Why Do I Feel So Bad?

I think it is a twisted way of people making sure you are okay. Since the main reason new moms feel worn out is the lack of sleep, they want your baby to be sleeping through the night for your sake.
It's still annoying, but they just want to know if you are getting any relief, not judging you on your parenting skills.

Oh honey... do NOT feel bad. Google "attachment parenting". You don't necessarily have to practice it, but it will help give you MEGA confidence in going to your baby when he needs it... trust me. You are giving him the confidence that you are there for him, that you are there to meet his needs, and that he doesn't have to try to deal with it all by himself... which WILL carry over to the entire rest of his life, and he will be better adjusted and confident than most kids, as well as more independent. I know it seems contradictory, but if they know you will be there ANY TIME they need you, they feel more confident in going off on their own. And, also- every kid is different. I have a son that just turned 3, and a stepson who is almost 5. I have been here for my stepson since he was about 5 months, and he slept through the night just fine, no problems, since about a month old. NOW however- he doesn't!! My son still sleeps with us... and wakes up every now and again, but generally just to reach out and make sure I am there!! Let me know if you need anything!!
T.

You are not a bad parent. You are however setting yourself up for bad habits that will get worse before better if you don't break them now. He is 9 mos and though he may need to eat once a night he is totally capable of sleeping all night. He needs the sleep as badly as you do and waking constantly he isn't getting the good sleep he needs.
I would say feed him maybe formula at night so it stays on his stomach longer or make sure he is nice and full when he is put down. Both of my kids at 9 mos woke up once a night to eat, but that was it. By all means do not bring him to your bed as he is old enough to develop dependency on you to get him back to sleep and he will turn you into a human pacifier. He should not nurse for comfort but for necessity or you will have a lot of problems down the road.
Every two hours is way excessive for a 9 mos old. Just let him fuss if you have to for a bit but do not nurse or put him in your bed if he fusses. Give it time and he will adjust and will not be traumatized, promise.

There are common staple questions all people ask mothers:
1. Are you going to found out what it is?
2. What are you going to name your baby?
3. Is it a boy or a girl?
4. How much did she/he weigh?
5. How long was he/she at birth?
6. Is he/she sleeping through the night?
7. Is he/she a good eater?
8. Are you going to have another one? (a week after birth)
9. Are you going to try for a boy/girl?
10. Are you going to have/did you have an epidural?
I could go on and on...it seems that many people ask these questions not out of real curiousity but just out of something to ask. Don't take it personally...