What to Do After Surgery with My 14 Mth Old.

Our twins were 22 months when I had a c-section to have our daughter, while I know it's not the same surgery I wanted to respond with things we told our twins to keep them "off" Mommy. We talked about booboos before I went and pointed out any (small or big) they had for examples. When I came home Daddy reminded them Mommy had a booboo and needed a nap. I stayed in our room the first two days and they visited me in there, while we reminded them to be gentle. I think with a constant reminder of be gentle everything should go alright. Have your son come lay in the bed with you, watch his favorite show or read a book together. Everything should be fine just be cautious! Good Luck with your surgery!

P.,

I had gallbladder surgery a couple years back. I stayed in the hospital for one day and two days later, I was up cooking Thanksgiving dinner. I did have to take frequent breaks to sit down. But it wasn't as bad as I thought. I did notice that going up the stairs took a lot out of me so try to avoid that, but as long as they don't have to cut you open, you should be able to take care of your baby.
M.

Don't worry. I had my gall bladder taken out a few years ago. It was done outpatient because it is lapriscopic. I was a little groggy that day but the next day, I was fine. I had a teeny bit of pain(if you can handle cramps, you can handle this) but I was back at work the next day. You may have to go easy on picking up your kid for a few days but you may be able to get around that by sitting on the floor with him or having someone sit him in your lap. It's not a big deal and I"m sure you'll be fine. Best of luck to you.

My best friend just went through this. She had breast implant surgery. She couldn't pick up her 15 month old daughter (who is always attached to her hip - very clingy) until the stitches were out. Which ended up being almost a month because if sickness & holidays. I say make sure that those around to help you make sure they keep close to the baby. Just make sure you spend quality time with her even if it's not holding her/picking her up/etc.

Hope your surgery goes well & that your recovery is fast.

I had my gallbladder taken about on Nov. 30 & I had the laproscopic surgery. I did have to stay overnight in the hospital because I woke up in a ton of pain. I have a very clingy son (who was 10 months at the time). I tried to hold him the best I could, but it was quite painful. My husband was a big help and held our son while I sat near them. While the recovery is relatively quick, everyone is different. I had the surgery done on a Thursday and started doing half days at work on Monday. I do have a slow healing rate and was in some decent pain for a couple weeks. It didn't help that my son got real sick the week after my surgery and I had to fully care for him while my husband worked.

What I tried my best to do was hold my son on the left side when we were sitting on the couch (since the gallbladder is on the right, as will be your incisions). He would come lay with me in bed for a little bit, but you know how energy driven kids that age are. I am still having a lot of abdominal issues, so there are a lot of nights I'm in bed and he comes to visit me. With your son being 14-months, he should be able to understand "careful" or "easy" around you, especially if you start teaching it to him now.

Good luck on the surgery and recovery. If you want to talk about or anything, feel free to contact me, as mine was just done in the recent past.

hey P., i had my gallbaladder removed december 21 and i have two kids, 9 years old and almost 2. the day of the operation i can not remember my children i was drugged up but two days later i was feeling fine. the little one, i couldn't hold her, but she sat in the bed with me and watched tv. its not that bad, hopefully all goes well and the recovery shouldn't take you more than 4 days. i took a week off of work and 3 days of the operation i was moving into a new house, i know everyone is different but they say 3 to 4 weeks, but for people, espically mommies, it takes a lot quicker toheal. its just the scars that take a while to heal. if you have any more questions you can contact me ____@____.com. about me: i'm 29 with 2 girls and a husband that helped out alot. good luck..

Gall bladder surgery is not the same as it has always been. I had mine taken out a few years ago and it was outpatient with only three insignificant scars. I was ready to go after a couple of days. The only diffence is with eating certain foods. Your child shouldn't have a huge affect on you. Some maybe, but not a lot.

I know you have had several of these responses, but I had my gallbladder out when my son was 9 wks old. I was still breastfeeding at the time too. It was laproscopic so I went home the same day. I was groggy and didn't hold my son much the first evening, but after that I had to. I was sore a little longer than normal, but other than that I was ok. I think you will be fine, if it is laproscopic, just don't try to be to tough and be sure to take the pain medicine you are prescribed. Mostly I had my son sitting or laying down with me while I recovered and he was okay with that, as long as he was around me. Good Luck to you I am sure everything will go wonderfully!

Hi P.. I just had mine taken out in Oct. Tyler was not quite 9 months old yet. The worst part was not being able to pick him up for a few days. Other than that, it went well. I had mine done laproscropicly (sorry for the spelling). I have 4 small scars. I was up and walking around fine the next day. Probably could have been that night, but I was still woozy from the anesthesia.

I stayed at my Mom's house because my hubby leaves for work at 6 am and that way we didn't have to get Tyler up that early. My mom took him to the babysitters for me and we made sure someone was at the house anytime Tyler was there, too. I felt so fine, that I went to Myrtle Beach the 4 days later for the weekend with my sisters for our "Annual Sister's Weekend." Of course the first time I told them the date of my surgery, they all asked if I would still be able to go to MB.

Tyler seemed ok. I would let him sit in my lap real still after day 2. But as soon as he got squirmy someone would come get him from me. I could sit in the floor and play with him or sit on the couch and ready books with him.

Hope everything goes well for you.

i had my gall bladder taken out and it was in and out the same day. back to work in 2 days. of course i have a sit down job. but i was fine within 4 days total. do you know why the healing process will take so long?

