Some Advice

Hi A..

I was told I couldn't have children but didn't give up hope.
I now have a sweet 2 year old boy and plan to have more to come.
Read my testimony of what worked for me, if you'd like, on my website.
annemarie.myarbonne.com

Hope this is helpful to you.

I have always heard that if you stop trying so hard, it will happen. I've known a few people how tried for a year and the other 8 months. It didn't happen until they stopped trying so hard.

Having similar problem. I have found out that I have low progesterone the second half of my cycle. My regular doc thinks I just have "PMS" but someone from this website turned me on to http://www.popepaulvi.com/index.html. They are helping me PROVE that my PMS symptoms are way more than just PMS. They might be significantly contributing to our not getting pregnant. It would be worth checking in to.

when i was trying with my first child we tried for a long time and i ended up having to take chlomid....my second child came quickly i think i only tried for like 2 weeks....for my second child i went to webmd.com i tracked my cycles with a calendar on that site and it told me what days i needed to try to get pregnant it even tells which days you need to try to have a girl or boy....it worked for me

Hang in there! This can be soooo frustrating! When DH and I decided to get pg both times, I was always heartbroken when AF showed up. I was afraid I'd never get there. First time it took 6 months, the second I got pg at 5 months, had a miscarriage, then immediately got pg afterwards. Remember most healthy couples it takes between 3 months and 1 year to conceive, so you are not alone in your struggles.

Are you tracking your cycles at all - do you know your most fertile time? DH and I use NFP for birth control and to help get pg. You can use something like
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/ to get a basic overview on how to recognize symptoms and track your cycles. You could also try using the ovulation kits that are at all drugstores - even the dollar stores sell them for waaay cheaper and they work just as well (just check the expiration date!!) If down the line you need to see a specialist, they will want you to be tracking your cycles for a few months anyway, so this way you'd be ahead of the game, and who knows what will happen if you figure out your fertile days?

It wouldn't hurt to visit your doc and tell him/her you are trying to get pg - since you've been trying less than a year they probably won't start you on any medications, but they can give you an overall checkup to make sure you are healthy, start you on prenatal vitamins, and do some simple tests like thyroid testing to ensure there isn't a problem. They can also make sure that you aren't too heavy or too thin as either can cause problems with conception.

Buy your DH a few pairs of nice boxers and stick the tighty whities in the back of the drawer. Have him start taking a good multivitamin too, and if either of you are smoking, think about quitting.

Best advice to give but hardest to accept is to just try and relax and have fun. Plan a few nice weekend getaways and some romantic "us" time after your daughter is in bed -or if grammy and grampy live nearby, send her off for an overnight visit.

Good luck!! sending preggo <<<vibes>>> your way!!

I have heard that it a couple that has been trying for 1 year to get pregnant but can not, needs to visit a doctor. But I would not just have you go in, your husband needs to go into. This maybe something that concerns him and not you. I wonder if you had been on birth control before you started trying 7 months ago. Some forms of birth control can last over a year. If you had taken the shot as I did, it took me 9 months over trying before the shot was out of my system.

Technically, you aren't having trouble conceiving unless it's been a year and you haven't been able to get pregnant. If you've been taking the pill or any form of b.c. with hormones it can take several months for your body to get back into the swing of things on its own.

You're barely over that halfway mark, so that is a good thing (at least by doctors' standards - I know not by yours). I wouldn't worry about it at this point.

BTW, my sister is 6 years younger than me, and not planned that way. My mom said she was ready for another baby when I was 1 1/2. This was back in the 70's and they also didn't have much extra income (she stayed home with me) so there wasn't the option of fertility treatments or anything like that. When I was 5, my cousin was born and for some reason my mom really bonded with him -- 9 months later, here came my sister! You just never know.

You might invest in some ovulation tests - if you look online, you can get some much cheaper than it costs to buy them in the store. One option is http://www.babyhopes.com/. Also, you said you are 28, but how old is your husband? If he is substantially older or in any event over 35, that probably warrants at least a conversation with your and/or his doctor, although not a lot of anxiety, but really wearing boxers and taking some of the other suggestions will probably do the trick. It can take a while and 7 months is nothing to worry about, especially when you have a 3 year old to distract you, just take joy in practicing and keep working on it! GOOD LUCK!

