Why Do Mothers Nurse Well After 6-8 Months?

For the same reasons moms choose cloth or store bought diapers, to vaccinate or not to vaccinate, to co-sleep or not to co-sleep, to use a binky or not, to let them cry it out or not, and the list goes on and on...

Because it is what they believe is best for their baby and their family's lifestyle.

According to the American Pediatric Association guidelines you should breastfeed until the baby has reached 12 months old. Those are the accepted guidelines and I think most moms try to stick to them.

That's cute A.,

I've always wondered that myself. As a child care provider I see the dependency issues caused by breast feeding so late.

LIZ

The reason women breastfeed for 2+ years is because until WWII, babies always HAVE been breastfed until around age 2, and modern day science has backed up the 60,000 years of history with durn good reason. Even high-society types who were proscribed from breastfeeding (mostly to get them fertile as quickly as possible) and had their breasts bound up as soon as their baby was born... their BABIES were nursed by a "wet nurse" until the age of 2-3, when they were given over to the charge of a governess.

Formula came about because of the war. New mums had to go to work in factories where they couldn't take their infants with them, and SOMETHING needed to be given to their babies to keep they quiet during the day. Then, when they got home from work, they nursed throughout the night. The reason formula is *called* formula, is that there were hundreds of "recipes"/"formulas" published and shared among Rosie the Rivetteers, in Women's magazines, and in Propaganda.

The advent of formula though, was a HUGE breakthrough, because it saved the lives of babies who would otherwise have died. Wet nurses are expensive, and they essentially have to live with you. If a poor woman lost her milk while her baby was unable to digest solids, the baby usually died unless there was another nursing mum to help out. Same token, if a mom died in childbirth, or a baby was unable to latch, the babies would also frequently die.

The 2nd piece of fortunate news is that after the war ended, formulas got "better". Instead of being an oil&milk&cream&sugar&salt combo, science started experimenting with adding vitamins, and testing which ratios worked best for the majority.

The unfortunate bit, is that a stopgap measure, became the norm. Mostly because formula left the kitchen and went into big business. Advertising had no laws on it, any company could claim anything (and did) on billboards and televisions across america. Out of 60,000 years... from the 1950's to the 1980's formula became the norm. It's unfortunate, because while good for women's lib, formula wasn't good for babies... it was good for their parents.

Not that it was BAD for babies... but formula is the McDonalds of infant nutrition. A person can survive eating nothing but McDonalds, even thrive if they're very very careful... but it's not ideal. Not by a long shot.

Science however, kept marching along. (and truth in advertising laws were passed... you'll notice formula commercials now always say "breastmilk is best, but when you can't blah blah blah" or "the *closest* to breastmilk you can give your baby") Formulas kept (and keep) getting better, as we studied more, invented new machines that ALLOWED us to study more, and continued to advance our scientific knowledge. Something was confirmed along the way though... the more we understood about ourselves through science (brain development, muscle development, immune systems, etc.), the more science determined that breastmilk IS best. And furthermore, that the 2 years of nursing that moms had been doing for tens of thousands of years is THE best.

It's the best for so many reasons I'm not even going to list them all out (you've gotten some of the reasons already). The simplest way though, is a parallel. Formula is McDonalds, Breastmilk is a personal chef from Cordon Bleu with advanced degrees in medicine, nutrition, & immunology.

Formula for the masses is a fad that will pass, although it saves so many lives of children who wouldn't be able to live otherwise, it will only go away once we've either "cloned" breastmilk and genetically alter cows to produce human milk & antibodies... or we can synth it (the same way we have synthetic opiates).

I knew ALL of this (Mom's a microbiologist, and you can't swing a cat at thanksgiving without hitting a score of doctors, nurses, psychologists, & researchers)... but could only nurse kiddo 9 months. (Lost my milk due to a MASSIVE infection). I'd planned on self weaning, with the ideal being self weaning between 2 & 3. So we did formula as primary for the next several months, and kept formula as a supplement until DS was 2.

Just as a bit of P.S./ response to the whole "sleeping through the night thing". Some kids are just good sleepers. My son slept 13 hours (waking up once) through the night when he was just a few weeks old. As in not even a month. Kept that up for months, with only the expected sleep changes during growth spurts & teething. During that time he was exclusively breastfed. My best friend's son was on formula (she was going through chemo, no nursing for them!!!), and did the same good sleeper thing. Babies are all different. How they sleep is 90% luck.

I allowed both my kids to self-wean.
My daughter weaned at about 2.5 years old.
My son, at about 1 year old.

EACH child/baby is different. Very different.
It has nothing to do with whether they are breast or Formula/bottle fed, and whether or not they will sleep all night without waking because of it. And, your 2nd baby may or may not feed well/nurse well/or take a bottle well... each baby has different proclivities and personalities and appetite levels etc. You need to see what the baby's needs are, and how well or not they nurse and latch on. Many factors involved.

There are many positives to "extended breastfeeding" as it is formally called. MANY child experts themselves, did extended breastfeeding, of which there are many health benefits.

The reason for the "recommended" duration of breastfeeding for at least 6 months, is because, that is the least amount of time that a woman "should" nurse and will put up with. This is the MINIMAL recommended length of time, that breastfeeding "should" continue for.

In MANY countries, Moms nurse longer than 1 year.

My kids Pediatrician says that breastfeeding should be on-demand for a baby's 1st year of life and that this is the PRIMARY source of nutrition for a baby, NOT solids and NOT other liquids... this is the age of formative development....and the "building block" time for their biological and cognitive development.

Both my kids, are NOT IN ANY WAY "dependent" children. In fact, they are VERY intelligent, independent, Healthy as horses, well developed and in the 95th percentiles all around, very well developed and confident self-assured children. In no way, did they become negatively impacted by my extended breastfeeding them.

My Husband was ALSO so PROUD of me that I breastfed my kids until THEY self-weaned. He even bragged about it to his friends who had babies. He knew that breastfeeding is not easy, but he was so proud that our kids were healthy and got to breastfeed until they self-weaned. I did it, because that is what I believed in, for my kids. And they are happy kids.

Its not for everyone. And, not every woman can breastfeed depending on circumstances. And that is fine and her privilege to "choose" how to feed her kids. Some women can't "choose" and can't nurse, there is nothing wrong with that either. By bottle or breast, the 1st year is important.

All the best,
Susan

In reading your question, I feel you are extremely uneducated about the subject. We could all respond to your attention begging post, but you would never truly understand it until you do your own research and gather your own information.

So do you really think that all the nursing moms walk around with scarred boobs from the babies gnawing on their boobs using them for teething rings? You teach them not to bite and they don't.

What difference does it make where one uses the potty if their nutritional needs are the same? This will fall back on the part where you have to do some research to understand.

Do you think you would be able to tell if my baby was breast fed now that she is 4 years old? Do you think that she never slept through the night? As for the bad dependancy issues, do you think she cries for me all day long while at daycare and the staff all regret my choice to nurse?

My question to you...if you feel 7 months is the time to stop, then why? Why did you even start to begin with, if you couldn't or wouldn't give your child the full benefit...or did you know there was a benefit? What was the purpose? Further, if 7 months is the magic number, why on earth did you try to put the tata back in his mouth? Since it all seems to be so absurd.

Really A., this is a personal issue and your question is childish and ridiculous. You aren't asking this question as a "Help me understand", but rather to create rivalry between the two sides.

Wow!!! I am so annoyed by your posting I can't help but respond. First off I don't think you should judge people for providing there children breastmilk. I breastfeed my son until he was 20 months old. He is very healthy has never had to visit the doc except for well baby check-ups. Has a huge vocabulary, 95% for height and weight, sleeping through the night was never an issue and has used a sippy cup since he was 6 months old. He is also very independent, happy and out going.

I understand that not everyone is able to breastfeed and their children are also healthy. But if you can provide your children with breastmilk then my question is why would you choose not to? Maybe you should research your own question before you judge others that have done the research.

Once again I am shown that even people that go to church can be rude and judgemental. Julie L has also pointed this fact out to me too.

