**To Mothers of Large Families**

Hi J.-
I am a SAHM of 3 girls, 9, 3 and 1 years old. I am now pregnant with my 4th child, due in June. It was very hard telling people this time I was pregnant because yeah, they look at you like you are insane or something. We want a big family and we feel like we can make it work one way or another. I try to show people how excited we are to be pregnant again so they know not to say something "negative" about it to me or my husband. As for expenses, we try not to eat out a lot, make inexpensive meals at home, we don't spend a lot on B-days and Christmas, things like that. Believe me, our kids definetly don't go without, but they don't get everything they want either. We do also pass on the clothes from one child to another!!

As for the bleeding, I think every woman is different. I did bleed a little more after my 3rd also. If it is a concern, I would talk it over with your doctor and see what he says.

Good luck to you!!!

Hey hon, I totally know what u are going through. I have a 6 yr old a 3 yr old a 26 mon old and a 13 mon old... It is very hard tellin people ur pregnant again but u just have to be firm and say ur happy and if u have a problem with it get over it and I dont want to hear it. It will be hard financially but it works, if u have faith in GOd... I only work partime and my husband is disabled and we get by ok. I believe everything happens for a reason. With the 6 yr old I had preclamsia and the 3 yr old gestational diabetes. With my last 2 not much went wrong other then after my 3rd i lost over 60 pounds then got pregnant again soon after... with this last one ive kept all the weight and some. As for the bleeding I totally know what ur going through. I had 4 c-sections. It was horrible, i would recommend whoever doesnt have to get one dont. I had the nurse come in everyday like u did and with this last one had my tubes tied. And now I bleed 3 weeks out of a month and somedays have to use a super plus tampon every 30 min for a day or 2 at a time. It is not fun. All i can say is make sure ur doctor knows everything about ur past and your concerns. I wish u well!

Hi J. :) I can surely relate! I am mom to 7. We are a blended family. My partner and I met 12 yrs ago when his 3 boys and my 2 boys,1 girl were all under age 8.We both had full custody and have always had all the kids full-time with little to no help from the bio parents.
People acted as though we'd lost our minds when we decided ( yes-decided) to have a child together!
Money has always been rough!! I learned to cook a bit differently and to organize EVERYTHING!!! My house was run like an Army camp when the kids were all little!
I won't lie...it's rough!!BUT it can be done and everyone can be part of a happy family who support each other and love each other very much :)

Good Luck :)
T.

My question to anyone who wants a big family is "if you cant afford it why would you want to"?

If you have to ask the question of "how are we". that should pose the question of "why" in your mind.

I would rather be a Great mother of three, rather than a surviving mother of 8-10. Not to be the devils advocate. I just know what its like to be neglected by your parents because they dont have time for you; and time is the most precious thing you can give someone, with never enough and nothing to get back once it is gone.

Hi J.,
I can respond to one of your issues for sure and another one possibly. I supplement our income by helping people learn how to keep their families healthier. It is very rewarding (over and above anything finaicial), it can be done at home, and you only make money because you have helped someone else.

Your bleeding issue might be something solved through nutrition. I know it sounds too easy, but I have seen it time and time again.

Best of luck with how ever many children you choose to have. It is, after all, your business and nobody elses.

S.