Vasectomy Fail

It happened to my parents, after 10 years she got pregnant with my little brother. This has made my husband very paranoid about his own vasectomy that he got earlier this year. :)

Well that's quite disturbing that he thinks it might not be his and yet you just lol (?) weird, but, whatever, just do a paternity test. Isn't that kind of the obvious thing to do?

Story for you... this happened to a close friend of mine. The couple wanted and had two kids. Thought they were done so he got a vasectomy. Boom, she gets pregnant. He was in the medical field, so did his own "investigation" and sure enough, his swimmers were still kicking! Baby boy number three is born and she has her tubes tied after the birth. Guess what, she got pregnant again! Two failed birth control methods. But, they finally got a baby girl. Four kids later, I'm not sure what they're trusting for BC!

Moral of the story is that birth control, yes even permanent forms are never 100%. Have your husband get re-evaluated so that he understands the baby is his. No need to leave doubt lingering. Good luck!

I would be livid if my husband questioned me about a pregnancy. 6 children is a huge surprise for him, if at one point in his life he was so sure the 3 were enough.

It is obvious he is overwhelmed. He needs to go to the Dr., be tested and get another vasectomy.

Then work with him to make plan for all of these children financially. And how he can spend enough time with them individually as well as a family.

Men are not like women, they feel the stress of suppotting all of their children in a worse case scenario. All of them attending college, all of the weddings, each Christmas with all of the gifts, vacations, clothing, car insurance, a larger life insurance policy...

Make plans with him and really try to stick with them, he is not prepared for any more surprises for a while.

FYI, congratulations, every child is a blessing, but keep in mind, this can add a lot of stress to the person that has to support everybody.

A couple in my Sunday School ended up with a surprise many years after a vasectomy..... I have a feeling it is more common than we think!

It'll all work out as soon as he sees the paternity test results. Make sure you get the test done, even if he says he doesn't care. You don't want him to have lingering doubts.

I can tell you aren't worried because you haven't had sex with anyone else. I'm glad you have a sense of humor about his worry. All this proves, as you are a perfect example of, is that vasectomies don't always "take".

He needs to see his doctor.
That should pretty much answer ALL of his questions.
Good luck!

It definitely can happen ... although after 11 years I can see why he'd be shocked and wondering.

I worked with a lady who got pregnant 5 years after her hubby had a vasectomy ... although in this case he never went back to the doctor to make sure everything took completely.

I know I'd be wondering and freaking out just a little bit if I was in his shoes.

Sounds like he needs to go back to the urologist for a check up... Reattachment can happen. I have a friend that was conceived after his father had a vasectomy. Come to find out, his father had 3 tubes instead of 2 (the third getting missed). Weird things do happen!

My DH has a coworker whose youngest child is the result of a failure. After that, he both got re-done and she had her tubes tied to be extra extra sure. Plus side, she says that child was the easiest to raise and turned out to be a great person and she is happy to have had him. The rate of failure is low, but not unheard of. I hope he comes around to the idea that it happens and trust the your faithfulness.

FWIW, I can see my DH scratching his head but not being furious/throwing me out of the house. My take on this is he's unsure but not being abusive, based on what you posted here. Frankly, my DH had every right to question one of his older children's paternity, but that was based on his EXwife's behavior. If he has no reason to think you cheated, then hurray! Medical miracle. Congrats.

I had a neighbor have this happen. The dad got snipped and about 10 or 12 years later mom got pregnant. It was strange because both of their older daughters were also pregnant at the time. Mom lost hers. But it does happen. Get hubby into the doctor for a checkup and a resnip if needed.

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I could understand his shock. I have always told my husband that if I ever came up pregnant I would be more then happy to test DNA so he can rest assured it was in fact his vasectomy failing.

I have heard that it is rare but those tiny tubes can reattach themselves years later so it looks like it has with your husband. I have a friend that has a cousin this has happened to. Good luck

I was 14 years old when my mom found out she was pregnant. My dad had a vasectomy after I was born!! So it DOES happen!!!