I would also like to add that I am proud to say that I was able to breastfeed my son until he was 20 months old it takes alot of work and dedication but to me it was worth every moment and drop of milk. Plus I never paid a dime for formula. :)

Benefits for your baby:
Right nutrients, right balance. Breastmilk has the right proportions of proteins, carbohydrates, fats, and other nutrients your baby needs to grow and develop.
Easy to Digest. Unlike proteins found in regular cow’s milk and most formulas, the proteins in breastmilk are naturally gentle and easy to digest.
Bioavailable iron. Contains iron that’s easy for your baby to absorb.
Builds tolerance. Helps protect your baby against early food allergies, protein intolerance, and sensitivity.
Offers protection. Provides natural protective antibodies and other immune-related benefits.
Helps digestive system. Fosters a healthy environment in your baby’s digestive system.
Evolves. Changes to meet the changing needs of your growing baby.
Creates bonding. Provides a perfect opportunity for bonding with your baby.

Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends breastmilk as the primary source of nutrition for your baby’s first year of life.

Benefits for you:
Produces helpful hormones. Stimulates the production of the hormone oxytocin, which causes your uterus to contract and return to its pre-pregnancy size.
Burns calories. Helps burn extra calories and lowers fat stores, helping you to return to your pre-pregnancy weight more quickly.
Creates bonding. Provides the perfect opportunity for snuggling, bonding, and skin-to-skin contact.
Longer health. Less chance of developing osteoporosis and less chance of developing breast or ovarian cancer later in life.

my baby is 9 months old and i plan to nurse her until 12-15 months. i am also a rn and about to graduate with my nurse practitioners license. coming from a medical background i can assure you that the milk your body makes is specific to your babys daily needs and is much better than any store bought formula... do you want your babys brain to develop from a walmart man made formula if you have other options. i know that there are situations that cause some people not to be able to nurse and thats fine. i am proud of you for nursing at least 6 months...but dont judge others who continue to do what they feel is best for their child. my husband has type 1 diabetes and i had gestational and by nursing her til she is at least 1 cuts her chances of getting diabetes down by 60 %. you're crazy if you think i am not going to do that for my child.

I have a question of my own. Why can't people live and let live? Why can't we encourage other moms instead of put them down because they don't share our personal preference?

I really think that if you did want to be respectful or offend that you would not have posted this in the first place.

I didn't breastfeed past a year (the recommended age) but I don't think putting down other mom's for their choice to breastfeed to any certain age is Godly in any way.

I am sorry if this offends you but I get upset when people use this site to put down others.

Good question. Here are some answers you might find surprising:

1. The AAP (American Academy of Pediatrics) recommends exclusive breastfeeding for approximately the first six months and support for breastfeeding for the first year and beyond as long as mutually desired by mother and child.

2. According to the WHO (World Health Organization):

Exclusive breastfeeding is strongly recommended for the first six months of life. At six months, other foods should complement breastfeeding for up to two years or more. In addition:

•breastfeeding should begin within an hour of birth;
•breastfeeding should be "on demand", as often as the child wants day and night; and
•bottles or pacifiers should be avoided.

 Babies who are breast-fed for at least 6 months have fewer health problems than formula-fed babies, including:
 3 times fewer ear infections
 5 times fewer urinary tract infections
 5 times fewer serious illnesses
 7 times fewer allergies

 Breast milk is so easy to digest, breast-fed babies spit up less often, have less diarrhea and less constipation. Breast milk actually starts to digest in 90 seconds.

 For every 87 formula-fed babies who die from SIDS, only 3 breast-fed babies die from SIDS.

 Babies who are fed ONLY breast milk (no supplementing with formula or solid foods) for at least 26 weeks (or 6.5 months) are 6 times less likely to develop lymphoma (type of cancer) in childhood.

 Babies who are breast-fed for at least one year are 50% less likely to develop diabetes.

 As adults, people who were breast-fed as infants have:
 Less asthma, allergies, and diabetes
 Fewer skin problems, including dermatitis and eczema
 Lowered risk of heart attack and stroke due to lower cholesterol levels
 Less ulcerative colitis
 Less Crohn’s disease
 Protection from certain chronic liver diseases

 Breast milk is brain food. Studies show that children who were breast-fed have higher IQs that those who were given formula.

 Women who breastfeed lower their risk of cancer.
 Nursing for a lifetime total of 2 years lowers the risk before menopause by 40%
 Nursing for a lifetime total of 6 years lowers the risk before menopause by 66%
 Nursing for a lifetime total of 7 years lowers the risk of breast cancer throughout a woman’s life to almost 0%

 Breastfeeding your baby also provides protection from cancer of the ovaries and osteoporosis.

3. My personal experience was that I had no idea how long I would breastfeed, but both of my boys weaned themselves to 1-2 nursing each day by 16 months and my daughter was 98% breastfed at 18 months....her choice. She had NO interest in food. None of my kids have had ear infections, allergies and are rarely if ever slightly exhbiting symptoms of being "sick". None of them are afraid of the dark and they all sleep in their own rooms now. My kids are 10x more independent and self-assured than most kids their ages. I don't think it has anything to do with bottle fed vs. breastfed, but rather with their personalities AND their parent's influence.

There is an article in the newest Mothering Magazine about breastfeeding and the bonding that goes along with it...and how important the smell is for the baby.

I have 4 children ranging from 13 to 8 months and I never breastfed any of them until i had my recent child and I made the decision to try breastfeeding. Prior to that I was not in favor of breastfeeding and felt that people that breastfed for long periods of time were doing it for 'other' reasons. You know what...I WAS WRONG! First off, my baby is healthier than any of my other children. He has never been even the slightest bit sick (knock on wood) and he is very healthy, holds his own cup and even holds his own bottle. He is independant contrary to wait one of the ignoratnt posters posted and breastfeeding has been a WONDERFUL experience for both my child and me. It is exactly that, feeding your child, and feeding them the best milk possible. I plan to continue breastfeeding until at least 1, I want to get thru the winter and now that he is getting all my immunities I pass to him thru breastfeeding during cold/flu season. Wow, what a wonderful thing our bodies can provide our babies....IMMUNITY! Again, I used to feel the way you do to a point, but I am PRO-breastfeeding now and tell my daughters atleast 1x a week that I can't wait until they are married and have babies and get to experience such a beautiful thing like breastfeeding.

I know many moms have already given their opinions and many facts, and I would like to pose a question to you. How long after stopping breastfeeding did you give your child a bottle of formula? Or a bottle of anything? Formula is simply a handmade (or rather machine-made) replacement for a mother's milk, and bottles are a replacement for a mother's breast.

American women push their children to be independent at much too young of an age. Why should we encourage a baby to be so independent? We have children to bring to adulthood and they are young for such a short time. They should not be shortchanged on their childhood, and part of their childhood is spent on mother's breast (or plastic or glass bottle). We stop them from doing things that are harmful to themselves or others, we don't stop them from things them potentially help them. Breastfeeding is definitely not harmful unless mom is on drugs that come through the milk. So why deprive the child of yet another wonderful experience, bonding moment, nutritious meal and so much more all in one?

I'm a mom of two little ones, my oldest is almost 3 and youngest is almost 1. I still occasionally nurse my older girl when she requests it and I nursed her through my pregnancy. They are both healthy and independent (for their age). I love them with all my heart and want to protect them in any way I can, but also know that it is important to teach them independence. I do not believe that withholding my milk will teach them anything.

The science is strong on this point. Mothers do it because it's good for their babies. Breastfeeding promotes health and bonding. The World Health Organization recommends: "Exclusive breastfeeding is recommended up to 6 months of age, with continued breastfeeding along with appropriate complementary foods up to two years of age or beyond."

I nursed my son until he was 16 months old, exclusively for 6 months then we gradually added table food to his diet. He basically lost interest on his own. No dependency issues at all.

My daughter is 2 years 1 month, walking, talking, and fully potty trained, and is STILL nursing. She only nurses a few times each week, usually when she's sick, or needs comforting. This is not a dependency thing, but a nice sharing moment. I'm guessing a month from now she'll be completely weaned, and if not I'll definitely start encouraging cuddles and water instead of the breast, but why on earth would I keep something from her that is so good for her?

Many people have already stated what I would respond, that it's best for the baby, that WHO recommends it for 2 years, that it's the food God provided (rather than man-made), and that your question is especially judgmental.

But to add my personal experience, it was extremely beneficial to both my sons in duress. My older son had extreme stomach flu/diarrhea at 16 months and couldn't keep anything but breast milk down. The fact that I was still breastfeeding kept him hydrated and okay until he was better.

My younger son had febrile seizures at 19 months. My husband had him in the ER and he was bucking, trying to get out of his arms and away from the IV. I got there, laid down on the table and started breastfeeding. He went to sleep immediately and I was able to keep him calm.

Breastfeeding is another, wonderful, God-given tool in the mommy tool box. If it isn't working for you, then you don't need to continue the gift. But don't be so judgmental of the rest of us, lest ye etc. etc.

