I need your opinions on whether or not this is okay for me to do. The girl who is getting married is the daughter of a close friend. I attended her shower a few months ago. I looked at the registry this morning, and there is still alot of things that the couple need. I was thinking of giving $50 in cash and a gift off the registry. Is this okay to do or should I just give more cash?
That sounds VERY generous. You could also give a gift card at the store where they are registered instead of the cash/gif combo.
$50 AND a gift is great; very generous. $50 in a card is totally fine too :)
At our wedding, people gave what they could... and if they couldn't, that was fine too, I was just happy to have the people I loved with me on my special day!!
Personally, I always give cash for a wedding.
It is perfectly okay to give either a gift or cash, or both. I spend about $40-50 on a gift in total even for close friends, so you are already ahead in your generosity :) If it is from their registry, it is something they want, but they can also return it for store credit. But you don't have to buy from the registry. It is a gift, and they will/should be grateful regardless.
When I got married at 26, I wanted gifts from my registry and looked forward to getting them. Now, at 38 with kids, I value getting cash. So, just get them something based on what you think they would prefer.
The way the economy is today, I would hope that people understand that some of us just can't do both. I think you are being way too generous. I would only do one or the other but not both. To my it's not the gift, it's having your loved ones there to share in the exciting moment.
I think that works well...or here is this thoughtful gift guide that has some original gift ideas that my co-worker referred me to...maybe you could do one of these along with a registry item or cash?
http://www.skinnyscoop.com/list/larissa/thoughtful-gift-i...
Are the items on their registry things they NEED or things they probably WANT - ie a salad spinner is something they just registered for. They don't necessarily need it.
My husband would answer: Just give them cash, as he prefers cash to do with as he pleases.
My answer would be: I don't like just giving an envelope. I would buy a little something to attach to the card with cash inside. Maybe a wooden spoon or a whisk with a lot of ribbon tied to it. I like to give gifts like that. But that's just my style.
Someone who came to my wedding shower would say: I love to buy the couple the turkey platter. That way every Thanksgiving they think of me! And lo-and-behold I think of her every time I pull out that huge platter. So I do like the idea of a gift that keeps you in their daily lives, esp if you are close to her family. A blender, a cross for their wall, a special lamp...... I do remember some of the people who got me certain gifts.
I think you are being generous either way. The couple will hopefully love and appreciate anything.
I think that the $50 cash and a gift off the registery is just fine to do. I know that when we go to a wedding we always do $50 check or cash and a gift if we want too. I think of the wedding gift as a gift of their life together. Every newelywed couple can use money.
No, a gift and the money is more than generous. You are fine.
That is a very generous gift and perfect! I say give cash or stuff from the registry, and you're doing both. :) I got a million crystal dishes, candle sticks, candy jars, picture frames.... GAG, I couldn't return it, or sell it, had to just give it away, what a waste!
