Hi C.,
I'm so sorry to hear that you are having a difficult time with such a sensitive issue. I went through something very similar after my 15 month old daughter was born. Husbands sometimes have an incredibly hard time understanding just how difficult this is on us too, I think. I had to s-p-e-l-l it out for my hubby at one point. Just in the past two or three months things have started getting back to normal, or at least our new version of normal.
I would highly recommend looking into ICAN's yahoo group. There is a main list that is SUPER high volume, and there is a Florida list that is more manageable. I found them after having an "emergent" c/s, and I have never found another group of women to be more understanding of how difficult it can be emotionally, physically and sexually to recover from a c/s, regardless of whether it was planned or not.
You may also want to consider talking to a therapist who deals specifically with women's issues, rather than your OB. Talking to your OB about your mental health would be like talking to a mechanic about your home A/C (kinda the same as your car's but not quite... you know??). OB's also tend to have a medical approach to dealing with PPD or PTSD, as in "here, take this pill, it will help you", where a therapist will help you get to the root of the issue and hopefully help you move on. Personally, I found EMDR therapy the most helpful in dealing with the PTSD I suffered from after my daughter surgical birth. You can check out EMDR at www.emdr.com.
I hope this helps you, C., and if you would like to talk more please feel free to contact me personally. My email is ____@____.com. I'm also working on starting an Orlando ICAN group, so if you (or anyone else, for that matter) are interested in that too, let me know.
Hugs,
A.