Hello Mommies, it's me again ;)
Reese, my little 28 m/o red-head, is taking her shoes off at daycare over-and-over again all day, every day. There are several other kids in her class doing the same but my daughter seems to be the "leader". I have tried new shoes (fit, style AND sizes), different socks and (surprisingly) my ex and I are both working together to talk to her about not doing this and have also told her to let us o the teachers know if hre shoes don't feel right, etc.
Reese's teachers seem frustrated and exhausted about having to tell/put her shoes back on yet the front desk lady states that this os "just a phase" and there's really nothing I can do about it.
Are there any other mommies out there that have conquered this challenge and if so what worked???
Thanks again (in advance) for all the great advise/suggestions!
Thanks everyone for the advise and suggestions!
Well, as I stated in the request, I have tried (almost) every style of shoes and w/ socks and w/o socks to no avail. One morning before daycare Reese asked for her FAVORITE treat "Nemo Fruit" snacks and I told her I would give her some after school if she was a good girl and left her shoes on....didn't work. So thinking that that was too long of a time span for her to remember to be a good girl I asked her teachers to award stickers (one of Reese's favorite things to play w/) at intervuals during the day and this did not work either.
Her daddy and I have both noticed that Reese's feet are pretty warm once her shoes are taken off at home so that might be one of the problems; both her and her daddy are very "warm natured" people that keep warm when it's cold, wake up from sleep sweating and the warm/hot feet. But seeing how winter is setting in and cold outside I can't let her walk around barefooted nor in sandels...
So... I am going to take the advise of you mommies and others I've spoken to and just chaulk it up as a 'phase' that hopefully she'll grow out of ASAP.
I would suggest getting her some Crocs. The maryjane style have a couple of straps. Let her pick out the color. They are really easy on and off and maybe won't frustrate the teachers (as much).
Also, have you tried letting her choose the shoes?
I think the ballet-like slippers are a great idea! You could make a big deal about them being "Princess" shoes and she will be a "magical, storybook, princess when she has them on". She will probably want to wear them every minute of every day. When my boys were little we would select the shoes that had the "fastest run in them" or the "highest jump". Sounds silly, but you would be surprised at what the power of suggestion can do.
Truth is, in 5 years it won't matter and you will look back and fondly remember her "dislike for shoe phase". Don't stress to much just enjoy her and her unique personality!
My 3 year old refuses to wear shoes. People call him shoeless.
All my children have been that way. I hate to wear shoes and so did my father, his brother and his son. Why? I don't know.
Most shoes hurt in some spot. Socks get twisted, they have to fit right in the heel and toe and not slide around. Your feet get hot in shoes. Remember the story of the Princess and the Pea? Well, I can feel the tiniest things in my shoes like a sliver of dead grass. Not a wad of grass but something so tiny you don't see it and have to wipe the shoe out, it will feel like a rock to me. I wouldn't worry about it to much it is most likely a phase. Do tags in her shirts or pants bother her?
Does she like to pull your hair? Just curious. I have very dry skin and am ADD. Good Luck!
R.
how about double knoting her shoes when you tie them? tie them like normal then knot the bunny ears together.
Maybe you could try buying her some little slip on shoes that look like slippers, like kids swimming shoes...or maybe even some little ballerina shoes, their confortable and she may like them so much she wont want to take them off. My husband, myself and my kids only put shoes on if were having to leave the house which we try to aviod at all cost.
It could be because her feet are hot. I would try to let her wear sandles or some shoe that lets her feet breath with socks on. Then maybe that would help her feet not get so hot. Or you could have her start out in regular shoes and tell her teacher to take off her sock and put sandles on while she is inside. Just a suggestion.
Im not sure if they would have your child's size but try Pediped.com. Their shoes are very comfortable, but a little expensive! My daughter is one and loves wearing her shoes.
Hi M., I have a 2 1/2 year old that comes homedaily with dirty socks and rocks in his shoes. They are kids and we need to let them be. She will eventually grow out of it and the teachers really have a lot more patience with them than you think because all kids do it. My little boy ganged up with other kids at school and they would all take their shoes off and park them in the corner. Just let them play!!
Personally i think all the suggestions mentioned are great - however has anyone thought to just ignore it? 90% of the time with my son if he is doing something that we have asked him not to do it is just to get attention! We ignore it and he stops - maybe the teachers are simply just making TOO BIG of a deal out of it. Make sure she has her shoes on when they go outside obviously (don't let her go until she gets them on)but ignore it the rest of the time. just a thought!