Regardless of anyone's choice as how long to breastfeed, it's only NATURE to breastfeed until fully weaned. We evolved nursing until fully weaned (I'm sure Adam and Eve didn't have a bottle, pacifier or wet nurse). We are mammals and like other mammals on this planet, we were meant to nurse our young! With or without teeth! When you stop nursing and give your baby formula or cow's milk...you're giving them the breast milk of another species! Hence they're STILL getting breast fed. Obviously, they need breast milk of some sort...why not their own mother?? I nursed my son until 13 months and stopped because my milk was drying up quickly and he just didn't seem to need it anymore. Oh, and he had 4 teeth for the last 5 months he nursed. He only bit me a couple of times...enough for me to sternly tell him "no biting mama". He learned and was overall a great nurser. I fully support any mom who nurses longer. Hurray for them!

If this subject makes your mouth drop and baffles you, then why on earth do you want to know why I breastfed until 2? Will it really matter to you, make you judge me less? If you wanted to stay respectful then you could have chosen different words and punctuation. It seems to me you are hiding behind your post and really wanting to use it as a platform for condemning those of us who have chosen something different than you.

Matt 7:2-5 "For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged [if we judge with an evil heart or dark intent, His judgment of us will reflect it; if we judge nobly with honesty and justice, His judgment of us will reflect that, too], and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you [if we use extremes or exaggerations or other ignoble means, our judgment will reflect it and judging with fairness and compassion will garner likewise in His judgment of us]..."

I WILL tell you however, my reasons for extended breastfeeding which go far beyond the usual..."It's what my body is intended for after having a baby, it's natural, free and easily accessible as well as the right temperature and most all cultures breastfeed much longer than the U.S." ...
My twins were born at 28 weeks, weighing 2 1/2 lbs. each. Spent 2 months in the NICU, came home weighing 5 lbs. Pumping my milk while they were in the hospital was the only thing I could do for them. After my research and recommendations by their neonatologists, I knew I would following my mommy instinct and breastfeed for however long I could physically do it. My boys caught up physically faster than projected and they NEVER were sick for the first 17 months of their life, for a micro-preemie that is a major accomplishment. I solely attribute breastfeeding to that feat. My twins weaned themselves at a little over 1, they completely lost interest. My third baby would still be breastfeeding if I had milk. But at 2 yrs. my body seemed to be done. I NEVER thought we would go that long, but his interest didn't let up. I figured he would wean himself as my first 2 did but I was wrong. Every baby and mother/child relationship is unique. This just worked for us. Yes, all 3 of my kids were terrible sleepers. And I loved and cherished every one of those late night feedings, bonding with my beautiful babies. This is a personal choice as is your relationship with God and your church, how would you feel if someone questioned you on that subject? It would probably ruffle your feathers too. Be nice, please... you are raising a child who is learning from you and God knows we don't need anymore judgmental people in this world. Hallelujah!

Nursing is not just nutrition! Nursing is also comfort -why do you think pacifiers sell like crazy! You say you want to be respectful but you are clearly judgmental about a mother wanting to provide both comfort as well as the benifits of breast milk. Children are supposed to be dependant on their parents.....

Um, do you do any research whatsoever? This has to be one of the most ignorant posts I've seen in a long time. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends breastfeeding for AT LEAST the first year and then longer if possible. The World Health Organization recommends for the first 2 years. Breastfeeding is best for the baby. Most breastfed babies are extremely independent - again, you just sound extremely ignorant. Maybe you should pray that God helps you put your babies needs first rather than your own selfishness!

I am horrified at how judgmental your accusations and question is, who are you to judge other mothers and their decisions to breastfeed for longer than 7 months when you obviously are not educated on the subject. Maybe next time you should educate yourself on a subject for passing judgment!

Breastfeeding into Toddlerhood - WHY ON EARTH?
By Debbie Page, RN, IBCLC, CEIM, director of TheNewBornBaby.com

In Western societies, it is commonplace to expect a child to breastfeed for six months to a year only. Many mothers set that as their goal unaware of what is normal and natural: children wean naturally. Natural weaning, when allowed, occurs sometime after the child is two and one-half years old, not before. In some societies, children will nurse for five to six years.
Where did the notion that breastfeeding is only for the first year of life come from? It came from modern, industrialized societies. The benefits for the child continue as long as the child receives breast milk. The benefits to the mother continue as long as she produces milk. Therefore, nursing well into the second or third year of life is of great value and critical to the child’s overall health.

What Are the Recommendations?
• The World Health Organization: at least two years.
• The American Academy of Pediatrics: one year and beyond.
• Health Canada: two years and beyond.

Is Breast Milk Still Valuable after a Child’s First Birthday?
It certainly does not become less nutritional. Instead, the fat and energy content increases, and the composition of the milk continues changes from feeding to feeding and from day to day to meet the needs of the growing child. Breast milk continues to be a significant provider of nutrition. A total of 450 milliliters of milk daily provides these minimum daily requirements:
• 29% energy
• 36% calcium
• 76% folate
• 43% protein
• 75% vitamin A
• 94% vitamin B12
• 60% vitamin C.
Breast milk is only 10% nutrition. The remaining 90% continues to contribute to the health and proper development of every system in the child. It continues to provide an essential supply of antibodies for illness protection. The immunological protection from breastfeeding actually increases during the second and third years. Breast milk is antibacterial, antiviral, anti-parasitic, and antifungal. It provides protection against:
• Upper respiratory infections
• Diarrhea
• Pneumonia
• Strep throat
• E. coli
• West Nile Virus
• Influenza
• Salmonella
• Diabetes
• Certain childhood cancers.
Breastfeeding toddlers may still get sick but usually with less frequency and severity. Breast milk also protects against allergies – it can delay the child’s exposure to certain food allergens, lessen the severity of the reaction to allergens, and decrease incidence of asthma.

How Does Extended Breastfeeding Benefit the Mother?
The protection to women afforded by breastfeeding is all duration related: The longer you breastfeed, the greater the safeguard against various diseases. Breastfeeding reduces the risk of:
• All female cancers, including breast, endometrial, ovarian, and uterine
• Osteoporosis, because the bone density actually increases once the child is weaned
• Insulin requirements in diabetic women
• Rheumatoid arthritis
• Postpartum depression.
Losing weight is usually faster and more significant with breastfeeding women, and some women experience a suppression of ovulation. However, others do see the return of menses and therefore fertility.

How Often Do Toddlers Breastfeed?
Each child is different. Some toddlers will breastfeed first thing in the morning and before bed. Others will continue to nurse throughout the day. Some will nurse as often as a newborn. The frequency and length of nursing sessions typically decrease as children get older, especially once they reach 15 months old.

Keep in mind that toddlers will nurse to reconnect emotionally within the safety of their mother’s breasts. This is how they re-charge. They may play intensely and then run over for a few sips and just as quickly return to their toys.

Toddlers, like babies, may want to nurse more frequently when in a different environment or when the house is full of “other” people. Once everything settles back to normal, these increased nursings will likely disappear.

What about Encouraging My Child to be Independent?
Even though some experts will argue that extended breastfeeding will create clingy, dependent children, breastfeeding medicine specialist Dr. Jack Newman argues that the opposite is true: Children gain independence gradually as they are given free reins, not because they are pushed before they are ready. Children mature emotionally through the comfort and security of breastfeeding.
He calls this a “renewal of love.” It is a beautiful way of communicating unconditional love to your child. This message will last a lifetime and spill over into every relationship your child will have. Treating others with love and respect are hallmarks of an independent and emotionally mature adult.

more links to read:

http://www.kellymom.com/bf/bfextended/ebf-benefits.html

http://www.nbci.ca/index.php?option=com_content&view=...

WOW!!! I have 2 VERY independent little girls and I am amazed that you think it causes problems to breastfeed longer. While I can see an issue in our culture with breastfeeding past 18mo- 2 yrs (even though it's great for the child's health), I can't believe that you think it's bad past 7 months! Also, you can't stop for a month and then try to start again- no wonder you didn't make enough milk! Anyway- it's the most natural and healthy way to give a child valuable immunities! Do you really think that formula is great for them? Have you ever read what's in it? Every pediatrician I've ever talked to says to try to breastfeed for at least a year if possible- even if you have to use formula as a supplement if you don't make enough. My weaning was easy and neither of my girls ever took a bottle. Once they were around a year they just began to prefer a cup- no problems. If you're really into God, you should take the gift he gave you and nourish your baby as long as you can!