Don't worry A. C. God will decide. Just don't make the type of mistake my daughter made. If a doctor puts you on any type of medication for ANYTHING except prenatal vitamins get a second opinion My daughter, also 28 & her DH have a 3 1/2 year old DD. They have been trying for 3 years to have another one. (It took her 5 years to get pregnant with her first.) Nothing physically wrong with either of them. Early last year she started getting depressed about a death in the family and her doctor put her on the antidepressant Paxil. When asked if she should use protection and not get pregnant the doctor said no problem go ahead and keep trying. 5 months later she found out she was pregnant. We were all SO HAPPY! Then 5 months into the pregnancy the baby just disappeared! 3 Ultra Sounds showed a baby was there, moving and all(I saw them myself) and then that 5th month nothing! No bleeding or anything to warrant a misscarriage. I insisted she go elsewhere for tests and the other doctors and specialists concluded that the Paxil had somehow damaged the baby so severely that a HUGE portion of it was absorbed into her body. A D & C was performed and what was left was removed. She is off the Paxil now and the doctor is no longer practicing medicine and is under deep investigation for simular occurances in 2 other states. Her lawsuit is ongoing and will take up to 5 years to settle. She is waiting at least 6 months before starting to try again. I am keeping her in my prayers and will for you too. GOOD LUCK and may God bless you with a child soon. He is the only one to know when the time is right.

D.

My husband and I tried for 5 years to have a baby with no success. One day I decided to start eating healthier. I cut out all additives and anything artificial out of my diet and ate lots of fresh fruits and veggies. I lost 16 lbs in about 3 months and suddenly found myself pregnant! I really beleive that a healthy diet can make all the differance in your body's productivity. :)
I wish you all the luck in the world! :)
hugggs, M.

Look into some of the Natural Family Planning techniques. They not only help you not get pregnant but help you get there. I am not a fan of the temperature-taking method, but have found the Creighton method of NFP to be outstanding. I went through several years of fertility treatment after my 1st child to no avail. Later when I learned about Creighton, I found that so much of what they were having me do was contrary to conceiving.

I would encourage to check with your doctor, though, just to make sure that nothing is happening biologically that would prohibit conception or implantation.

Good luck & God bless!

I would start taking your temperature every morning to notice when you ovulate. It will spike right after ovulation. You can visit www.creightonmodel.com for more information on Natural Family Planning. As well as naprotechnology.com if you are having problems conceiving and you want to do so naturally.

I would just give it time and trust me it will happen. My husband and I tried for a year and half when we were trying to have our first child. It took hanging around a pregant woman at work for her entire 9 months for my body to start working. One month before she gave birth, I was pregant. Now, this second time, I had waited 4 months after removing my IUD and I thought it would only take a few weeks. Its whenever you stop trying to have a baby that it will happen. I always took pregances test ever month when I am trying and they always said no. Then just out of the blue I stop taking them and then it happened. Just give it time, I know God will answer your prayers.

Good Luck

My doctor told me to use Robitussin, just the regular kind. He said to start taking it about one week after my period ended and to take it for about 2 1/2 wks. or after ovulation time if your keeping track.Take one tablespoon. It helps by making your fluids(for lack of a better way of putting it) thinner so that your husbands little guys can make their swim a little easier. I have also heard Geritol works and thats what I was using and I did get pregnant right away, don't know if it was the Geritol or if I was just lucky. If I was you I would do both. Good Luck!!

I had the same problem it took me and my husband to get pregant. Finally we just stoped trying for a while, I did not go back on birth control or anything. Just simply stoped counting days and keeping up with when we had sex and all the other wonderful things that trying to have a baby comes with. We felt more like michanes than Lovers. After that, I got pregnat in the first month.

Quit trying and just let things happen. Don't plan a romatic evening. Just let things happen when they want to happen. Because you are stressing your body by worrying about it and trying to force it to happen. Just relax and let things take their own course.

God Bless
S. Jane

Have you tried tracking your basal temperature? This will help you track when you ovulate. My husband and I had a little trouble getting pregnant at first and it turned out I just was ovulating at a different time than the standard day 14. After we found a pattern I was able to get pregnant in a couple of months, without having to go to the doctor. A good doctor would probably want to have you try this method as well before putting you on any meds. All you need is a basal thermometer (you can get it at wal-mart, target, etc for around $9) and a chart (broken down into tenths of a degree) to track your temperature. Just take your temperature when you first wake up, before getting out of bed and prior to doing anything else. You will notice a slight dip and then a noticable raise when you ovulate. There are several websites that give much more information. Good Luck!

