Good Morning C.,
Well I have read some of the advice and I agree with ways to find time for yourself and to help her bond more with her daddy. I don't agree with the counting to 3, because if you train your child this way they know they have until 3 before they have to obey, well you teachers and others who will be in authority over her, will not count to 3, in school when you don't obey what the teacher says the first time you get a check mark and after a couple of check marks you get sent to the office, or you lose your recess, or other privileges. It is best to teach them to respond with the first request. Also you teach them in a calm voice, so they don't learn to wait until you get to you loud voice before they have to obey. We as the parents are the ones who draw the line as to how soon we want their obedience. We want to think we have a difficult child who is stubborn or strong willed, but most of it is the parent who has trained the child to respond with tantrums, whinning, begging, etc. If you let your child whine and then finally give her what she wants what have you taught her. If she whines long enough she get what she wants, can you imagaine how pleased her husband will be when she get married, because how she/he is trained up is the way they will go.
God gave us the instruction book for training up our children, that He has given us, but instead we have looked to man and what they say is best for our children, God said that rebellion (foolishness) is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of correction will drive it far from him. Proverbs 22:15
in Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it.
God knows what this child needs more than we do. But now days people are afraid to discipline. Look at what has happened to our children and our families, it is not working doing it mans way. Dad & moms are working all day no one wants to come home to have to discipline a child, so they just try to smooth over the problems until that get so out of hand you have to look for help, then they become teenagers and you can't handle them at all. Proverbs 19:18 Chasten your son/daughter while there is hope, and do not set your heart on his/her crying.
Proverbs 13: 24 He who spares the rob hates his son/daughter, but he who loves him disciplines him/her promptly (early).
Proverbs 29:15 & 17 The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.
Correct your son/daughter, and he/she will give you rest; Yes, he/she will give delight ti your soul.
Proverbs is full of so much instructions for all areas of our life, but especially for our children, I know it works because my children were trained up this way, and they are both older with families of there own, and still bring us much delight and our grandchildren are a delight to have over also. I wish that for all you moms and dads out there, that your children will be fun and obedient to your voice, so that they can honor and respect you, and in the future they will respect other authorities over them.
I am sorry to have gone on and on, but I see so many families struggling with their children in the stores and they don't know how to handle them and making it unpleasant for them and all the other people trying to shop. When its just so much easier on the child and the parent to have already set the ground rules and they know when you say something you mean it, and they know the consequences if they don't listen to you.
grandma J.