if it was apologize.

i do not friend any kids at all, i do not want to be that "window'... hopefully she unfriended you because her parents woke up and realized that she shouldnt be friends with adults on there (imo, shouldnt even be on there at all) ... and what that other mom wrote about her only being able to see communication from mutual friends is NOT necessarily true at all... and everyone should know.. that you have to (and should) set your privacy settings very specifically for other people to not see your stuff, and for your friends to not see other peoples stuff, which is exactly why i deny any requests from any kids, including my 13 yo cousin... i cant control what some of my friends post, and i dont want to worry about what the kids are seeing on my page.... just asking for trouble.

Actually, until you speak to the girl, you have no idea why she unfriended you.

If you find out that she unfriended you because of the video, then you should apologize.

I think your daughter is too young to be on any social networking site, Facebook included, even if it is your account and done for a farming game. At age 7, her mind should be using more imagination to develop so I hope that is encouraged. Beyond that, if she really wants to do a farming game, you might look into farming games such as Wii's Harvest Moon. I haven't played it but I do have family members who have and they enjoy it. IMHO kids that young should not be on the internet.
Someone who already posted a response said the internet is inherently evil. Well, it isn't the internet that is evil, its a few of the folks who use it. And I just don't think I would open any doors that might expose my youngster to that.
And you might find out why this de-friending occurred. If it was something you did, you should apologize.

How old is your daughter and what is factory farming?

your question is part of the reason I haven't signed up for Facebook. I see too many questions on here about how people get their feelings hurt or it causes heart-ache and drama of some sort.

Age 7 - she needs to play on starfall.com or pbskids.org or buy her a program and you can play with her. But if you still stick with the farm game -- is it Farmville? I have $5 Farm Cash code that was stuck to my green onions package the other day. PM me if you want them.

I am sooo glad my kids aren't on FB or MS or TWITTER! Society tries so hard to treat them like young adults. Kids are growing up way too fast these days, and their parents are supporting the idea. Whatever happened to kids being kids? There are no excuses. It's all about up-bringing in the home and the choices that are made. I tell my kids over & over, just wait. You will appreciate it when you are older and get to do those kinds of things. Let kids be kids. Wish society would bring back "family time, family life, family friendly". I know I must be living in a bubble, but at least those are 3 areas I don't have to worry about. Good luck to you and yours.

I am confused. You commented on a friend of yours video? The only way your daughter's friend would see that information is if you were both friends with that person. Otherwise she doesn't see it and so there is another reason why she isn't on your friends list. Maybe she deleted her account. Might be she didn't have permission to be on there. I would just ask.

Wow, this right here, illustrates why technology is inherently evil. How nice was it back in the day when we didn't have to worry about this kinda thing? I wouldn't sweat it, it's not like you exposed any kids to porno or anything. Seriously. God the internet is getting out of control