A.W.
I, as well, have not had a child go through any experience like this. However, a great friend of mine lost his entire left arm and his right leg, below the knee, last year in Iraq. Now, he's become a motivational speaker to amputees, as a career. He also leads a full and happy life...skiing, hunting, hiking, golfing...you name it! He's always very willing to talk to people and help them understand things better. If you would like to speak with him, to help answer your questions, I could give you his email, or maybe phone number. He lives in Maryland. Just let me know!
Angie