Our daughter, now 16, one and only by choice.
I get the remarks, from family, and people I hardly know.
I just say our choice was the best choice for us and we are quite happy with our choice. If prodded.... I say.... I can and will provide this child with full college funding and more.... It would not be fair for me to bring another child into this world and not adequately provide for him/her to get out of college debt free and begin their adult life appropriately.
I love children, maybe that's why I teach... But I believe parents have specific obligations to give children a head start out of college debt free.
I don't believe in relying on the government to care for me or my family. Unfortunately, too many people do rely on freebies and not self motivation, self discipline and ethics.
You do what is right for you and don't worry about what people say.