For one thing...I thought that the Christian Church taught us NOT to judge... guess I was wrong there just as I have been "wrong" to nurse my son past YOUR set standards. I'm sure that you have done the education, lab, psychological and other necessary testing to determine that a child only needs to nurse for 6 months. I'm not sure how your findings could go up against the AAP who has repeatedly stated that nursing (or formula if necessary) should be the PRIMARY source of food for the first 12 months... not solids or other liquids... but I'm sure you are divinely enlightened or something and know much better than anyone who has nursed their child for longer than your offspring.
My son is also very healthy and very independent. Your methods aren't superior to any one else. What a surprise there!

wow - i did not have time to read all the responses. But for being a woman of god - u need not only to do the research on nursing but to take some bible lessons as well.

My youngest is 4 and she was nursed until she was 2...she is strong-willed and very independant not to mention the brightest in her pre-school class (her teacher's exact words.) She is close to me, but more of a daddy's girl and no he did not nurse her.

Oh and by the way i was a Working Nursing Mom - so kudos to me! I am not only proud of me but proud of my independant beautiful little girl.

ps -

I had enough milk stored away that she was getting breast milk not only on the breast but in her sippy cup. She was sipping on her cup at 6 mos., has breast mil with her cereal and had breast milk til she was well over 2.

Well, I see a lot of people read you the riot act, but I just wanted to say that if you do choose to breastfeed longer this time, be very thankful to the Lord that you are given that opportunity.
I have a sad story with my 3rd baby. I had ear surgery when she was 7 weeks old that went horribly wrong and caused me to start having panic attacks around the clock. So after 5 weeks of being very ill from the panic attacks, I ended up being hospitalized for a month and had to wean cold turkey. My baby is now almost 7 months old and I would give my right arm to still be able to nurse her. I HATE that she is formula fed. I have a masters in public health and am a Christian and know that breastfeeding is so much healthier for a child, and it just tears me up that I can't be nursing this child until she is fully on solid foods. So be thankful if the Lord allows you to nurse your baby, and nurse as long as possible :)

Read the research the benefits are amazing! At 12m their immune system is only 60% dev., so nurse till at least 12m. Le Leche League has MANY books on this issue as do other authors... In MOST countries kids are bf till an AVE age of 4. Do some research through books or online about extended bf, it will change your mind. Changed mine!

Health benefits, pure & simple. Mother's Milk is ALWAYS best for baby. Formula is a weak, heavily ADVERTSED substitute. For a great history lesson, read Riley's post--LOVE the research she does & then read the research from Jennifer & Kelly & think about it. Remember if your God is your guide, then use the TOOLS S/HE gave YOU to nourish your child for as long as YOUR child needs it.

Other people's opinions & timelines--expert as THEY might think they are--even CHURCH Elder's opinions--are completely biased & don't take in YOUR family's health issues & needs. I grew up in a church that the Eldership told the flock what God's Will was for each member--up to & including how to feed their infants. Let me just say, I think I was given a heart/spirit/brain to use for MY family's best interests. Obviously, I have a personal bias on this issue. Please listen to your own heart & do what your CHILD needs. You are your child's 1st, BEST teacher.

I went into Motherhood grateful for the chance--we had been trying w/Medical help for over 2 years. I wanted to BF, but didn't know if it would work. My husband's brother almost died as an infant because "FORMULA was the BEST for him"...NOT!! So I knew my child could have inherited issues with formula & that was scary.

It wasn't always easy & yes, as the years went on & I BFed through 2 other surprise!! pregnancies, I got some looks, but it was still the best for me & mine. My husband supported my decision 100%...even when the house was in choas & I was sitting on the sofa nursing a baby & a toddler & reading to the oldest, instead of cooking & cleaning. Yes, he even said it--If you weren't still nursing, you could do more & the house would be more in order! And I reminded him of the LONG term benefits & than we would say "stick with the plan". We still do this routine--should we ______????--we will list our long term goals for our family & then, STICK to the plan.

And in my head, while I was sitting--doing NOTHING--just giving our children the VERY BEST nutrition & comfort available, I would think--this too shall pass--both the messes & the close, cuddle time. And it has. Well, maybe not the messes, they are just more contained. I have a "mad scienist" who loves experiments!

Each of my girls are different--sleep habits, personalities, etc. But 3 things are the same with all of them & it sure isn't because my husband & I are Brain Surgeons...Each one if them are ALWAYS the smartest, healthiest, most independent kids in their classes.

It may not amount to a hill of beans in the long run, but the research indicates that IQs are higher in BFed children & so far, it's been true of mine. And I'm not exaggerating this fact, each teacher & doctor they have ever come across has told me that they were the smartest they had every met.

And sometimes, having a high IQ can mean less common sense...one of my girls is a total "absentminded prof type"--My Mother's label for her & she thinks I will have to find her a "minder". Maybe so, but it seems like a good thing to have to worry about.

They seem to be sick less than their school friends & miss less school in general. My sister is a teacher (different school) & she gets every bug that goes through her school & visits us with it & they STILL don't get sick, so I figure that their general immunity is pretty good.

But through EVERYTHING we go through with our girls, they KNOW we love & cherish them & do what we think is the best for them, REGARDLESS of public opinion. Public opinion is often the result of "Mob thinking", which is NOT what we want for our girls.

Your question makes my mouth drop and baffles me. How can someone who seems so uneducated about the subject, ask such a judgmental question? Why would you even need to ask this question if you weren't debating on how long to nurse your children? It seems like you just wanted to make some negative comments simply for the fun of it.

Women nurse well passed one year becasue it is recommended for up to two years by the World Health organization along with La Leche League and many other organizations with plenty of studies to back up their recommendation. A 6-8 month old child cannot as you said simply walk up and start nursing at will. For the most part they are crawling if they are lucky. Many 14 month-olds don't even walk yet.

2) Breast milk is far superior to formula. It contains specific immunoglobins which help regulate a child's immune system (i.e. if a mother is sick and she is nursing the baby will be protected by immunity passed on through the breast milk.

3) Formula is expensive.

4) Formula has been linked to weight gain and obesity in children- especially those who are solely formula-fed.

5) Formula is most often either cow's milk based or soy based and tend to be much harder to digest than breast milk-often times leading to food allergies, ear infections, eczema and constipation.

6) In nature most mammals nurse even while their young are prancing around and they can chew other food. There is no nutritionally comparable food source.

7) Bonding occurs during nursing causing a release of oxytocin and prolactin which benefit both mother and child. Though nursing well into pre-school may be a bit longer than necessary, nursing after a year is not only the norm, but it is recommended. Nursing does not create bad dependency issues. Babies are dependent. That is their nature. It is our job to care for them as we teach them to be self-sufficient.

Perhaps the question you should be asking is why you have such a strong reaction to other women caring for their children in the most natural god-given way.

I am not sure why I am responding to your question,except to say Wow. You might want to consider being less judgemental of what other people feel is right for their children. It would definitely benefit you to be more open minded as well since God has a funny way of not always going according to our plans but rather to his own plans for our children. Your second child might not be exactly the same or as perfect as your first and may have different needs so having a more open mind as to how long that second child will need to be breast fed might benefit you. I have never seen a 8 month old or 11 month old "walk" over to their mother and sit on her lap to drink from her breast. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends breast feeding exclusively until age 6 months old and then after until 12 months old. You might want to talk to your pediatrician about it. At 8-12 months of age, babies should be dependent on their mothers. This is a good thing not a bad thing. Lots of children are healthy and independent and this has nothing to do with how long their mothers breastfed them. Try being more compassionate and less baffled and you will appear to be more Christian.

Sometimes it is all in the way you ask the question. Ignorance is contempt prior to investigation. So while you seem to have contempt prior to investigation, I want to remain respectful of you.

Here is my experience. When I was pregnant, a woman told me that she nursed for 3 years. I couldn't understand her choice, until I had my own children. I nursed both my children for an extended period of time. It was the best choice for me and I felt the best choice for them. I wouldn't change anything. At first it was all about optimum nutrition. Then it was about optimum nutrition, comfort, closeness and love. Breastmilk is the perfect food. Did you know that your breastmilk changes over time specifically to meet the needs of your growing baby? I bet you didn't know that. It's true. There is nothing better for you child.

