What does my husband do that is totally annoying??? He gets the opposite of what I ask for at the store. Tonight I am making stuffed peppers and I asked him to stop at the store and pick up the peppers on his way home. He called me from the store and asked which peppers he should get. I told him to get the loose green and red peppers and I specifically said don't get the ones that are already packed in a bag because they are usually old and in bad shape. (the price isn't any better either). So what does he do? He arrived home all happy with himself because he got the peppers, I open the grocery bag and there they were - 2 bags of pre-packed peppers. I opened the pre packed bags and the peppers were old with lots of mushy spots. So now he has to go back to the store to exchange the peppers. It is already 5:45, by the time dinner is done it is going to be 10 pm. Geez!
Why, Why, Why does he always do this???
This post was meant more as a little girl talk vs me really being angry with him. Yes annoyed but not in a confrontational way, I wouldn't belittle him or anything like that. More like annoyed in a humorous way.
He is a good guy and went back to the store, and came back with beautiful peppers. I think he just didn't want to take the time to pick out the nice peppers. However, he always get the wrong thing. LOL
When I said we wouldn't eat until 10 p.m I was being dramatic for effect. We ate at 7:30 and it was great!
I do know that if I ask him to stop at the store tomorrow for creamy Jiff peanut butter he will come home with Skippy chunky peanut butter. I know this about him.
Funny. I know what you mean! What about doing the reversal on him tomorrow when you ask for peanut butter---tell him chunky and then you will get what you really want...creamy! :)
When my husband is going to store for something if I tack on something to his list, "Would you get me some tea when you are at the store? Thanks." he almost always forgets whatever it is I wanted. But the thing that really drives me crazy is that he frequently mismatches the children's pajamas. I have them paired up in the drawer but for some reason he pulls out the cupcake shorts and the whale shirt instead of the matching whale shorts. Why???
Pretty much Troy's only flaw in shopping is he shops like woman. Never send him out if you need it right away.
Never!
OMG-I'm sorry but THANKING your husband for doing a half-assed job (ala Rachel D) is ridiculous. I will NOT accept his lame attempt at being so terrible at an errand that he won't be asked to do it again. Come on, ladies, men are smarter than that. Pride yourself in hoping that you married a more intelligent guy than that! It sounds like a man's attempt to get out of another errand. Granted, its a stupid way to get out of it, because it won't work with ME, he'll just get yelled at until he gets it right!
I'm so tired of women giving men a "pass" when it comes to being helpful, thoughtful, intelligent, and *gasp*, a bit domesticated. Tell your husband he can now go back and get what you ASKED for, and do it right this time, or he'll do it again. and again. If he's gonna act like a child, I guess he'll get treated like one. Ugghhh, this one really irks me.
I cannot tell you how many times my husband has gone out for ONE SPECIFIC ITEM, then comes home with 8 or 9 items we don't need, but NOT THE ONE SPECIFIC ITEM he originally went out for. It happens so very often...and it surprises me *every time*. I should really just expect it by now...
I think sometimes guys do this so that you stop asking them to go to the store for you!! Passive aggressive I say!!
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(my brother used to do this all the time! Finally, my parents stopped asking him to get things at the store. He won!! ARGH!)
oh wow!! I'm sorry!! It doesn't take me 4 hours to do Stuffed Bell Peppers!!!
I'm sorry!! I really am...my husband writes down what I ask him to pick up...he does NOT like to do things twice!!!
Hope all is better and dinner is done!!!
Reading these responses has me thinking that men get to take a secret course in school on how to avoid chores they find undesirable. The course objective must be to learn how to screw it up time and time again until you are no longer asked. Here's what irks me:
-can't find the item HE put away
-agrees to tackle a task, and then waits and waits until its either too late, I do it quietly seething, the cleaning people do it, or I hire it out
-refuses to move the two items at the front of the fridge to find what's pretty much always been on that shelf
-grumbles that at 6'4" he's too tall to bend over to see into the freezer-for gosh sake YOU ordered the freezer with the pull out drawer just to deal with this
I could go on and on. Trips to grocery stores are a minimum of 3 phone calls; at least he gets most of the items correct that way. And he always comes home with the coupons saying he saved them just for me for next time I go shopping. LOL!
In the end, when he complains about my nagging, I respond by telling him if he just did it right the first time, I wouldn't have to repeat myself or raise my voice. And maybe he'll figure out that I ain't gonna turn his shirts right side out when I fold them (after washing and drying them too), so he better either do it himself or suck it up.
Sounds like dinner was delicious. Enjoy.
