I have a 3 y/o and a 10m old. We didn't want any kids, then we decided to have one. I loved being pregnant and being a Mom SO much that I wanted another. I was supposed to get my tubes tied right after delivery, but I couldn't (medical reasons). When I called weeks later to make the appointment, I couldn't do it (emotional reasons!). I can imagine being pregnant again (I LOVE being pregnant). I can imagine another baby (some times), but when I really think about it, I'm happy with two. My husband is absolutely done with two.
- We have man to man defense. One parent for each child. Makes it easier.
- Easier to have a baby sitter with two. I can't imagine my 16 y/o sister juggling three! Lol.
- If I'm out with both boys, I can scoop both up in my arms if needed.
- The one thing that my husband brought up about a 3rd (when I was actually able to get him to talk about it) was that he was worried that Ryan (our 10M old) would get lost. We'd have Jacob (our first) doing all the milestones first then we'd have the youngest to be looking after. He'd worry that Ryan's accomplishments wouldn't be as big of a deal - unintentionally, of course. [NOTE: I'm not saying that all parents with more than two do this, so please don't take it that way. It's just one of our worries.]
- We can keep our SUV's and not get a mini-van.
- No one has to share a bedroom and we can still have an office or play room for the kids. Both of us shared bedrooms with our younger siblings and hated it. I swore I wouldn't make my kids do it - if at all possible.
- Day Care and COLLEGE TUITION! Lol.
Don't get me wrong, I know that you can overcome anything if you work hard enough at it and if I were to get pregnant, we would make it all work and be happy about it.
My heart wouldn't mind one more pregnancy and maybe a little girl (I have two boys). But, when I lay it all out there - two is what works for us.
Good luck and really, when it comes down to it, as long as both you and hubby agree - then it will work out.
T.