"Why Breast Milk Is the Perfect Food"
http://www.drspock.com/article/0,1510,5371,00.html

My children have fantastic teeth and beautiful smiles. Nursing does not cause any of the dental problems you mentioned. You are conflating the dental problems caused by both pacifiers and bottles. My kids never took pacifiers or bottles either. Is your kid still on one or both?

I did a lot of research from reputable orgs, to ensure I was making the right choices. The AAP recommends nursing for AT LEAST a year. FYI: The AAP is the American Academy of Pediatrics. Further, children can't have cows milk for at least a year or they could develop allergies. As you know, you are supposed to start feeding a child table food at 6 months but the AAP recommends nursing for AT LEAST A YEAR. See how breastfeeding is not a conflict just because they are being fed tablefood? Quite to the contrary, breastmilk is the perfect nutrition and it is just as superior when it is supplemented.

"Beyond one year, as the variety and volume of solid foods gradually increase, breast milk remains an ideal addition to the child's diet." "AN IDEAL ADDITION."
http://www.cdc.gov/breastfeeding/faq/index.htm

The CDC, (Center for Disease Control) champions that recommendation and then extends the recommendation per the WHO's recommendation (World Health Org) to up to two years OR BEYOND.

"The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends that breastfeeding continue for at least 12 months, and thereafter for as long as mother and baby desire. The World Health Organization recommends continued breastfeeding up to 2 years of age or beyond."
http://www.cdc.gov/breastfeeding/faq/index.htm

So while you choose to put down mothers that nurse their children longer than you, I would never put down you for not adhering to the CDC, the AAP, and the World Health Org's recommendation. I did what I felt was best for me and my child AND I CHOSE TO FOLLOW THE AAP'S, THE WHO'S AND THE CDC'S RECOMMENDATIONS.

I chose to give my child the best possible nutrition and I believe that to be a mother's milk. I never had a dish to wash either. :-)

I know some SAHM's that don't nurse and some working mom's that do. We all have choices. Why is your choice so superior to mine though? No offense to you, but I do believe my choice is superior to yours per the CDC, AAP, Dr. Spock and the WHO.

How independent is a 7 month old anyway or a 17-month old?

Personally, I would never make the same choice as you. I would not change a thing about nursing and I tell mom's to nurse their kids as long as they can, as long as it fits into their lives. I hope all this info in my post is support for other mothers to do what is best for them and their baby.

My question for you now is: Will you consider giving your child the optimum nutrition to your child, that God intended, for as long as you can?

I nursed my daughter until 4 years old. I often nursed her in public. Last time I checked this was a free country!

I am trying to say something that has not yet been mentioned in this thread, and that's hard :)

OK, so my son did not get his first tooth until he was thirteen months old, and he has been almost entirely breastfed for the first 12-13 months of his life, as he was not interested in all the different nutritious first foods I constantly prepared and offered to him since month 6. My son is still begging to be nursed, and I let him at night-time as we co-sleep.

If your children bite on your nipple, you can gently close their nose, which will slowly release their grip on your nipple. They sometimes do that as they are falling asleep, which is the most peaceful and happy way.

Oxytocin is released by nursing, and helps a mom keep her energy level through the day when she still nurses several times a night.

I have a very healthy independent boy of over 3 years of age now, with an excellent vocabulary in more than 2 languages, speaks full sentences with good grammar, and all other "milestones" except height/weight, where my pediatrician told me I would be glad to know that he is not in line to become obese or prediabetic ever, and the charts are based on formula-fed children.

I pray to the Universe that your next child will be allowed to self-wean when s/he is ready. I wish you all the best with the rest of the pregnancy and a natural childbirth.

Since religion is so important to you maybe you should go to the bible and see what it says! It speaks of nursing for 2 years. Man made formula is not better than GOD made milk. If we weren't supposed to nurse after 7 months then why does our bodies still produce milk? ALL medical associations and the World Health Organization strongly suggests nursing until 1-2 years of age. Because of the Feminist movement so many women forgot what breast are for. NO they aren't for our husbands! Although they enjoy them too God gave us breast for Nursing. I nursed my 3 girls for 1 year each. They are healthy and the most independent well behaved children who all slept through the night at early ages. The easiest way to gain understanding is to remove judgement!

I am shocked at this question, and your judgemental ways, especially being the woman of God you claim to be. What does it matter what other moms do? You should only be concerned with you and your own family. Everyone has the right to parent their children the way FEEL and BELIEVE is right for them.

There really isn't much more to say that hasn't been said by all the other breastfeeding mothers. I hope you actually take the time to read all the responses you have received, as there is some excellent information and insight included below.

A LITTLE ABOUT ME: Proud BF-mom of a 18-month old "non-biting" son who still enjoys the comforts and nutrition from his mama's milk.

Hi A. G,

Well, current prof advice says that breastfeeding is beneficial and recommended up to age two. Does everyone who nurses past 6 months nurse on demand? No. We adapt to the child's ability to delay gratification, appetite, personality, own own lives and schedules. My daughter comfort nurses and she's 3. But she knows it is a private time for at home. There is no evidence it causes dependency "issues"...whatever those are.
I am glad you son seems happy, but what if your new child has a much different personality? What if this new child really wants to nurse longer than 7 months? I would hope that you would try to make for a gentle transition to weaning, and not judge your child negatively for having a very natural urge to want to be close to you. I don't remember the Bible teaching anything about weaning. (right or wrong time...how to do it etc) I guess God wants us to figure out our way through that, based on whatever feelings or thoughts we have.
I am of the opinion that it is natural for our kids to be dependent on us. They are kids after all.
Real independence/confidence is not something we can rush. (In America we seem to be in such a rush to make kids grow up) Culturally, we are afraid of needing others. Independence is God. (Not.) Interdependence is an alien word to many people. But don't we need each other??? Why do we have such sadness and addiction problems in this country? Why are we so unhappy despite having so much entertainment and stuff?
I'll get off the soap box but I think we need to back off idolizing toughing everything out alone (esp applying this to babies and little kids) and realize we need to encourage kids AND adults to feel comfortable needing AND helping each other.

I don't want to offend you with my response, but WOW! Your question is not only ignorant, but so judgemental and rude.

The American Pediatric Association recommends that you breastfeed for 12 months and prefers you do it for 2 years. Most other countries breastfeed long after we do here in the US.

I have two sons that I have breastfed for 12 months, never giving them formula because I believe that that is what is best for them based on what I have read and been educated about. My youngest is 15 months old and while he doesn't nurse during the day, I am letting him self wean from night nursing. Yes, occasionally he bites, but I am only doing him good, no harm.

My suggestion is you educate yourself a little more as to the benefits of breastfeeding and breastmilk. Sometimes formula is the only option and it's a good option, but you'll be hard pressed to find any expert who will tell you that breastmilk isn't the best thing for your baby.

Good luck.
-M

If you read the world health orginazation and the la leachue league, they have a lot of information on breastfeeding. A childs immune system isn't fully developed until the age of 2. By breastfeeding you are only helping your childs immunity. My daughter just turned 2 and I have been breastfeeding her since birth. She has been sick only once and recovered quickly and I don't believe she would have recovered so quickly if I wasn't bf her. Her cousin who is one month younger than her wasn't bf at all and is always, always sick. Cows milk and formula can not compete with what is natural and meant to be. This is only one of the reasons why I have choosen to bf for so long. Plus the comfort she recieves from me at this time in her life is something that is invaluable.

I hate to answer a question with a question, but I must. Why wouldn't you nurse your child well after 6-8 months and better yet, why would you stop nursing your child at the 6 or 7 month cut off? Personally speaking and with all due respect, this practice baffles me. For some reason the majority of the mothers in the United States seem to be uncomfortable with breast feeding and it becomes a chore. Therefore, they hit the 6 month mark and think that they have done their job nutritionally and if they go beyond this point they are only harming the child. Well, there are too many books out there and not to mention the La Leche League which would beg to differ with this point of view. If the mother wants to stop nursing because she doesn't like it then by all means stop, but don't think you are helping your child by doing this. There is truly a natural process that occurs with weaning and you can read about it if your are interested. I realize that you did not mean anything by your question, but it really struck a chord with me. I never respond to any of these questions, but yours just hit a nerve. I have twins that are now 4 years old. They are at the top of the percentage in their growth and development and are happy, healthy, and independent children. But here is the information that you may find jaw dropping, I nursed them until they were well over 3 and a half. To understand how a person can do this you really need to educate yourself and learn the different stages of nursing. The nursing that a 3 and a half year old participates in is very different from a 7 month old. It can be a wonderful and natural process if both the child and mother are willing participants. Anyway, I promise not to drop my jaw every time I hear a mother tell me she stopped nursing at around 6 months if you promise to stop dropping your jaw when you hear a mother and child have continued to engage in the nursing process well beyond the 6-8 month period. I really suggest you read some literature if you are indeed thinking about nursing a little longer the second time around. Good luck and God Bless.