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Best Wishes! :)

I am wondering if it maybe the previous birth control you were on, a friend of mine and myself, whom were both on birth control pills, it took us both nearly exactly 13 months to get pregnant. The Dr told me it would take any where from 6-12 months for the birth control to completely get out of my system because I was taking it for so many years. So if you were on Birth Control pills that is most likely your answer, and if not maybe leaving it up to God is the abswer(at least wait a year before getting to worried

Try to relax. 7 months is not very long and the more you get stressed about it, the less likely you are to get pregnant. I cant't tell you how many women I know got stressed about getting pregnant and didn't seem to be able to conceive and then when they gave up, they got pregnant right away. Stress has such a huge effect on our bodies, you don't want to add those problems to your plate. You already have one healthy child so you know you and your husband are capable. Really, 7 months is nothing. Unless you have some other reason for concern (pain or abnormal bleeding, etc.) just enjoy being with your husband and I bet things will work out fine. If in about a year you still haven't conceived, then you can start looking to see if there are any concerns that need to be dealt with.

Have you heard of FAM (Fertility Awareness Method)? There is a book by Toni Weschler call "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" and I totally recommend it!! It comes with a trial software for charting that is so valuable! I learned so much about my body and how it actually works. I was actually empowering. There are so many myths and misconception out there about a woman's body and this book cleared those up for me and helped us get pregnant! There is a wonderul message board at www.ovusoft.com with some help as well! Once you figure out when you ovulate (and if you're ovulating!), then you can figure out when good times are to actually try. A lot of times people are ovulating, but not at the time they think they are and therefore missing opportunities. However, some people realize they are not ovulating at all, or there are other problems such as cervical fluids, etc, and that's when they seek help from other sources. Out of all the methods out there I really think FAM is the best and people have the most successes with it. Check out the website above, there are some awesome resources there! Good luck!

you are stressing and stress and baby making aren't two things that go together... the more you worry the more likely it is that you won't be getting pregnant i know this is frustrating.. just go out to dinner and come home make love and if it happens it happens... before you try drugs try relaxing for a month and have sex occasionally but not on demand... don't try to over do it...

Hi there!

I have a 3 children, ages 6,nearly 5 and nearly 1 year old. I went through an entire year of infertility, complete with specialists and everything trying to conceive baby #1. Eventually, I got pregnant, and soon after also easily got pregnant with #2. When the older two were 2 and 4, we began to try to have #3, and it just didn't happen. In fact, for 3 1/2 years, I used no birth control, and yet no baby.

A few years ago, I found some amazing vitamins that I started taking, and they really restored my health! Suddenly, my energy was through the roof and soon after that, I got pregnant and had the best pregnancy of all 3, and I fully believe it was because my body was truly healthy and ready to sustain a pregnancy.

I would love to tell you more about my favorite vitamins - feel free to contact me directly if I can help you in any way.

Hello, A.! Pray to God for what you want and believe that He knows what's best for you and you will have your child in His perfect timing. This is something I have to remind myself of everyday as I have three boys and desperately want a daughter. We even tried adoption and that didn't work out. Apparently, that was not God's plan for how and when our daughter will join our family! Things are not likely to work out when we decide to go our own way, rather than wait for His perfect timing. A check up with your ob/gyn to make sure everything is ok isn't a bad idea, either. Good Luck!

First, are you tracking your cycle and taking your BBT? If not, a great free website to track is www.mycycle.com. It is really a great website. Once you have a couple of cycles entered, you can look at charts and such.

Second, I got pregnant with my son the very first month we tried, no problem. But, I had been off the pill for over a 1 year and no pregnacny this time. My doctor checked my 21 day progesterone levels and they were a 1. That is really, really, low. So, he gave me a low does of Clomid (50mg). I took it on days 5-9 of my cycle and am now 6 weeks pregant.

Good luck!

Hi A.,
How long did it take you to conceive your first child? For some people 7 months may seem like a long time; for others it may not not. I would give it at least a year and I know this is hard but try not to stress over it so much as the added stress will not help you to get pregnant. Just try to practice patience and enjoy having "fun" while trying to get pregnant. Keep us posted.

A.,

When my first child was about 3 (she is now 13) we decided to try and have a second child. I was about 33 at the time. I ended up having 2 miscarraiges and was also on the verge of giving up. I became a little (well alot) depressed. After a while I decided that I didn't want to feel that way anymore and started to exercise and not focus on getting pregnant. Finally a year later I did get pregnant...it wasn't as happy as the first because of the two miscarrages and the fear it would happen again, but never the less I had a healthy boy 9 months later. So I guess my advice is to enjoy your three year old and try not to concentrate to hard on getting pregnant again. You had one already so the second should come in time. God bless!