31 And Going Crazy

H.,

I had my remaining tube tied in 2006 and ever since then my cycles and monthly moodiness has been very different. I thought I had bad PMS before but now even I dread myself. My family physician warned me this might happen but I didn't think it would be this severe. I don't even feel normal for at least 10 days: crying, screaming, craving Dr. Peppers, angry at nothing, etc. I can literally feel the real me coming back when I see the first drops of blood.

K.

I had my tubes tied when I was also in my 30s and many of my friends have also. I didn't experience any emotional feelings and we were all relieved to not worry about getting pregnant again. It sounds like you need to talk to a dr. about these feelings especially since it is negatively affecting your daughter and husband. You are the biggest role model your child can see and you must try to handle all situations in the best possible manner for her to learn from you. Have some blood work done and see what's going on inside and also consider the stresses of everyday life. See what you can change and make things easier for you.

I just had my tubes tied 7 weeks ago when my son was born. I went through alot of the samethings you are describing. My doc put me zoloft. It really helps. I dont like to take medication either but being able to take care of my family is of great importance to me. So I made the discision to take the meds and Im glad I did. Good luck!

I had my tubes tied 4 years ago after my third child. Since then I have gradually become more and more "depressed". I anger quickly and am not patient like I used to be. I finally went to the dr. and he prescribed Lexapro. It has helped tremendously. I was so against it at first, but after I finally gave in I realized that it is worth being a better mom and wife. I never correlated the tubes being tied with the depression. That is interesting and I am going to check into that. I just always felt like adding that 3rd child to an already hectic life just pushed me over the edge. Now I am handling things much better and Lexapro is not habit-forming. You definitely need to talk with your doctor because the short time we have with our children is way too important to be grumpy through it all. We need to make happy memories every chance we get and we can only fake it for so long. Get the help you and your family deserve!

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Hi H..

I went through the same thing. After the birth of my third child, I had a tubal ligation. Afterwards, every time I saw a baby (in person or on TV) I would cry. Just the fact that I couldn't have any more would upset me. I didn't want anymore kids, but that didn't stop me from crying. It took several years, but I finally got over it. You should, as well. But, still talk to your doctor about it. These other ladies may have a point about hormone imbalance. That was not told to me 26 years ago! Good luck, dear!

H. I think this is somewhat normal. I am 34 and started experiencing this when I turned 30. I haven't had my tubes tied but I was on BC for nearly 15 years. I took myself off of it and it helped but I was still a little teary eyed. I am now on cymbalta and I love it. It's not like xanax or any of those other "street" drugs. This one just kinda helps to get you through a day. There is no "high" or a "come down" feeling just helps with what ever is going on in your head. I don't have insurance and thank goodness my dr. gives me samples cause he said it is expensive but its a great medicine and not one of those that you can get "addicted" to. Good Luck with your appointment. steffie

I am not sure if this will help but there is a product and its not that expensive and you can get it at GNC its called VITEX its a monthly support for women. I have taken it and i have several friends who have taken it and one friend was going to have some surgery so she quit taking it for a month and her and her husband couldnt wait till she started taking it again because she could tell a differnce in her mood swings.

I am 32 and I had my tubes tied four years ago. Let me just say that I have not been the same since. I also was on an emotional roller coaster for a while after the tubal. I have also had to have a D&C because I no longer shed properly during my period. That is also caused by hormones being out of whack. My only advice is that you really should discuss this with your doctor. I am not a big fan of meds but sometimes you need them. I hope you get it all straightened out. Good luck.

I went through a huge hormonal shift after a very early-pregnancy miscarriage last year, causing sudden, severe, depression. I was a wreck. Someone told my husband to take me to an acupuncturist to get my hormones back to normal. It worked like a charm: I felt like *myself* again. Not only that, but I found that my usual old frequent irritability faded, as well. I've been a lot happier ever since, and find that I can handle issues, daily practical matters, and bothersome things in life without getting so upset. And all it took was that one appointment.

I've since used acupuncture for a kidney problem, and my husband has used it for habitual stress - successful in both cases. I don't know how it works, but it does. Not even surgeons could fix my kidney (tried and failed), but acupuncture did. Make an appointment and get yourself some relief!

L.

Tying your tubes can be an extremely challenging issue but not one I think that will make you weepy. The symptoms you are describing are depression. Did you want more kids? Is that a struggle between you and your spouse?

Even if it is, you may need to check your diet. Do you eat anything with polyphenols? Dark chocolate, red wine some vegetables. You may need to detox for a while to get some junk out of your system. Do you drink caffien? Try cutting back on that for three weeks, and see what the fourth week gets you. (The first two are heck but well worth it!)

Something doctors neglect to tell women who choose tubal litigation is that it can cause hormone imbalance - too much estrogen or estrogen dominance. Based on what you have written, it reads like classic estrogen dominance. A good book to check out is Dr John Lee's "What your doctor may not tell you about premenopause"
Here is a link to a hormone calculator where you can do a self assesment to guage where your hormone levels are until your blood tests come back. http://www.women4balance.com/hi-hormonecalculator.php?mem...
FYI blood tests for hormones are not as accurate as saliva tests in case you want to request that from your doctor as well.