I understand how you feel. I felt the same way. But here I am still breast-feeding a toddler. He is totally independent, healthy, and very intelligent. As mothers, we need to stop judging each other and realize that diffferent things work for different people. I think in our culture we place some arbitrary milestones on when a child should do certain things. It is important that we educate ourselves with the latest research and sift through the information to find what works best for our child. Many blessings and a happy new year!

I don't mean to offend, but why on earth would you brainwash your young child to believe in something called God, when that is so clearly a myth??

(My apologies to the believers out there, but I hope A. gets my point.)

It's cultural, dear. And someone else made an excellent point...if you switch him to milk or formula, he is still drinking breast milk, just from a different species. This just doesn't seem to be what God intended.

Boy, if you want to get a rise out of people, this is always the topic. Breastfeeding mommies get so defensive! I do feel that your question makes no sense and really is just an attempt to gain attention. You did it! To each his own!

I can only answer for my self, and tell you why I did. I have 3 kids, I nursed all of them to a year. By the time they were a yr old I was only nursing once a day. The older/busy they get the less they need/want to nurse. I was only bitten once, so I think that just depends on the kid. Milk from mom is the easiest thing for a baby to digest, and there really is nothing healthier. I know people that nursed their kids until they were 4.

Before I had kids I was much more judgemental about parenting. Now I have 3 kids that are very different from each other, and I realize I do not have to parent them all the same. What works for one family may be different than mine, whatever. As long as the kids aren't hurt what is the problem? So what if someone nurses vs. bottle feeds? Or chooses religious education vs. public school. I know I do plenty that someone else may not agree w/. But, hopefully, everyone is doing the best they can.

Are you trying to ask a question or just pass judgement on other moms with your post? I, for one, am certainly not interested in knowing your advice on the subject!

I'm surprised you asked this question when you already seem content with your own answer. Will any of the feedback you receive here change what you do with your soon to come baby? I will not give you the reasons I breastfed for so long because I believe it will not change your decision. My question to you is: why did you try again at 8 months if it is not normal to you for people to breastfeed past 6-8 months? Were you just going to give your son a week or so? If he didn't bite you or if you still had milk, would you then have changed your question to "why do people breastfeed past 12 months?" Everyone's situation is different and I do not have a problem with your decision to stop breastfeeding at 7 months - I would expect that you wouldn't have a problem that I stopped breastfeeding after 2 years. Do you lecture other women for the way they discipline their children if it differs from your own strategy? We were all raised differently but we are all made in His image and all strive to be the best people and parents we can be.

Why? for so many reasons! Breast milk is healthier than cows milk for one. It is what God intended for us to use to feed our children. Mothers in some cultures nurse up to 5 years of age and this is considered normal. Why choose to quit at 7 months? What is the issue for you on this? My children nursed until 2 1/2 for the most part (5 children). Only one chose to quit at 18 months. Of all my children he is the quietest and least assured of himself. My children range in age now from 25 down to 7. Breastfeeding was a wonderful natural birth control too, when I finally was willing to trust that method. LOL. While breastfeeding my menses didn't return until I was down to the occasional "comfort" nurse. Kids all naturally weaned themselves when they were ready. Breast is best as long as you can do it is my motto.

If your choice is to quit nursing at 7 months, then I am not sure why you have wasted your time worrying about what others choose to do by writing this request, it really isn't a request. Not so sure the God and Church you belong to advocate your poor judgement on others when they are bettering the health of their children.
The Ameican Academy of Pediatrics, the World Health Organization and a slew of others highly recommend BF-ing for a year....hence the reason women who choose to do so do. Not to mention it cuts the risk of SIDS and many other things.
I hated Breast feeding more than anything in the world, but I stuck to it for my daughter because my husband was VERY ill as a child with Allergies and Asthma. My child is super independent and smart.....no allergies and is NEVER sick, even when the kids at pre-school have yuck running down their noses and it freaks me out!
So, you may just want to worry about your choice of breast feeding and not others. See how often your kids are sick too.
Happy New Year.

Well, for one, to keep giving them the beneficial immunities and nutrients present in breastmilk. But there is also the closeness it can provide for mother and child. There is nothing proven regarding a correlation between a child's dependency and nursing...my 19th month old nursing toddler is quite independent at times and a mama's girl at other times. I think that depends on her personality and mood and not whether she's still nursing. But it's a personal decision made by each family, so each mom/dad needs to decide what is right for them and their children. Here are some resources, in case you'd like more info on the benefits and recommendations for breastfeeding...

"It is recommended that breastfeeding continue for at least 12 months, and thereafter for as long as mutually desired." American Academy of Pediatrics http://aappolicy.aappublications.org/cgi/content/full/ped...
"WHO strongly recommends exclusive breastfeeding for the first six months of life. At six months, other foods should complement breastfeeding for up to two years or more." World Health Organization http://www.who.int/features/factfiles/breastfeeding/en/in...
"The U.S. Surgeon General recommends that babies be fed with breast milk only for the first six months of life. This means not giving your baby any other food or drink — not even water — during this time. It is even better if you can breastfeed for your baby's first year or longer, for as long as you both wish." US Dept of Health & Human Services http://www.womenshealth.gov/breastfeeding/benefits/
"Toddlers breastfeed for many of the same reasons infants breastfeed: for nutrition, comfort, security, for a way to calm down and for reassurance." La Leche League International http://www.llli.org/FAQ/advantagetoddler.html

I have a healthy girl, and I too am proud! :)

That is a good question and I'm sure quite a few moms (dads, and all "Americans") have the same question. But I think the question we should be asking is, "Why do American mothers feel the need to wean so early?"

Facts are:
1. The WORLDWIDE average age for weaning is well past the 4th birthday.
2. The World Health Organization recommends nursing till AT LEAST the age of 2.
3. Nursing provides numerous health benefits to the child (COMPLETE nutrition, immunity boosting antibiotic properties, protection against cavities, etc).

Every child is different and every circumstance is different, so 7 months may have been perfect for your child to wean. My son just turned 2 years old and he still nurses. I can count on one hand the number of times he's been sick, his pediatrician can't believe how developed (physically and IQ) he is for his age, he is a social butterfly and has absolutely no dependency issues WHATSOEVER.

I don't mean to rant, but I am passionate about my son and perceived criticism on the way I choose to raise him. I do hope I have enlightened you on my perspective, and of the millions (if not billions) of mothers, current and past, that have chosen to nurse past the 1st birthday.

because the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends nursing for at least 12 months.

The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends breastfeeding for at least the first year and then for as long as mother and child are comfortable with that relationship.
* In the second year (12-23 months), 448 mL of breastmilk provides:
o 29% of energy requirements
o 43% of protein requirements
o 36% of calcium requirements
o 75% of vitamin A requirements
o 76% of folate requirements
o 94% of vitamin B12 requirements
o 60% of vitamin C requirements
-- Dewey 2001
Nursing toddlers still receive their mother's anti-bodies so can fight off illness better. Those rare times that my son (now 26 months old) has been sick and gone off food, he still will still nurse. Mother's who breastfeed for at least 2 years have a 50% reduced risk of Rheumatoid Arthritis.
If you would like to educate yourself on the benefits of breastfeeding, a good place to start is http://www.kellymom.com/bf/bfextended/ebf-benefits.html

Hi A.,
You sound like a very caring and nurturing mother and congratulations on the upcoming birth of your second baby.

I would like to take the opportunity to answer your question about why mothers/babies breastfeed longer than 7 months. There are a tremendous number of positive reasons both physical and emotional. Please refer to this wonderful article on extended breastfeeding, it has some extraordinary information.
http://www.kellymom.com/bf/bfextended/ebf-benefits.html

I know you have said that you will wean your next baby at 7 months but you may wish to use this information in educating your friends.

Take care, A..

