ok, i know i have somewhat created this monster becuz i give her (my almost 4yr old) a snack and water when she goes to bed. this has been our m.o. since she was a baby, first it was a yogurt/milk combo (baba)and a snack. now it has progressed to water and a small snack. but i know its causing her to still be wearing a pull up at night. we have talked alot about it and she knows that she cant be a "big girl" at night if she still wears a pull up and in order to wear big girl underwear she cant have water when she goes to bed, and she keeps telling me she gets thirsty.
i hate breaking these habits i have created!!!lol
any easy idea's,, to be honest, it really doesnt bother me that she wears pull ups, but i know i cant let her keep doing it.
Why can't you keep letting her wear pull-ups? I don't think that there is anything wrong with it. She's potty trained and using the toilet correctly while she is awake. I wouldn't worry about it.
When the fact that she wears pull-ups at night becomes an issue to her- then it will be important to make a change. At that point too- she'll be more willing to forego the bedtime snack in order to avoid the pull-up.
Good luck,
S.
with my daughter it was the same. until, a daycare teacher helped her wear underwear during the day at school & during naps and stuff. if she wet them, she just had an extra pair to put on. but, it worked. it took about a week and it was goodbye to pullups. try the underwear if shes receptive and just put up with the mess and see what happens. maaybe it youre at target or something, you can let her pick out her own underwear...dora or something? it worked for us.
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I have a 4 1/2 year old who is dry through the night with big boy pants and still gets a snack before bed. I try to give him his snack about an hour before bed so that he can sit on the potty before bed. It seems to work out for us. Good luck!
Honestly, it has nothing to do with the fact that your child eats and drinks before bed. Here's the bad news... She is a bed wetter. It doesn't matter if you stop the snack and water before bed, the problem is she just can't hold it that long. I know because I was one. I wasn't allowed anything before bed and it didn't matter. The problem with this is that most kids with this problem is that their bladder doesn't grow as fast as they do and they just can't make it the 8-10 hours at night. Does she sleep very deeply. I did and I remember that I would dream that I was getting up at night and I'd see myself on the potty but I was still in bed. It's very common in kids, more then we think.
try to have her wear those pull-ups or overnights that let you feel when you are wet instead of the pull-ups that pull the moisture away from the skin.
if pull ups dont bother you then it isnt a problem, but if they do, you can have her wear underpants and take her potty before you go to bed (my 5 & 3 yr old do this and sleep thru it). we have waterproof sheets in case of accidents, but there arent too many. if she goes a few hours after her last snack her bladder should be pretty empty for the rest of the night.
good luck
T.,
I just went through the same dilema with my 3 year old. Since she was old enough to hold a sippy cup, she went to bed with water in her sippy cup every night. She was potty trained at around 2 1/2 but up until about 2 months ago, she was wearing her pull up at night. I also realized that in her mind, by wearing the pull up that meant it was ok to pee in it. She didn't make an effort to use the bathroom during the night like she did all day long, BECAUSE of the pull up. So what I did was take away the water and got rid of the pull up. If she complained that she was thirsty then I'd only give her enough to quench her thirst instead of the cup for the entire night. I'd also take her to the bathroom before she went to bed, then I'd wake her up and take her again before I went to bed. It's been almost 2 months and we've only had one accident at the very beginning. She's done so well that I'm going to try to cut out the second bathroom trip and see how that goes. Good luck!
If it doesn't bother you, then it is ok. My daughter stopped wearing goodnights at 5 1/2. She still takes a sippy to bed. I couldn't bear the thought of waking her to make her go to the bathroom. Our deal was if she was dry for 5 nights, we would switch to big girl underwear. There were a few start overs, 2 nights, 4 nights. She now goes to the bathroom on her own in the middle of the night just like we do. About 1/3 of her pre-k class still wore pullups to bed. It is only a big deal if you make it one. Some kids take a little longer to develop. When her body is ready, she'll let you know. Good Luck
my now 5yr old son was wearing pull ups at 4 yrs old by the time he was 4 and 3 months he only wore them at night and by the time he was 4 and half he wasn't wearing any he only had 3 accidents. the pediatrician told us to not to push him too much and to get him near other kids like public bathrooms and to wake him up in the middle of the night till he understood that he could get up and go. there are lot of kids with bladder problems though that none of this help is going to do them any good. toilet training does take alot of time and dedication and everyone that deals with your child like day care or babysitters should keep up with what you started. We never altered his bedtime snack or drink too.
You know what my youngest daughter was potty trained at 1 1/2yrs. old,we gave her drinks at night and she never wet the bed. Not like my son who was still bed-wetting at age 12. On the other hand she took a bottle to bed at night till she was about 5yrs old, wrong I know, but I just couldn't help it. She was so cute at that age and my husband didn't have a problem with it. So who am I to judge,but I think you should put your foot down. NO MORE DRINKS AT NIGHT.
Well I think you have to give yourself credit that you know that it is partly your doing. I have an autistic 10 year old who is still wearing them. So I think that if it makes them comfortable, I would let her wear them. But I would praise the heck out of her if she has a dry night. And just talk to her about it, "do you really need these tonight, or do you think you could get by without them" Reminding her that she will have to get up to go potty in the middle of the night. And as far as the water goes, I would slowly decrease the amount so that eventually all is left is the snack. I would even cut that out though pretty soon because if she is brushing her teeth and then having a snack her teeth are holding onto all that stuff all night. Might end up with tooth problems down the line. That is what the experts say.
Good luck with it. But don't stress over it. I found the more pressure I put on Tony to not wear them the more he had accidents.
My son is going on six years old and still wears pull ups to bed. Stopping the drinking before bed is the first thing to try but be aware the some kids will wet the bed and that is not abnormal especially if it runs in the family. I wet the bed until i was ten years old. My doc says sleep is more important at this time then waking a child up to go. Every child will stop wetting the bed eventually. good luck.
I don't see anything wrong with wearing pull ups at age 4 - here are some other tips that may help you, too.
Excellent tips! :-)
www.amazon.com has a ton of low price, cheap DVDs and VHS's - currently, I am watching one right now called Potty Training 101.
In my honest opinion, a four year old should not be allowed to wear pull-ups. She is a big girl and should wear big girl panties...even during the evenings. You are letting her know it is okay to wet herself...and it is not okay. Simply give her a small snack and glass of water earlier in the evening. It takes seven hours to process food and five hours to process liquids. If your daughter has water at 7pm, make her go to the bathroom before she goes to sleep and wake her up around 1am to take her to the bathroom if she does not get up on her own. You have to break this bad habit. Believe it or not, it is not your daughter...it is you. Potty training requires time and dedication from the parents. I hope I provided a little insight. Have a good day!