This is why I write it down.
My theory is that some people hear 'key' words, usually the adjective after the word 'not'. So, your husband heard you mention 'bag', he's at the store, distracted, and he just hears "bag", not "Not the stuff in the bag". He figures you wouldn't bring up the word bag if you didn't want a bag of peppers.
Yes, I am aware that this is backward thinking, yet, thinking of it this way helps me to impose some sense onto it. Otherwise, it would drive me nuts.
So, this is why I have learned that I have to write down, to the tee, what I want with some products. And I've also learned not to say "Not" because it somehow disappears in one ear and out the other.
Your husband is NOT the only one!;)
Something I've learned: if you want it done right, DO IT YOURSELF.
I'm not saying that to be snarky, I'm saying that from experience. If I ask someone to do something and they half @ss it, shame on ME, I should have done it myself!
Honestly, thank him for trying. A lot of guys wouldn't even bother. Tomorrow is a holiday, enjoy your late dinner and crack open a much needed bottle of wine!
Funny. I don't have to deal with that. My husband has no problem calling me from the store (even for tampons) and saying "Ok, which??" I don't get mad at him for making me hold his hand (telephonically, at least) because I know the alternative, him getting the wrong stuff, would be crummy.
The only "problem" I encounter if he goes to the store is he'll be less budget-conscious and buy the more expensive of some things, or buy 3 packages of cookies, some black licorice, and 2 books along with the 1 gallon of milk I sent him to get. And he IS "grounded" from book stores. If he goes in to get a cup of coffee, he comes out with nearly $200 in books. No, No! (I don't fuss because he's the one working and earning the income, but I don't really like reworking the budget that week or month, because I'm a closet control freak).
My husband has done this, but not on purpose. He has a hearing problem so *he* thinks he hears me, and then *I* think he hears me, and then when he gets the wrong thing, its obvious to *both* of us that he didn't hear me! lol
Although, since he called you from the store and asked which ones, I wonder why he purposely didn't get what you asked for? I would just ask him and see what he says. Good luck! (and stuffed peppers sounds sooo good, why don't you live closer?!)
Why does my husband stare at his closet with about 25 button-down office-appropriate shirts, and 15 pairs of pants and then pick the most wrinkled shirt and pants in the bunch and ask me to go iron them for him? STAT! :)
After my c-section, my husband had to do the grocery shopping. He bought things I never buy, odd brands I'd never consider buying, bought things on sale just because they were on sale, too much of one thing and not enough of another. I never send him grocery shopping unless it's like for milk or bread. When I ask him to pick up the store brand cheese that I always buy and never have a problem getting, he always, and I mean ALWAYS comes home telling me they were sold out. Unbelievable! So, yeah, my husband is a lousy grocery shopper.
My husband doesnt buy the wrong things, he forgets things, He can have 2 items Milk and bread he can call from the store and see if there is anything else, I will say no just milk and bread He will forget the bread but buy some chips.I now realize i have to write everything down, put it in his wallet and text message him. If I want the right things brought home.
Dont mention what you dont want, only the thing you do, and repeat it at least three times. Also just rock out with the mushy peppers, I wouldnt send him back to the store.
My husband has on numerous occasions ask me where something is assuming I put it away or I hid it on purpose, when actually he put it away. It's like he wants what he's looking for to say "here I am!" they don't look for anything.
Why does my husband open the drawer and say he doesn't have clean underwear when he failed to bring his clean folded stack upstairs...why, why, why. It's a man thing and I am done asking.
This is why I never send mine. He never comes home with what I needed and lots of stuff for himself!!! He forgets a lot of what I have asked for and just does not even call me, just does not get it. I just order a pizza! mmmmm maybe this was his plan all along!
Yes, it's annoying, but he was all happy with himself so don't say anything. My husband can't pick out good fruit to save his life. They just don't get it.
I wouldn't tell him "don't get..." I would specify that he is ONLY TO GET this item. You might even take some pictures next time you are at the store if you have a smart phone and if it comes up again, send him the image and say GET THESE. The visual may help reinforce what you want. I have to be realllly specific with DH sometimes. Sometimes I like flavored creamer, but only certain kinds. So after being a good sport and drinking a creme brulee one that was OK but not what I meant, I now specify down to the brand and flavor name. Or I buy it myself. :)
As irritating as it is, at least he'll go back to the store. And stopped in the first place.
My DH is good at grocery shopping and a lot of domestic stuff (had to be - was a single dad for a while) but his "Just one more thing" business makes us late often and then I get steam out my ears. I've told him if he doesn't want Mad Wife, he needs to leave that last thing undone and just get in the car.