L., MA, RD, IBCLC
Registered Dietitian
Lactation Consultant
www.VirtualBreastfeedingHelp.com

OK,have you finished reading all 79 responses?lol,I have!The last one is a nightmare,but all the other ones are OK.Honestly I don't see anything wrong with you asking the question and why so many people got upset about it.I think it is a good thing that you are curious and thinking about it and want to hear about it from other moms rathr than reading about it in the books.WE are all a product of our culture at first and during the course of life we learn otherwise and grow.7 months breastfeeding is good,12 is better.My mother breastfed me till I was 12 months and that';s what I was going to do with my son,I thought that people who breastfeed after that were sick....well as soon as I started to try weaning him he stopped drinking water from the bottle ...all my attempts were not producing any results at all and I am not the person who beleives that a child crying hysterically for a long time is normal and healthy...anyway finally i realized the whole weaning thing was ridiculuos,it was clear to me that my child NEEDED to nurse longer and the easiest thing to do was to just go with the flow and wait till he was ready.It made sense.I went on nursing him till he was 4 1/2 at which point he self weaned.During that time I got pregnant with my daughter and had her.She is 2 now and still nursing.My son puts himself to sleep now.My daughter has been very independant from birth.I did not get my period untill every baby was almost 22 months old.When they were teething and had no appetite for any food nursing provided nutrition and comfort.When they were sick/hardly ever/ they got over it in just a couple of days since my milk contained antibodies.There are no sleep issues at our house because the kids have always been co-sleeping and I nursed them back to sleep without even waking up.My son only bit me one time and I took him away from my breast for few minutes so he never did it again. My daughter is more of a biter and a pincher but i still think the benefits outway the drawbacks...Anyway every child is different and every situation is different.Good luck on your journey!
M..

Why not breastfeed your baby until past 7 months? Breast milk is the best food you could feed your baby. I don't know why other moms do it, but I do it because I know I'm doing something good for my him. Besides, breast milk is free, it comes in the right temperature, I don't need to deal with bottles, it builds my baby's immune system, I don't get a period, it helps me burn 500 extra calories a day, it's good for the health of my breasts, etc etc. I nursed my first baby until he was almost one, when he weaned himself. I plan on doing the same for my second boy, who is seven months now. Enjoy this time with your baby because they grow too fast.

Wow! I understand people having their own opinions, but dang .... for all those who are condemning you for this question are also passing a great deal of judgement.

As far as the nursing goes, I am with you. My pediatrician goes with milk at 12 months, rather than formula because that is when table food becomes the primary source of nutrition. Congrats to all of you who can nurse for that time, but a lot of women struggle with nursing - it is not as "easy, natural, and beautiful" as everyone says it should be. I nursed for 6 months because that was all I could - at that point I couldn't produce enough for my son. Now he will be on formula until April, then milk and food. It is just my opinion, but it is strange that a walking, talking, eating child goes up and asks to nurse, but ... that is just my opinion.

To all who were so offended - the posted question was why - not condemning you, but asking you why. And .... don't tell me how brain damaged my child will be because he had formula made for costco - why don't you ask your pediatrician about those type of statements. That is way more rude than asking why someone would nurse beyond 12 months.

The other point here - not sure if dependency is the right word, but pay attention to posts here - a lot of nursing mothers with 12 month plus babies are posting about sleep issues because they have always fed on demand and are struggling with the transition. I am not criticizing, but a lot of other comments on this question are judging those of us who don't or can't, but are ignoring that there are lots of negatives to what some of you are saying. Just something for you to think about. By the way - there is a current post for this very sleep issue today!

From what I have read, there are natural immunities available in breast milk that is not available in formula or in table food. Children appear to be healthier if breastfed for more than a year and contract less colds and flus.
Also, please consider than in other countries, most children are not weaned until 2-3 years.

Try to realize what is right for you is not right for everyone. We are all individuals and all entitled to our own opinions. Some decide to feed with formula, some breastfeed for short periods, and others decide it is better to breastfeed longer. I used to be of the same opinion you are until I had my first child and was wearing those shoes. Sometimes a change of perspective is all it takes.

There is scientific proof of benefits of breastfeeding longer. Benefits are for both mother and child. Google it, it's out there.

As for teeth, there does come a point in the breastfeeding relationship where that becomes an issue. Babies learn quickly not to bite or they will have to give up the breast. Other people decide to pump out of fear of being bitten.

Some enjoy the attachment breastfeeding brings, and speaking personally it is hard to give it up after a mere 6 months. Breastfeeding longer than 6-8 months does not create a more dependent child than one who is weaned earlier on. My 2 year old son (who yes, in case you were wondering is weaned now) is proof of that fact. He is more independent than most other children his age.

I'm happy things worked out for you so well but again, your decision is yours and yours alone. Please realize that simply because others choose otherwise does not make them wrong.

I'm sure that there are a number of different reasons why some mothers nurse their children after their child is 6 to 8 months old. My first child, I had to stop nursing when he was 6-months old because I was pregnant with his younger sister. And then, with his younger sister, she was not a good nurser so I did what I could until she was 6-months also and then decided that sometimes good enough is good enough.

That being said, I do think that, if you can and you are of of the mind to do so, it is good to breast feed your child (in addition to giving him/her a bottle and feeding him/her solids when the time is right) because the mother's breast milk is one of the best sources of nutrition for your child at that stage of the child's development and you have a chance to pass along your immunity to your child to help the child face all the environmental toxins that are out there in the world.

Whether or not a mom chooses to breastfeed and for how long is really a personal choice. I try not to judge or even have an opinion about it because, really, it's none of my business. We are really just moms who are trying our best to raise healthy, happy human beings.

I hope this helps give you a different perspective on your question.

Hi! That's wonderful your sweet son was breastfed for 7 months. A blessed baby! I nursed my daughter for 2 & 1/2 years and then my son for 3 & 1/2 years. While that might sound strange, it's quite natural in most other countries in the world along with co-sleeping. Everyone has to do what they are comfortable with. If a Mom felt uncomfortable and did it out of obligation, those feelings get passed on to the baby. However, I chose extended breastfeeding for a number of reasons. It felt natural to me, it was bonding and it was the best baby food ever filled with powerful nutrition...brain and immune building properties. In fact, my son had a lot of health problems and the breastmilk was very healing for him. I am also very grateful for all the snuggling time that nursing provided because now both of my children at 8 and 6 are very independent and busy. However, they still love snuggling and all of their lives so far, it seems they are more attached to people rather than toys or things. If there are moms out there who do extend their breastfeeding, breastmilk can be donated to breastmilk banks to help premature babies or even sick adults! There are alot of good reasons to breastfeed for extended periods of time.

I can't speak for other mothers but I nursed both my kids until I couldn't any more. My plan was to nurse for 12 mths and then give them cow milk since that is what my pediatrician suggested. It is very benificial to babies to have their mothers milk for at least 12 mths. They build ammunities from it and I figured I wanted to protect my kids as long as possible. It was a bonding time for me and my babies, I did feel like a milk machine but I just had to be unselfish and remind myself that I was doing it for them. As far as being dependant I think that depends on the kid and how the parent deals with it as well. My son weaned himself at about 11 mths and 2 weeks so it was very easy for me. Also, my son was born with a birth defect so the known benifits of the breast milk really made a difference for him. My daughter nursed until about 10 mths of so but I got a really bad breast infection and tried nursing her with it for about 2 mths more because of the known health benifits of nursing, but had to stop because I needed to heal. I have seen alot of children that were formula fed and they have more sickness then breat fed so that alone makes me want to do the best and nurse till the reccomended 12 mths. I understand it isn't for everyone and that is fine. But to answer your question a little that is my answer. To summerize, people do it for 1. health benifits/ Dr. reccomendations 2. cost benifits 3. bonding nature 4. to loose baby wieght faster 5. both baby and mom grow closer because of it.
Hope that helps you see why some of us nurse after 6-8 mths.

Nursing can be a burden to some. But for other woman it comes very natural and its just a wonderful bonding moment they don't want to give up. For women who work, I think continuing to breastfeed past 6 -12 months is unthinkable. We all have our thing. I also am baffled by it also, but I only breast fed to 6 weeks (low milk supply). Breast feeding was the hardest thing I'v ever done. I am so amazed that some woman can do it past a year that I am rather impressed. I choose not to judge, because I only with I could have done better for my child. Now my sister still whips out a boob for her now three-year-old and I may need to raise and eyebrow here before too long!

I nursed until 12 mo. b/c babies can't have cow's milk until then. Beyond that, I'm with you. It usually causes problems. I'm sorry, but it's true.

Wow you got quite a response! and I couldn't help but respond too...

Mothers who BF 12+ months are VERY passionate about BFing and are quite vocal on this site. Don't be intimidated by it if you feel otherwise! yes, the recommendations are 12mo, but there are so many ways to do it and every baby's needs and situations are different, so I don't judge.

