Well...I really take issue with any of this being close to a "martyr"
mar·tyr
/ˈmɑrtər/ Show Spelled[mahr-ter] Show IPA
–noun
1.
a person who willingly suffers death rather than renounce his or her religion.
2.
a person who is put to death or endures great suffering on behalf of any belief, principle, or cause: a martyr to the cause of social justice.
All these things you describe are EASY problems. Problems, that really aren't problems. You can just not do any of these things. We could all not do any of these things. You aren't fighting for anything. You have your freedoms. You have the choice to put on spectacular holidays, or not to. You have food, shelter, a bed, clothes, family, safety. You (and even very poor Americans) are embedded forever into the top 10%, of the richest people in the world. What exactly, is being sacrificed here?? You can practice whatever religion you choose. Wear whatever you want, say whatever you want, live wherever you want, get an education, have your needs met, have access to clean water, heath care, and government help.
I assume, that your life and the life of your family, is very good. I assume, there is really no "martyrdom" happening around you.
When martyrdom is ACTUALLY martyrdom, it's worth it. When people are ACTUALLY fighting for basic right and liberties, martyrdom is worth it and often tragic, necessary, and a violation of human rights.
Perspective.
In response to your question edit:
I still don't understand the point of this post. I still (personally) find the comparison to a martyr very off-base and incredibly insulting (and insensitive and ridiculous) to those that are. Your question doesn't sound like much of a question. It sounds very self indulgent, actually.