A. ~ Wow, 4 girls huh? and I thought I had it rough with 2!As far as the drama with BF and BFF and boys, that will always happen. At least they are talking to you and keeping you in the loop. I agree about their friends being at your home. I too have an early curfew for my girls. My 20 year old has to be home by 11:00 5 days a week (her choice which days) and 1:30 two days a week (which he has to tell me she is using prior to leaving the house). My 17 year old has to be home by 11:00 on weekends if she is driving and 11:45 if one of her friends is driving. During the week, she is not allowed to go out, except to school activities and/or work and then she must be home by 9:30. You have to set your limits, explain them to the girls, give them the consequences if they don't abide by the rules and then enforce the rules if they break them. Also, you may look into a really good book called Boundries for Teenagers. There is a workbook that goes with it. You can get them at any Barnes and Nobel. You may not follow it exactly, but it may give you some good ideas, if cannot hurt that's for sure. Talk to them about boys and their friends, tell them you are there for them if they want your advice, you have years of wisdom that they will seek if you put it out there, but don't be mad if they don't take your advice, just keep giving it whenever they ask. My 20 year old recently came to me about boyfriend drama. I was so surprised and it really felt good. She told me that she had talked to her BFF and the advice she was giving just didn't seem enough, so she wanted to talk to me because she knew I would be fair, look at all sides and have "something smart" to say and "excellent advice." That just about blew me away, but I gave my advice, she actually took it and things have worked out, she and I have a great relationship as well as with my youngest daughter and I really believe its because I'm no nonsense, fair and ALWAYS there for them, NO MATTER WHAT. However, I don't make their drama mine. I just say what I want to say, when asked and leave it alone after that. Let me know how it works out. I wish you well and sincerely hope for the best. Remember, you've done well no drugs and alcohol in this day and age is a huge success. drama can be worked out with communication. Best of luck!