Love of my life thinks our grocery store is the cat's pajamas, so he'll grocery shop at the drop of a hat. However, he will shop for ONLY one meal, can't get the concept of "pick up some veggies for the rest of the week" to save his life. This morning he went for bagels and pastries for early breakfast, but it never entered his mind to think about whether we had the bacon that we would need for the brunch he planned for after church!?!
I get that shopping alone on the weekend is much more fun than what I do, but throw me a bone here... grab some things from the list while you're there...
HA HA!!
I wonder if the gene responsible for this trait is the same one that won't allow them to read instructions to things that say "some assembly required". ?
my husband doesn't but my kids do! buttheads!!!
khairete
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My husband gets what I ask, but he always buys EXTRA things. If I send him to get some fruit and snacks, he comes back with Seafood and snacks!!! Were we shop at its pricey we can afford it but it kinds of bothers me when he doesnt get specifically what I ask him to get. lol
My husband's been to the grocery store twice I think, in the past year. I guess I should be thankful?
My husband, really annoying - when he doesn't trim his toenails. They're like TALONS!
Girl if I were you, we'd do the peppers for dinner tomorrow and pop a pizza in the oven tonight.
Yes forgets things or buys the most expensive one and thinks he got a great deal, lol! The one that drives me crazy is how he can't figure out whose clothes are whose, and my girls wear sizes 5/6 and 10/12..pretty big difference there! I set out outfits for them before I leave and often see them wearing something completely different. Or one time he brought them to my work for a birthday party and the 7 year old was wearing the 4 year olds shirt and vice versa! They looked ridiculous in things too small and too big, but he was clueless!
No we make lists and go over it if he's shopping. He will call if any questions. What he does do though is come home with things that were not on the list or things we already have. Not a big deal just I always need to make more room for things. My husband tends to overshop!
Okay, okay. Happens to everyone. "Always" may be too general a term, but I understand how you're thinking. Brains can get addled in a grocery store, I think. Maybe it's the air. When my husband goes grocery shopping for what HE wants, he's just fine. But if he's picking up something for me, he's... not always quite all there. I get phone calls (which is fine!), or it's the wrong brand, or something.
But your husband tried. He had the best of intentions. Next time, get the fresh ingredients yourself, if you can.
If you can converse with him later about peppers without being ticked at him, let him know, "The trouble with prepackaged peppers is that no matter HOW good they may look, you can't inspect them well enough, and those two were old and decrepit on the back side. That's the reason they were packaged in the first place." That's not something anyone is born knowing. Be sure to make it clear that the PEPPERS were bad, not that HE was!
It's just an educational experience, and you all won't starve.
Did you ask him why? What does he say? I always wonder because my stepdad is like this every single time. It drives my mom crazy. She says he either NEVER listens to her or he is being passive aggressive. She has no idea which it is.
hahah i guess theres a lot of husbands out there with grocery shopping issues.. my fiance has this thing with buying the name brand or whatever is more expensive.. i needed chicken to make casserole- he knows eactly which package i always buy .. instead of buying the big package, which is cheaper and is the amount that i need anyway, he buys 2 of the small packages of the more expensive one .. because "its better chicken" .. he does that with most things anyway.. its like why pay more and get less its freakin chicken cutlets whats the difference.. and withalmost everything he has an issue with the "store brands" which to me are no different than the name brands, with a few exceptions. .. since our baby has been born hes been better with stuff like body wash, shampoo, razors.. hell buy the suave or whatevers on sale instead of his rediculously expensive ones he used to use .. he still needs to work on his food shopping though lol -the other night he orderd us food for dinner.. the same place we always order from where we both always get the same things every time .. he asked if i wanted something diiferent and i said no0pe just my chicken sandwich.. he brings home the food and its a chicken cutlet with lettuce adn tomato -no mayonaise or cheese- it shouldve been grilled chicken with cheese lettuce and mayo - he knows this and he knows i hate tomatoes .. and i looked at him like uhmm?? and he goes what?,looks at the sandwich and goes o0h ooops sorry.. .. i think he just had a brain fart, it happens lol
-i avoid sending him to the grocery store at all costs.. even with a list he always comes home with a bunch of extra junk like cookies or icecream or candy or all of the above.. which i certanily do not need to be eating lol
LOL.....I experience this ALL the time!! Men half listen. Start writing lists in advance if you can, if not stay on the phone with him while he's doing it...lololol.
