Throwing Fits - Coffeyville,KS

Oh I don't agree. I don' think one is too young to swat the booty! They've gotta learn sometime. Kids are SMART. They know if they get away with it once, they can do it again and again until eventually they have full control of the house.

When you do swat him, get down on his level and look firmly into his eyes and with MINIMAL words tell him what he did wrong. (More than 3 they usually get confused. Oh, and, don't say "don't" to them. They don't know contractions yet so they hear "I said climb on that!", not "I said don't climb on that!".) And then give him one quick swat. Then start working with him to say he's sorry. It nipped my daughter in the bud with her fits. Now, don't get me wrong, they will still throw them but you just have to be consistent with what you're doing. Kiddos will ALWAYS test their boundaries.(

H., I remember those tantrums all to well. When my kids would do that I would leave them where they were at and make sure that they are safe, clean diaper,fed. Sometimes you just have to let them do that and eventually he will calm himself down but I would not worry to much about it right now he is only 11 months old and does not understand what he is doing, now when he turns 2 you can start doing the 2 minute timeouts because then he is starting to learn that the behavior he is having is not acceptable, you can start to teach hime by going and doing something else while he is throwing one and then when he is finished play with him or love on him

H.,
I believe you are experiencing a very strong willed child. I have a boy in my daycare that was like that from about 4 months to 2 years. He's 2.5 now and in the last 6 months has become a much different child. He's my best child to care for now. His mother and I stayed on the same page. If he threw tantrums like that he was left in bed the ENTIRE time. We'd go in to check his diaper. We'd make sure he wasn't sick, feverish, or too hot or cold. But when we knew he wasn't teething and there wasn't any other explanation we just ignored him. It didn't feel like it would EVER end. But I just want to tell you that this little guy now is happy, bright, talkative, and very well behaved for being 2 and a half.

When he was not throwing tantrums we were very careful to be as sweet to him as any other normal child. It's important to reinforce the good behavior and ignore the bad as much as humanly possible.

Suzi

This doesn't sound like ordinary temper tantrums to me. We had a grandson with a problem which sounds a great deal like your son's problem.
They at first thought it was part of ADHD, or ADD, but it turns out that he has a form of Bi-Polar. There are two forms of Bi-Polar. This sounds a lot like the second one, which has these type of rages. It may not be matter of just getting his own way.
I would strongly suggest that you take him to a Child Physcologist(sp), and get him checked out, and also see if there is any kind of history of this problem on either side of the family. It has a tendency to run in some families. It's a chemestry problem in the brain.
I'm not trying to diognose here, but it is something that you could check on. I have a son, husband, and grandson with this problem. My husband, and grandson are on medication for it, and it's done wonders for them. My son cannot currently afford the medication required for him.
I sincerely hope that this isn't the problem, and that you find out what's going on. In any case, I would still recemend some professional help.

I'd have to agree with Amber S. I think that 11 mo is a little too young for him to fully understand discipline. I don't think that he quite understands his actions right now so he's just showing some frustration. I'd redirect his attention to something else. When my 11 mo old daugther throws a fit I just get on the floor and play with her and show her lots of love and attention. If he's just too uncontrollable I'd talk to your pediatrician and see if they have any suggestions.

This is what worked for me, at least in the winter months. I walked outside with him for a few moments. As cold as it is, the drastic change of a nice warm house to a cold winter breeze was enough to stop the trantrum. We never stayed out there more than 15-30 seconds. While we were out there, I would talk to them about whatever the trantrum was about. I know it sounds unconventional, but it worked for me.
With my other son, I just walked off and ignored him. He was the one that was out for the attention. He hated being ignored. When he stopped his tantrum, I gave him positive attention again.
Be persistant and don't cave into his whims.

its a power struggle, seperation anxiety, and independace all rolled unto one. Unfortunatly it seems to be a boy trait that shows up at some point. my son is 21months old and he still does this from time to time. The only thing that seemed to work for us was to hold him tight until he was calm enough for us to tell him no. I too work and sometimes you just have to take the day if the seperation anxiety gets that bad. You can also talk to your ped. about it and see if they have any suggestions. Our ped. said it's just something they have to grow out of that it was a natural progression of growing up. So as much as it sucks and as scary as it is to watch them morph into demon child it really is just them getting frustrated because they have so little control of thier own environment.

I think 11 mos is a little too young for any discipline, including swatting his behind. He's way too young to understand. I have a 1 year old, she started throwing fits a month or so ago. It's completely normal. They are too young to be able to express themselves and they get frustrated. The best thing to help is redirection. Show him a toy, sing a song, anything to help get his mind off of whatever he was throwing a fit about.

Maybe he's teething? That definitely makes them more fussy.

You son keeps acting this way because you or someone keeps giving in. He has to learn that you are not going to give in. Let him scream for 3 - 6 hours, eventually he will stop (or fall asleep). The next time he will scream for less time. I know it is hard, but in the end it will be worth it. Also, everyone must do the same discipline every time (consistance). If he gets out of his corner keep sticking him back in until he learns that he must stay there. Please remember that at age 11 months he has a small attention span. If you watch Nanny 911 (I think that is what it is called) you will see that it takes a while to teach the child, so have patience.