Okay ladies, i have posted questions about this pregancy on here before, but i am seriously freaking out now... Not too long ago i posted a question about having elevated anitbody levels in my blood. My doctor called to tell me that i would have to see a Fetal and Maternal Medicine Specialist out of Topeka for a 3D sonogram. So i was already freaked out about that, and I went ahead and went and had my normal sonogram when i was 20 weeks pregnant. Well at that sonogram, i noticed that they took alot of pics of the baby's heart. i asked them about it and they said that a radiologist would go over my results. I inquired further and asked them about the 4 chambers beating etc, and they said yes, all 4 chambers were beating, etc.. so i was relieved, but couldn't shake that feeling that something was wrong.
Well fast forward 2 weeks, and I went in for my normal OB appointment and my dr. told me that they detected an abnormality in the babies heart. He said that they detected an elargment of the Chordae Tendineae. He said that they usually don't see the chordae tendineae's on the sono's but they saw my baby's. He couldn't provide me with alot of information, other than to tell me that he has already faxed the results of my sonogram to the specialist and that i shouldn't lose any sleep over it... are you serious.. you tell me that my baby has a heart abnormalitiy and i am not supposed to lose sleep??????? wth, i have been doing the complete opposite, i nearly had a nervous breakdown Tuesday night. i am worried sick, beyond scared to death, and so unsure of everything at this point. He said that the specialisit will give me the answers that i need on April 1st. This is affecting everything that i do. I requested my sono results and all of my elevated antibody blood level results, and a print off of a heart, so i could research things on my own. Needless to say, things on the internet are sometimes scary, especially if you really have NO idea how serious the situation is. I am just praying that one of you ladies know something about my situation...
Also~ i asked my dr. if this is and my elevated antibodies are directly related. he said that it is just a fluke thing that i have 2 different reasons to see a fetal and maternal medicine specialist.
I have a 5 year old daughter, a 4 year old daughter and a 2 year old son too. My pregnancy's with them were relatively smooth. I need some kind of peace of mind before next Friday, so that i can be a functioning mom to my other kids.
Please keep my baby and my family in your prayers.
I should also point out that a heart abnormality in any way shape or form, would NOT make me love my baby less. I am already so in love with him it isn't even funny and i worry strictly about his health. It is nothing superficial or cosmetic that i care about or whatever burden it may or may not bring, I only care about him being healthy and having a normal life.
Take a breath and relax. Please don't think I am being unsympathic, but I want you to put this into perspective. Will you love this baby any less if he has a heart condition? Are you gonna wrap in a soft blanket and drop him off at the nearest orphan home? Of course not!! Unfortunately we can't control everything and getting this stressed is not good for you --the baby --your other children or your hubby. I know you are scared, anyone would be. But trust in your higher power that there really is a master plan and you will not be given anything you can't handle.
Sending Reiki and loving energy. Now breath it will all be okay.
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A.A.
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Well I had a premature birth with my oldest son, WHO I will tell you is 21 now! Was attacked by someone with road rage, Caused me to go into labor at 6/1/2 months, They had notice something with hes heart at that point, At that point the medical field wasnt like it is now. Sounds like the same thing was going on that they described that your baby has. With todays day of medical wonders, I would really TRY to put your self at rest :) Stress is a huge factor in your babys health!!! Its good to talk about your concerns. Need to make it clear with your Doc, that you are really streesed about it.... Again, Think positive, What ever is the Doc,s today are better then 21 years ago....AND I TOTALY AGREE WITH -SH.
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M.J.
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Put the condition as your subject line and it might attract someone who's experienced with it.
And I agree with you that the doctor is nuts for thinking you won't worry about this! Sheesh. Anyway, smart move not to do too much research online. You might see if there's a medical library available at any of your local hospitals that can help you get factual information about the condition.
Best of luck to you! Will be hoping for the very best.
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S.H.
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while I always rely on research, sometimes you can do more harm than good by not knowing which path to take....
Time to put your records/results away.....time to embrace your children.....& it's time to remember to breathe. You are, at this point, doing more harm than good....& you need to stop.
The time for more accurate research is after you meet with the specialist. I wish you Peace.
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J.C.
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The sonogram showed my baby had a heart abnormality. (I forget what it was now.). I had to go to Children's hospital where they did an echocardiogram while I was pregnant. My baby's heart was perfect:0) My experience has been if the docs are worried you get seen right away. They do not mess around when they believe it is something serious. Best of luck to you. I will say a prayer for you and your baby.
PS - If your baby does have a heart issue just know that there is so much they can do to fix heart problems. I know and understand you just want a healthy baby but if there is something wrong it is better that it is with the heart than with the brain. JMO
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M.L.
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My son had a heart abnormality but it turned out being fine after a year. I know a few other mom's whose children had heart problems and have gone through multiple heart transplants, in and out of the hospital all the time...
Really though, no amount of stress or worry is going to be good for your or baby in your pregnancy. There is absolutely nothing you can do right now but relax, say your prayers and love the baby regardless of any possible health issues.
Also, the Dr has only limited information at this point, I disagree woith the other mom in that it's nuts that the Dr wouldn't think this would cause you to worry.. It sounds like he/she is doing everything right and informed you of what is going on. It's not the Dr's fault for informing you of any possible heart defects... that is his/her job to do that and to try and let you know that nothing is conclusive at this point so to remain calm. The best thing to do is wait until your hear from a specialist. Having a nervous breakdown and going nuts right now isn't going to do you, the baby or your other children any favors. Just wait and find peace. If your baby if perfectly fine, than that pain and stress will be for nothing. If that baby has medical issues that will be difficult, that pain may distract from enjoying your little bundle of love and from giving you the much strength you need to deal with it.
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P.F.
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Oh honey, I will keep you and your family in my prayers. I have no real advice to offer and I am sorry. Not sure if this is possible, but can you call the specialists office and ask if they can rush the reading/results? Let them know how worried you are and you are just down right afraid. You may find a sympathetic ear on the other end.
Hugs!
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S.H.
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Did they refer you to a Pediatric Cardiologist?
When I was pregnant with my first child, my daughter... during the ultrasound they saw an abnormality with her heart, with one of her chambers.
I was then referred to a Pediatric Cardiologist Specialist... who I then met with, and he and his assistant, did a special kind of Ultrasound on me/my baby.
HE then determined, that there were no abnormalities with her heart.
That was my situation. And my daughter was born fine and to this day, she being 8 years old... she is fine.
But that was my situation.
The point is, I was referred to a Pediatric Cardiologist. Not just a Radiologist or Fetal Specialist.
