Apologies - Differences?

Too hard to say from the vague info given.
Depends...on a LOT.
There can be MULTIPLE reasons for apologies.

Kind of like Sybil, ya know?

I think in what you've mentioned the "I apologize" was more like "didn't mean to tick anyone off" than "I'm truly sorry for what I said and have given it much thought and have completely changed my opinion on the subject" -- a "smoothing of ruffled feathers.
I don't think there's a greater sincerity by using the words "I'm sorry for x y z" rather than "I apologize" at all. Same thing. Same meaning.

You can't DEMAND apologies--if you do, they're not sincere, most likely.

Apologies are for the giver, not the receiver...Psych 101.

Good rule of thumb:

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S orry

And mean it! Otherwise, don't bother, right?

Ok, well my brain burst into flames about half way through this but I get the gist. My guy is The King Of False Apologies.

His words are saying I'm sorry, but his TONE is saying Screw You This Is Stupid I don't Know What Your Problem is.

Then once his TONE is correct he says "I'm sorry IF I...." which is kinda like I WOULD be sorry *IF* I did something to offend but clearly the jury's still out on that fact so it's a big IF.

Poor fella, dunno how he can stand me.

Anyway, I THINK I'm agreeing with you, right?

If not, I DO apologize, and if that's not enough for you, well, whatever.....

Giggle.

:)

Some people demand apologies. I won't name any names, but there is one person on MP who has DEMANDED apologies from me NUMEROUS times.

If I ever felt so entitled to think that someone "owed" me some words - or heck - even asking for them to owe their thoughts so that I'm "satisfied" that they truly mean it - then I need to call my sponsor b/c that's all kinds of second grade screwed up.
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Seems like your SWH is demanding an apology.

Kind of reminds me of when someone says, "I'm sorry if what I said made you feel....." That's not an apology - that's turning it around on the person who is offended. If an apology is not genuine I don't take it as an apology at all.

Yeah, I get that, but you can't force a feeling from somebody. All you can do is demand certain treatment/behaviors when relating to you. Keep in mind, though, that not everybody feels the same way about those words, so some people will genuinely apologize using the word "apologize".

Especially since it's all in writing (for future reference if necessary), I would just keep it moving.

Kind of reminds of when I was a kid, and my mom would say,"now apologize to your sister." I would, but I never meant it. There was no way to make me mean it. I never FELT sorry.

If it was forced, there is no way to make her mean it. Right wrong, real, fake. She doesn't care. (Unfortunately.) Yes, it was fake. Yes, it was forced.

I never did understand baiting someone to apologize. It only makes all involved feel worse, I think.

'Whatever' doesn't even remotely suggest an apology. But asking them further to apologize, IMHO is a waste of time. If they really wanted to apologize, they'd have done it long ago.
I'd offer some kind words to the person(s) who deserve an apology, and be openly cool towards the person who couldn't find the guts to apologize.

ugh there was tis bratty kid that always hurt emmy and when his parents rarely asked him to apologize he would say "i appoogize" all cold ..he was only 3!

that wasnt part of your question anyway whenever i hear "i apologize" i think the person either lacks emotions and feels they should appologize or its fake and they are a jerk

WHATEVER! once you pass 16---doesnt your right to say that go away=)

I say take what you can get and move on.

I Apologize does sound insincere and forced when it comes after someone saying it is owed. The "Whatever" to me conveys an attitude in need of serious adjustment... so in your case, not sure I would believe the apology...

Really, though for me it is all about context and tone. It is one of things I really dislike about social media today though. It is impossible to truly tell what someone means from just their words, body language and tone of voice are a large part of the meaning of what is said and we never know what that is from the written word.

The statement "I apologize" gets interpreted by me as "Shut the hell up, I don't care".... (includes a "I'm sorry!").

I am with you "I apologize for xyz or I'm sorry for xyz" is a legitimate apology.

You explained it right. I would take it the same you did. The 'whatever' comment is very childish. And the 'I apologize' sounds like an empty offer.

it's hard to say either way but i don't believe you'll ever know the truth if it was said online and not in person. you have to hear the meaning in their voice to know. even then some a great liers and could just come across sincere. i don't think someone should have to apologize for their thoughts and opinions. yes they can be sorry that you don't agree but to say you are sorry that you feel a certain way isn't logical. we are all free to have our own thoughts and feelings and to make anyone apologize for having them just isn't fair. of course tact is always nice and understanding can go a long way but it goes both ways. everyone seems to disagree with this person but who's to say they aren't the one that's aactually not in the wrong. either way try not to take things so personally and seriously and let others have their own thoughts...it doesn't mean they think any less of you just becaue you don't agree. it's what makes us each unique.

Hi, Cheryl:
Actually, there is a way to apologize. We were taught to
Say: I apologize for..................(what it is that one is apologizing for)/
Do you accept my apology?

The offended person says, yes or no.
The offending person then asks: Do you need anything?

The offended person says what he/she needs to repair the harm done to them.

We all are affected by what people write on any social network. If we are offended, we need to share that. The offending person needs to apologize to everyone he/she offended.
Thanks for asking.
Resource: www.iirp.edu

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