Greetings P.,

My oh my! First of all, good luck to you and I will be praying for a speedy recovery! Second, I had surgery one week ago on my abdomen with over 20 staples on the first incision and 11 on the second. I can't bend over very well and I definately cannot pick my son up. He is five months old, but my best suggestion would be to have as much help as can be and to expect that you are gonna be in some pain and have to work through it. Explain to your child the best you can that mommy is hurt and what you can and cannot do. Sorry I couldn't be of more help to you.

Blessings,

C.

Hi P.. I completely understand how worried you are. I hurt my back when I was 7 weeks pregnant, so I couldn't find out what was wrong until after I delivered. After many months of conservative measures, I found out I needed a double spinal fusion. It was about a month before his 1st birthday and I wanted to enjoy it, so I put it off until afterwards. I was taking care of him mostly since my husband worked nights and he was very attached to me doing everything for him. The worst part for us was the fact that I had to stay in the hospital for 2 nights. My son wouldn't eat or take his naps for my husband. I was so sick from the anesthesia that I had to beg the doctor to let me go home. As soon as I got home, he was fine, eating and sleeping. It didn't take long for him to get used to other family members helping out. As long as you're there so your son can see you and know that you're still in the house, he'll be fine. He'll know thing's are different, but he won't forget about you or hate you for not playing with him like usual. That's how I felt. It's been 4 1/2 months since my surgery and I still can't do all that I want to with him. I just started doing things very slowly and he adjusted really well. It will take a year or more before the fusion is complete and he's being very patient with me. It's really good that you have so many people that will be helping you. It will make things go much smoother. I would make sure your son is familiar with everyone who will be watching him. You'll still be able to hold him even though you won't be picking him up. My son loved to get in bed with me and play under the covers for a few minutes at a time. I was jealous of how much time my husband was able to spend with him and all the things I couldn't do, but now, even though I still can't do as much as him, my son prefers me to do everything. So don't be disheartened by it, because the weeks will fly by and you'll be back to your old self. Use the time to recover and DON'T PUSH YOURSELF TOO EARLY. Even though you want to do things, you don't want to injure yourself more and then take more time to heal. It will be good for him to spend some time with other people too. I would suggest making a list and schedule for others to go by so that he stays in his routine and he'll be looked after the way you want him to. Hope this helped and that your surgery goes well. Good luck.

Hi P.,

I had mine removed when my daughter was the same age. I was fine after just 2 or 3 days and we just told her that mommy had a boo boo on her tummy so nobody could touch it...and showed her the tape over the incisions (they weren't gross or anything). She was a mommy's girl at that time as far as who she wanted to jump on, hold her, etc...but she actually enjoyed her daddy time while I was healing. She was able to sit beside me and read,play, etc, so she was more fine with it than I expected. I think as mom's we tend to worry they'll think we're neglecting them. I've since had foot surgery where I was down for longer and in a cast for 6 weeks after, crutches and all, and that was when she had just turned 2. So 2 surgeries on me in a year with her and both worked out just fine. The foot surgery was harder on me and her than the gallbladder by far! I hope that you're just assuming the healing time will be that long and that you're having it done laproscopically (sp?)...but good luck no matter what!!!

HEY I HAD MY GALLBLADDER OUT WHEN MY DAUGHTER WAS 2 YRS AND I HAD JUST HAD MY 2ND WHOM WAS BORNSTILL. IT WASNT SO BAD. I HAD PEOPLE COMING AND CHECKING ON ME REGUARLY AND SHE WAS OK TO KNOW WE HAD TO SPEND THE DAY LAYING AROUND AND WATCHING CARTOONS OR MOVIES. SHE LOVED THE CUDDLING TIME. I GUESS IT JUST DEPENDS ON HOW ACTIVE YOUR CHILD IS. AUBREY WAS JUST FINE HAVING A LAZY DAY EVEN THO NORMALLY SHE IS WILD. MY WORST PART WAS THE PAIN MEDICINE MADE ME SLEEPY AND I HAD TO HAVE SOMEONE WITH HER WHEN I WENT TO SLEEP IF SHE DIDNT GO TO SLEEP WITH ME. MY GMA WAS NEXT DOOR SO SHE COULD COME OVER. HOPE THIS HELPS AND IF YOU HAVE ANY MORE QUESTIONS JUST EMAIL ____@____.com

Gall bladder surgery isn't a big deal - it is done with lasers so you won't be unable to move or walk. There will be discomfort but you'll be up and around in a few days. In the meantine, get family members to come help you in shifts so the whole day is covered. My sister has stomach surgery with a 2 year old and this is what we had to do. As long as you're there and available for hugs and reading books, etc. he'll be okay. You just need others to help with cooking, cleaning, changing diapers, etc. for the first few days. We did it in three shifts - 7-12, 12-5 and 5-10 with my mother, me (her sister) and a neighbor. Or they can rotate whole days. People at church are always willing to help out, too, just be careful who you let in your home and especially around your child (you never know!). Hire a cleaning lady or do it right before your surgery so you don't have to worry about it. Buy lots of quick fix foods for your little one - mac & cheese, applesauce, popsicles, etc. and coloring books, puzzles and rented movies. You really only need enough for 2 or 4 days....it's not as bad as it sounds :)

hey there i bet you do have your hands full.. i feel ya. its great that you do have family coming and i know that when my 2 1/2 yr old is in sight of sound of me NONE can get a handle on him not even his own daddy... when i am around its all about me.
if there is a close relative's house near by see if you can recover over there and let the other family members take care of your son at your house so he can have his things near.. like his toys his bed etc...
if that is not an op. then i would see if the family would like to spend several hours at the indoor mcdonalds...lol just trying to make you laugh in a bad situation.. sorry if this advice does not let it is a suggestion...