H.:

I asked my ob/gyn doctor about the emotional difference in my life in my 40s as compared to my 20s. I was much more emotional. Cry at movie, etc. that might not have bothered me in the past. He told me that our hormones change so much over time, that this is normal. I would suggest taking something for it, if it is really bad for you. That is why they make these medicines, or health foods. Good luck!

You shouldn't be having an emotional response from getting your tubes tied, that's a hormone thing, and the hormones dont stop flowing. Definately talk to your doc, he/she may want to run some tests for your hormone levels, etc.

I can't help wondering if you are experiencing grief over no longer being able to have children. Even though I had four children when I went through the procedure, I grieved the loss of that part of my life. It was something I felt obligated to do because my husband at the time wanted no more children. I kicked myself afterwards because of what I went through, that I did it for him and not for me. I had a lot of guilt about it also, since I am Catholic. It affected me deeply. Maybe going to talk to someone about it would help.

ok before my period i would get moody and then angery real bad. i started relacore the diet pill i asked my obgyn and he said sure. i felt better so much better, then i got preg and stopped taking it. im going to start taking it again. good luck.

I am glad you are going to the doctor. Tell him or her all of this. It could be the start of an early menopause.

Have you been reading my diary? I've been an emotional wreck for a year or so myself, along with some other symptoms. I just had a visit with my GYN and found out that while rare, I probably have peri-menopause! She even went so far as to prescribe a mild testostrone cream for me. I'm only 38 for crying out loud! Anyway, I'd love to know what your doctor has to say about all this. Would you mind letting me know? I'm not real crazy about taking a lot of meds either and only end up using it half of the time anyway. We can share "sob" stories if you like...

H.,
You pose a good question and while i don't have an answer, I'd like to thank you for bringing that to my attention. I had my tubes tied 2 years ago and I have noticed that I'm a bit more emotional as well but I never thought about it having to do with my tubes. Hmmmm, great question.

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It sounds to me as though you are not comfortable with your decision to have your tubes tied. The symptoms you are describing are related to depression -- and it doesn't need to be the kind you have for years. Talk it over with your minister (unless you're Catholic), go to your doctor and ask to speak to a psychologist (they can not prescribe meds but are good listeners), ask about a support group.

Once you are more at ease with this decision you'll be happier. Also, I'd ask about premenopause bloodwork, unless all of your other symptoms are still in good working order.

M.

Wow you sound like me.I am 38 years old. I have a 16 year old son and I have a 4 year old daughter. An hour after I had my daughter I had the tubal. I have been a basket case ever since. I took anti depressants on and off before but I was never this bad. Everyone says well it could be your age and your hormones or your thyroid. Well yes it could be.
I looked on line and there are websites now that tell all kinds of things that can happen after you get your tubes tied. I did not see this information when I looked it up to help me make my decision. You should pull up tubal ligation. It does say that it can cause early menopause,depression and many more things. I have talked to other people who had this procedure and they didn't have any trouble.I went to a gynecologist and told him I thought I felt this way because of my tubes and he was extremly rude. I have heard that natural progesterone cream helps. Surely there is something other than anitdepressents that can give you relief. Thank goodnes there are antidepressents they helped me before but I am like you I don't want to take them.I am sorry I don't have any answers for you. I just had to let you know you are not alone.I have to tell you the crying at american idol when you didn't even wach it, sounds just like me.lol. I start crying over a commercial that isn't even sad.I get mad very easily.
I seen several people question wether you are upset over not having anymore children. I think you would know if that was what was making you emotional. I know in my case I was 34 and I hadn't planned on any more children when I got pregnant with my daughter. I don't think tubals are worth the trouble. You can still get pregnant and you feel bad.
I only signed up for this site to give a review for a friend who sales Arbonne. I didn't think I would need it. I almost deleted todays update before I read it.I am glad I didn't. Good Luck to you! S. C

I take some natural supplements that have helped with feelings like that. I take a supplement called EstrAval. I also take vitamins and minerals. I don't know if you exercise, but the power of a 30 minute walk every day is amazing.

sounds like your hormones are all out of balance. go to the nearest health food store where you know the people attending you are educated in the matters of their products sold there. tell the owner, preferably, about your symptoms. surely she/he will recommend an herbal formula to rebalance your internal hormone levels. When this happened to me, I took something called Livatox which cleansed my liver. Then i took Evening Primrose Oil gelcapsules, along with another capsule whose name as escaped my mind at this time. The point is these formulas balanced my hormones and i've been fine ever since. By the way, I only took the combination of the three caps for the duration of about 3 weeks. Once the capsules were finished I was back to normal. Haven't had to buy them since then and that was over 10 yrs ago! I'm now 51 yrs old and NEVER have menopausal symptoms (so far)!

good luck!

denise maria

Sometimes doctors can't think out of the box- or what they've been taught. Its good ur going tho. But- if u wanna try a good progesterone cream- get Emirita brand from a health food store or online. It really helps. Use it in the morning- and before bed. If u rub in too much at bedtime it helps u sleep! It is a mood lifter as well as a help in many other areas. I'd try it before a one-size-fits-all pill approach. But go ahead and demand ur hormones and thyroid to be checked. I read somewhere that even when the results come back normal on thyroid- it doesnt mean "normal". Cuz theres like 4 kinds they should check: T2,T3,T4- ??? Not sure. But they tend to only check the same one or two. Wish u the best. J.