Weening, Its Soo Hard

Are there any specific reasons you would like to wean? I agree with letting him lead the weaning, but if you are really done with nursing, just be vigilant and cut down the number of times he nurses. Start with the random times (like your example). Still keep the scheduled nursings ie. morning, night, etc. but get rid of the times where he just comes up to you. After that has been established, cut out another time. Give it a few weeks, then gradually get down to only nursing during the time he needs it the most (before bed is usually the biggie.) Keep nursing during that time for a while then cut down to every other day, then after a while, every two days, etc. Don't try to do it all at once. Gradually is the key.

I am going to nurse my kids until they quit on their own, or first day of kindergarten!! LOL. I have one that will be 3 in May and one that will be 1 on the 27th. I let the older one nurse for lots of reasons, but one of them is because she does not feel left behind seeing her brother nurse and she can't. She was never jealous of him and if you stop yours now, in 2 months they will still remember nursing and you may create unnecessary resentment of the new baby.

Do you really WANT to quit or do you just think it will be easier nursing one? I just love having the one thing that makes everything right with the world, boobies!!! It can help a lot, especially with a 19 month old when they get tired or sick or just need to cuddle...I'd think about it. No matter what, do not bring anymore stress on yourself than you need to considering you're getting ready to have a new baby!! Good luck with that BTW.

my son just weaned himself the week he turned 2(a few weeks ago), but it was a long process, I'm seven months pregnant, and I started weaning him around 20 months. I structured nursing to a schedule to begin with then started slowly taking one session away. First during the middle of the night, then in the morning (jumping out of bed and getting breakfast), then to bed at night, and finally nap time (still working on that one by driving around/going for long walks)..he decided to stop on his own for the last one, and still asks for it every few days, I give it to him, he realizes there is no more milk, and goes back to playing. I know it gets old after a while, I only have a couple of months of nursing freedom before the next one comes-but the longer you nurse the better for the child. I say limit, then let it happen naturally. It's confusing for them when it's been such a constant all their life to all of a sudden get cut off.

I breastfed all 3 of my sons, now 3,10, and 13. Its a great choice, and I'm glad I did it, but it was nice to get my body and my life back when the weening was done. Weening can be tough if you aren't focused and committed, particularly if you've been feeding on demand. I gave the process 3 months, but didn't need that long every time. My youngest was the least interested in moving on. I think some of it was my reluctance to let the connection go and not being as organized in moving the process along as I was with his brothers.
Decide which time of day will be the easiest to cut out first and stick to it. Make sure the replacement is something he'll enjoy. Give him lots of hugs/affection and wear clothes that make access to "the boobage" harder. Dresses and bodysuits will make you have to stop and think so he won't be able to get a stealth feeding. Maybe a few new activities to distract him as well. I had a loose schedule and would drop one feeding every week or two. The last one may be the hardest or it may just sort of drop off your little one's radar once he stops resisting and adjusts to the new menu. Good Luck.

I agree with PP,if it's just an annoyance with you and not b/c of any medical or change in job or w/e I would continue.I have never breastfed due to different situation with both babies,one had jaundice and the other pnemonia during the first week of life so it made it difficult to nurse,not to mention my breast arent latch material...nipples are to small.But you will miss that when he's the age of your other children,and while it might be a little embarassing to have your baby lift up your shirt,especially if company was over lol.But he will eventually stop when he no longer feels that urge.I say try to hold out a little longer unless your doctor advises otherwise.

I nursed all my sons and they were all different. They ran the spectrum of weaning themselves at 9 months all the way to 26 months. I would encourage you to allow him to wean himself when he is ready. I know sometimes it is a hassle. I can understand why mama dogs begin growling at their pups when they are done nursing them. :-) Sometimes you also question..if it has gone on too long...will people think he is too old to be nursing. But I wouldn't worry about that. Babies know what they need and when they are ready. He will only be little for a short time. Just relax and enjoy this time. Soon he will be a very busy toddler, then preschooler....and you will miss the closeness you have now. It is a special, precious time....enjoy it. :-)