Sister-in-law Troubles

First off, you're not abusing mamasource. This is for mother's and ANY problems they may face not just problems concerning only their children. This woman is your kids aunt, therefore her actions affect them as long as she's around them. Sorry I just thought that comment was a little out of line and things like that cause problems when there shouldn't have been any to begin with. Back to your SIL, is she the type of person that seeks attention constantly? That could be the reason for the suicide comments BUT it could be sincere. My best friend killed himself 8 years ago so I know how devastating it can be to family and friends so if I were you I would err on the side of caution when it comes to suicide. When it comes to her husband I would do the best I can to ignore it all together. You can't change her mind about him and the more you try the more she is going to want to call him and be with him. I definitely think she needs some kind of counseling. Whatever happens good luck.
J.

I understand where you are coming from. Maybe the only thing to do is get her in the counseling and stay by her side. I know its hard! You know that saying, " Love Is Blind ". I know that one very well! So just keep trying and do the " Intervention " and see where that goes. Hang in there!

The comment on killing herself is a concern. However, I do have to say a lot of people who talk about killing themselves, won't. It is more their way of telling others they need help. So, I do agree that she needs counseling, but you really can't force her to do so. I can tell, even though she's driving you nuts, that you really do care about her. So tell her! Tell her your concerns with the way she is talking and your concerns with her husband. If her husband doesn't even want her around all of her family, then there really is a problem with that man. He may be possessive which can lead to many domestic problems. Sounds like she is being emotionally/mentally abused by what you said of their conversations. Do what you think is right for her and her child. If you feel intervention is the way to go, it sounds like you know what you are doing... also if that was an agreement for her to come home and stay, the family should hold her to it!

A.-

I would make sure she seeks counseling right away. She needs help quick. Make sure you do it soon, before she does do something that she should not. She may need you guys more right now than she ever will. Be there for her and by her side like you are. You seem like a great sister in-law! She is lucky to have a sister-in-law like you. Wish you luck!

C.