My own mother started her 3 kids (including me) on cow milk very early after BFing and never even bothered to use formula. Personally, I am HAPPY to stop BFing in 3 days, my daughter's 1st bday on Saturday,... in fact I'd stop sooner (not much milk left!) but I figure I'm so close to an even 12 mo, I might as well get to an even number. I know, such a silly reason! I started weaning ~8mo daytime and ~10mo nighttime. I actually was happy to switch to a bottle/formula during the day and at night so I can go out or drink a glass of wine with dinner and not worry. A mother's sanity is a worthy reason! I enjoyed the $$ savings of BFing, but my primary reason to BF so long was it just seemed natural.

You have thought through your situation and made a choice right for you. I didn't perceive you as trying to be judgmental, but I do see how it could be taken that way. Enjoy your babies, 2 is so much fun!

There so many good things in breast milk to build the immune system. So, to breast feed as long as the child wants will not do any emotional harm. Breast feeding keeps a mothers hormones in check as well, not to mention help a mother loss harmful baby weight(since heart disease is the #1 killer of women). Baby will stop when he wants to, let a god given miracle have the best nutrients naturally provided. And, remember judge others how you want to ultimately be judged.

I am surprised you didn't ask your doctor or look it up. Like everyone said pediatricians recommend a year and the La Leche League says up to age two. It's simple.

I won't list all the reasons why because it looks like that has been covered. I will tell you that I breastfed for a year. I had to stop because of a hospitalization and medication, otherwise, I would have gone on for another 6 months. She was sleeping through the night at 5 months...and I mean through..12 hours 7-7. She is 5 now and has been the most independent child from day 1. We are constantly working on not going off on her own because she thinks she can handle it. So, I don't think she has been negatively affected as you think she would have. To the poster who brought up the sleep issues of the breastfed moms, I think that has more to do with parenting styles than breastfeeding. Since this is such a hot topic, I would only suggest that you think about the words you choose before you use them. I will not judge you. I don't know your situation. You may be very young without the resources to answer your question or you may be looking for trouble. Until I know for sure, I will leave it at my above post.

N.

Because the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends nursing a MINIMUM of 12 months. I have an 11 month old and I plan to stop nursing when she turns 1 year. She doesn't bite me and is just as independent as she could be. Also an excellent sleeper. Breast milk is superior to formula, hands down. That is why I chose to BF past 6-8 months. Some women choose not to BF and some can't BF that long. Each to their own. You shouldn't be so judgmental, especially when nursing past 6-8 months is recommended by pediatricians. It just makes sense if you can do it.

Very judgemental of you... but I think you knew that so you twisted the question to suite you better but it's still judgemental.

If you didn't like nursing then so be it but that doesn't mean other mothers's can't or shouldn't nurse past your magic number of 7 months. Nor should they be judged for nursing or not nursing.

I believe in nursing and nursed my daughter until almost 2.5 years old and don't regret it at all. It's a personal decision. One of my closest friends had a really rough time and gave up nursing so that she could spend more time enjoying her new baby rather than stressing about milk production.

Again, it's what works best for each mom and you should be ashamed for thinking you are better than any other mom.

Hello,

It is recommended that a child be breastfed for at least 1 year -- if it works for the mom. It's really a personal decision -- just like your decision for doing it for 7 months. All kids are different and all parents are different. I hope that you are not judged as you are judging others.

Because its what is best for the child and the mother. Plain and simple.

On a side note, you appear to be very rude and judgemental for someone claiming to be a good Christian and lover of God.

I nursed until 12 months because that is what the pediatric association recommends as most healthy for your baby. After that point I don't think there are any huge health benefits. I never nursed her for comfort or to help her fall asleep, so she wasn't too attached to it and it was easy to wean her because her dad had been giving her breast milk in a bottle once a day since she was one month old.

I nursed my son for a year, but by the time he was 11 months I had started weaning. I did it that long because it's a cheap and effective way of making sure he was getting some decent nutrition since he was a pretty picky eater, also, it's what the pediatrician recommended for brain development.... just the right amount of fat. Also, until around a year of age a lot of children can't digest cows milk very well. Anyway, do what's best for you. I'm going to nurse my little girl for a year as well.

For starters, why not? At the age of 6-8 months, why would you want to start using formula if you have never used it before? I just weaned my daughter at 23 months, and she mostly only nursed in morning and bed time. She definitly is on the smaller side as she barely weighs19 lbs, and is only wearing 12 month clothing. She has hit all of milestones on time or early for that matter as she walked at 10 months. I never experienced the biting issues other moms have experienced, and did not nurse my two older children. (14 & 11)
She started drinking water out of a sippy cup at 5 month, and milk out of a cup at 12 months and has always refused a bottle from day one. Nursing her was a wonderful bonding experience for her and I, and was never disruptive for the other childrens schedule. So I guess this is a total personal issue and worked well for me and my family.

I'll keep my response brief as you've already received a lot of great responses. Before having my first child, I had no opinion on breastfeeding. I knew I was going to try it and I hoped I would do it for at least 6mos. I ended up nursing her until she was 2 years old and I was 5mos pregnant. The weaning was very natural and the whole nursing experience was great for both of us. She was always very healthy and independent. She is now 7. My second child a son, nursed until he was just over 3 years old. If you asked my close friends, around 10mos of age, I said to them, he will be done by 1 - he just didn't seem like he'd be an extended nurser, well, I was dead wrong. Again, I had a VERY independent, healthy child. They are now 4.5 and 7 and I couldn't be happier for how they have turned out so far. What I've learned is that the only people that really understand why a child nurses beyond a year or so is those who have lived it. I mean, if I hadn't been through it myself with mine, I would not understand unless I read books on it. The main thing I hear from those who don't get it are, "they'll be needy, they won't be independent" well, not true for both of mine. My friends whose kids ARE very clingy, needy, etc.. weren't breastfed, but I don't think for a moment that they are that way because they weren't breastfed, so why should one assume that extended nursing will create a dependency issues. Mine ate healthy table food when they were ready (around 1 years old with my daughter, 6mos with my son) both toilet trained with zero issues. Both have great teeth, see a dentist regularly and have no bite issues or cavities. My son was a biter - big time! But, we worked our way around it. His teeth were new, he was experimenting, he wasn't trying to hurt me.

Well, I didn't keep my response very brief and if I come off defensive at all, I'm not trying to be. Just trying to quickly make some points to what you brought up in your request. I'm very happy and confident with the way I have chosen to parent. So much that I hesitated to respond to you, I mean why bother? But then, I think it's important for you to hear from those of us who did nurse beyond what you think is acceptable and see that our kids are turning out just as great as you say yours is. Something I didn't touch on, your original question - why nurse beyond 6 - 8 months?, to that I say, why wouldn't you? Your baby still needs it, the other option is formula, which if you don't have to give your child, you shouldn't - formula gets recalled, breastmilk does not. Also, if baby gets sick, breastmilk is a wonder-drug, it's all they need, not water, not crappy pedialtye, all natural breastmilk will keep a sick baby/toddler hydrated and get them well quicker than anything else (assuming one let's them nurse 24/7 when they are sick).

Also, I think those who didn't nurse an older baby/toddler assume that this toddler is on the boob all the time (maybe some are, and maybe some are only when they aren't feeling well) but I'll say with my second child, he hardly ever nursed passed the age of two unless he wasn't feeling well. Nursing didn't replace sit down meals, he drank from a regular cup (never even had a sippy cup, went from a straw cup before turning 1 to a regular ol' cup around 2) and ate plenty of table food, he would nurse every few days and eventually once a week. I think he was just making sure there was always some there - LOL. I'm still grateful I let him self-wean because we had a few times where he had a 24hr bug and he'd just nurse and although he may have been throwing up all night, he didn't get any worse.

Ask ME what I think is the best thing to do (breastfeed, formula feed, extended nursing, etc...?) and I will ALWAYS say, the best thing to do is what is best for YOU and your baby! I may have an opinion on what I think is best, but that doesn't mean it is for you. You do what works for you. I've never judged my Mom friends who didn't breastfeed and I never will. We Mom's have one thing in common no matter what - we love our babies more than anything in the world!

Sorry for not being brief as I promised! Congratulations on your pregnancy!
M.

Breast milk is designed by God and is the best nutrition you can give a child. My question is why stop. There are many experts that say they should not even eat food until 1 years old. Pray about it and research it.

God Bless!

J.