Youth Football for Smaller Kids

Updated on August 22, 2012
D.B. asks from Eastlake, CO
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My son suffers from a growth hormone deficiency and as such is the smallest kid in his class. There is one boy who is maybe an inch taller and maybe 5 pounds more but the rest are considerably larger. In our YMCA league, kids over 100 pounds are red-striped an cannot touch the ball. I don't think they are prohibited, however, from touching players who are touching the ball. It's full contact full tackle football.

Obviously, I'm concerned about his safety. The coaches have been doing this for years and are very professional. Still, they cannot control players on other teams from 'doing their jobs.' If my son didn't live-sleep-eat football, I might consider prohibiiting him from playing. I'm fairly certain that in 2 years when he's in middle school, he will no longer be able to play because it will just be way too dangerous, and he'll be a benchwarmer as a result. He might not even be allowed to play due to the medications he has to take & bans on them in the athletic code. That would break his heart more than not being able to suit up. This YMCA is likely his only shot to participate. He is such a talented, gifted athlete that were it not for the hormone deficiency, he'd be one of those star players coaches dream of. Amazing coordination, timing, memory, great hands, hand-eye coordination. Honestly I can't believe he's a product of our genetics. We've enrolled him in karate which he is excelling at, in hopes of when/if he can no longer play football he'll have a fall back.

Anway, have any of you had experience with your children in the youth football leagues? Any concerns about size issues? Were there positions the coaches were able to shepard them into that would still allow them to participate? (no, kicking and punting is one area his little legs just can't compete wtih.) Any tips for helping my budding athlete cope with the fact that due to size he just can't keep up? I can only imagine how frustrating it must be for him to know he's as talented as any other kid out there but just 'can't' becuase he's 6-8 inches too small.

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Thank you all for your input. We did enroll him in karate about a year ago, as I had stated, which he absolutely excels at, and are now looking to supplement that with tumbling. we drive 1.5 hours per night 3 times a week for him to do this since we live in the middle of nowhere. we have no soccer or hockey options, football is IT. unless we move to a larger district, something we are actively trying to do having listed our house for sale. I guess we both subconsciously knew it would come to this if we wanted our kids to be able to participate in team sports, as neither child fits the typical jock 'mold'.

I think the football obsession may wear out naturally, as several of you have experienced when your child began to struggle to keep up. practice went very well yesterday. he played a small pickup game afterwards in the neighborhood & got pretty banged up. he didn't say he wanted to quit, I could feel the 'love' beginning to wane.

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R.R.

answers from Los Angeles on

One of my grandsons went through this. He did a season of football which he'd loved, he hated it so much after the season he wouldn't even watch it the following year on TV. He got hurt which was part of the problem as well. Soccer is a much better fit for him, he's been doing it for years since. This year he is entering high school and has grown taller, but not meatier. Since he is light on his feet they really want him on the team, he's been running everyday during the summer to build up stamina and so far, so good.

My advice is too find something your son loves and can compete in. And whether you can't believe he is a product of your genetics or not, he is a precious gift, meant to be the way he is.

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S.H.

answers from Honolulu on

Flag football?
Tennis?

I know a woman, who's son got a concussion from football. Elementary aged boy.
Kids who play football, can get brain damage, which is cumulative. There have been studies on it. And on pro football players.
A child's brain is not even fully developed yet.

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T.S.

answers from San Francisco on

I hate to say it but football is one of those sports where size WILL become an issue, and it sounds like you already know it.
My husband and all his brothers were very athletic but by the end of middle school football was just no longer an option (they're Filipino, small, muscular guys but they topped out at 5"7" and about 150 pounds.)
I've seen the same thing happen to some of the girls in my daughter's gymnastics program. If they get too tall their bodies just can't contort and perform the way a smaller girl's body can, so they can't really compete.
It's sad for sure, but a fact of life. It's good he's doing karate, and if he really enjoys team sports let him try some other stuff as well, maybe baseball or soccer, it's never too late! My older daughter made the high school's very competitive volleyball team, and actually got to PLAY, with no other experience than a one week camp, the summer after 8th grade (and she's a shorty at only 5'2".) Let him explore now, while he's young and has time to grow and develop :)

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M.P.

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Honestly, this may be where you have to put your foot down because even though he loves it he is not safe playing it. He has a lifetime ahead of him where peewee football will be but a distant memory. I wouldn't take a chance at ruining that with an injury. Football is dangerous for all kids (just read an article where some of the hall of famers are now saying they wouldn't let their sons play) but for a undersized kid it could be lethal. What about flag football? I know a lot of kids who absolutely love this. Also, if he is as coordinated as you say you might want to steer him to sports where size isn't much of a issue like golf and tennis.

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M.C.

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My son too has growth hormone deficiency. He is taking hormones to help him. We have helped him to choose sports that size will not be an issue. He is absolutly head over heels for gymnastics! He may be small but he is extremely strong even compared to boys his own age. He is doing very well at it. He has also played golf, and obviously size just doesn't matter. Just a couple of ideas. Good luck to you and your son!

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D.K.

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Kids who play football develop brain injury - and they don't have to have repeated, witnessed head trauma. So be happy you child won't be able to do this. I would look for another sport where all he can damage is a limb or two and in which he can excel despite his size. Bones heal - brains do not.

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J.B.

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I think you would be wise to channel his athletic skills to another team sport in which he can actually excel and participate (soccer? gymnastics? baseball? even hockey - there is a boy on our junior high team who is literally a foot shorter than the average players and he does great) regardless of his physical limitations. There are very few sports out there where size is the key determining factor to safety and success and unfortunately, football is one of them.

One of my brothers had a congenital hip deformity that required leg braces. He loved basketball and was quite good at it, but the running and pounding at the high school level were too damaging so at some point, he had to just stop playing. He and my parents knew this was coming for years but they didn't prepare him for something else like baseball so he was left with no sport at all. My other brother was built to play football and was approached by the coaches year after year but with a seizure disorder, my parents would never let him play. So he ran track and played basketball instead.

I would talk to the staff at the Y program and see how they accommodate large differences in size. I know that our pop-warner program runs on a combination of weight and age. If you can be comfortable with the program for this year, go ahead and let him play but find different sports for winter and spring and see if you can get him into something else besides football next year.

It's hard for talented kids to be limited by their own bodies but that's just the way life is sometimes. Help guide him towards what he can do and he'll eventually learn to just be a spectator and fan for what he can't do (or he can be the equipment manager or stats keeper).

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