Sit or Stand??

The thing about standing to pee is it makes peeing and pooping TOTALLY different. He has to go in with a plan and you can't just let whatever happens happen.

I'd train him sitting so he can just relax and do what he does. ONCE he's trained and knows his body signals well enough to know when he's gonna poop and when it's just pee, THEN let him try standing.

Also, you don't want to have him stand at a potty chair, so standing to pee is only for when he's tall enough to stand in front of the big potty.

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T.

My son was 3 1/2 before being fully potty trained for pee and poop. He was never one for the little kiddie potty, so we put a Bjorn seat on the regular toilet. He learned by peeing sitting down. I think they really need to do that. The kids seats have a guard so it doesn't go everywhere. Now he likes to "pee like daddy" by standing up, but ... shall we say... he's still working on his aim. I would love for him to stay seated!

I'm raising my little guy as a single parent and read and was told that he could learn sitting down and as he saw other boys and men doing it standing he would learn and he did within a few months. i wanted him to master getting it in the bowl first ; ) BTW, my father who just passed at the age of 86 in February told me in January that he still peed sitting down!

My guy trained at 26 months. He was ready at 19 months, but his pediatrician told me at his 18 month check-up to put a potty out then would "put too much pressure on him." So I listened to her, even though I have done this before, and missed his "window of opportunity" from 19 - 21 months, when he showed interest and willingness. So when I put the potty out at 22 months he resisted, and it took 4 months at that point, stopping training twice and starting again in a couple of weeks til he got it. There is no one right age, it varies with each child, even within a family. What you need to do is see is if the readiness signs are there and go for it when they are, not at a particular age:
http://www.parentingscience.com/toilet-training-readiness...

Seriously. If I was your kid I wouldn't go either. You are way too tightly wound over this to induce a nice relaxing deuce in a toddler.

Who cares if their kids were playing Beethoven at 2?

Your kid is YOUR kid. Relax, try a different approach. He'll get there - but it's ultimately his body. He's got to cooperate in order to go.

First, good for you for listening to your son about when to start. If boys are pushed too early they will have bed wetting problems for years. My husband did until he was 12 because he was pushed. Its really common. The research I have found for my little guy said that boys should start around 3 if they are ready....as for peeing sitting down or standing up, I would give him a choice. Trying to figure out how it starts and stops might be easier standing up, but then you have to deal with aiming. Also, sitting on a potty chair is much easier than standing. Its pretty little to try and hit. I have heard of using rubber ducks to "aim" for. Good luck mama!

He will show you some serious signs when he is ready! My oldest told me at 2.5 that he wanted to pee like Dad. It was that easy and he was fully trained in under a week.
My youngest was reluctant when we tried to introduce that potty too early. He'd stand/sit, much like your son, but not do anything. Finally I told him that he was a big boy and he could decide when he was ready and to just let me know. He looked at me and said "I'll start Tuesday" :) so the next Tuesday I told him what day it was and he said "ok, mama, today I will start to use the potty" and he did! It was on his terms and he was ready.
Both mine trained standing ~ they wanted to be like Dad and big brother.

We started sitting and graduated to standing.

Standing to pee + a potty chair = a huge mess.

What we did with our boys in the begining is sit him on the toilet back words. So he's facing the back like he would if he was standing and that gives them move balance too and a wider opening. Then when he's got that part down for months if not a year then introduce standing to him. Or should I say let the guys introduce it to him. He will do better at that point with the bigger boys or dad.

Good luck and God Bless!!

My son always sat on the regular toilet (he just held himself up) to pee in the beginning (I think it's easier for them). He had no interest in using the small potty we bought him or the potty seat. It actually meant less cleaning for me. He didn't start standing up to pee until after the age of 3, my husband showed him how to do it...he stands on his stool now to go pee. If you have a wooded backyard, having him go outside on a tree is also a great way to learn. :)

And he never had to hold himself to aim or anything either, he just let it go into the potty, it wasn't complicated. And don't be surprised if your son wants to take everything off to pee (pants, underwear, shoes, socks) lol, mine did for awhile but they get over that too...I wasn't going to fight with him on that.

Umm, I think it works better if his dad could do the demonstration. Older brother can help, peer pressure can be good in some situations. Then the guys can decide whether it works better for your son to sit or stand.

The kids dad is their best teacher. I think standing is fine. I put a brick in front of the toilet so they could reach well, and cheerios to aim at.

I started with him sitting and then my husband came home and said "ah, no we don't sit on the toilet to pee, son, we stand". He took him in the bathroom with him and started with the training. I continued with the standing and he did great. We did have to let him stand on the scale because he was just a little too short to get it over the rim! Have a mop nearby!

A friend of mine would put gold fish in the toilet and tell her son to aim at the fish! It worked!

let the boys teach him! and my daughter trained herself when she turned 3

It is so very easy to get a little boy to go standing if he can shoot down the ships or life preservers, we would take scraps of TP and draw boats on them, primitive boats, then drop one in the toilet so they could aim at it with their stream...then the other is cheerio's. They can play while they aim.

Sitting them facing the tank is also helpful in getting them ready to stand.

My son was not successfully potty trained until a few months after he turned three.

We trained sitting...then a few months later he said "dad I need to pee standing up"...don't get discouraged with it though. Over a year later and sometimes in public restrooms he chooses to sit...especially when the seats are tall.

be ready for standing up peeing in a main bathroom with boys. Check the seat before you sit down. My daughter sweet girl she is would get so ticked at her brother..."jeez Bubbie, get it in the toilet!"
Finally I convinced her it's her job to check too!

Main thing to remember is don't pressure him...once we stopped pressuring and used an egg timer to help him remember it took three days!

My daugher always started them out standing peeing outside! It seems to work because she's potty trained three of them with no problem

My sister had a little potty training urinal so they stood. But it wasn't that helpful in getting the boys ready for using public bathrooms (that's the hard part!)

I taught mine to sit first, so they would also get ready for the poop training, then around 3 1/2 to 4 is when I taught them to stand because they were interested to pee like Daddy.

Also, don't let other people pressure you! He's still young, it's not like he is in kindergarten yet.

We taught our son to sit first and actually, before he was really good at it we had to teach him to stand because unfortunately, not every potty chair would work - he's tall for his age. We would put a stool in front of the toilet - he would lean over and hang onto the toilet lid and by leaning over toilet the pee went straight into the toilet. We could have just lucked out as my son was easy to potty train but that worked wonders for us. Good luck in whatever you decide!